So I need advice...

Simply_elle said:
A year or so ago there was this(sexy Jamaican)pilot at my job, He'd give me the eye occasionally...But nothing serious. His base got closed and he left. I'm really close to two ladies who know him are are friends with him on Facebook. I added him last week or so, and he's liked a few of my statuses...and said hello!(Sounds childish...don't judge me ahh!!) :look:


Anyway how on earth do I let him know I'm interested without seeming like a crazy brish? I'm not shy by ANY means..But this totally befuddles me! I've had a grown lady crush on this man for way too long!!!

So say you???
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You lost me at "my job". I say don't do it unless you are no longer at that job or he is gone. I know a few who had successful job "loves", but most of them are a no go and end badly.
 
Yay, crushes are fun. To answer your question, you really shouldn't have to do muh. He already messaged you "hello"... Maintain the flow of friendly conversation, if he's into you he'll do what he has to do.
 
When he sent you a 'hello' what did you reply back?
Also, the fact that YOU requested friendship on FB would already suggest to him that you are interested. You have made a move now it's up to him.
You say you know females that know him...what do they know about him, what sort of person is he? Does he have a girlfriend, wife, is he a player?
IMO if he wanted to make a move he would have done so already.
 
Bublin said:
When he sent you a 'hello' what did you reply back?
Also, the fact that YOU requested friendship on FB would already suggest to him that you are interested. You have made a move now it's up to him.
You say you know females that know him...what do they know about him, what sort of person is he? Does he have a girlfriend, wife, is he a player?
IMO if he wanted to make a move he would have done so already.
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We're currently having polite airline banter...where he's based now,ect. I've known him for three years, my two friends are fight attendants and his former co-workers. He's gotten the green light from my friends... He's shy, nerdy(read:pilot), and very single... I didn't want to be really up his arse after the hello... Ugh hate this! :-/
 
Simply_elle Dating rules state that he has to make the first move, ie ask you out. That includes shy guys...even they man up when needed to! Be careful you don't start entering the friend zone.
Aw, keep us updated.
 
I would tell him how I feel.... I hate to waste time, wait for a man to suddenly realize i'm into him ..... If I were you, I would ask for his number on facebook, call him and try to get to know him a lil more on the phone, and ask if he's interested in having dinner or lunch or coffee somewhere.

If he's interested in you, he'll ask to see you again, else... at least you tried and are not wondering what would have happened.

ETA: 5 yrs ago, I asked someone out cos I was tired of beating around d bush... Today he is my DH.... :) Good luck OP.
 
He worked hard to be a pilot, so he knows that hard work pays off. If he wanted to be with you he would be working hard too. I say let him make the advances. He's gotten all signals, now it's time for him to act.
 
Hey, guys!

We've arranged dates and whatnot...I'm inpatient!! Lo and behold He asked me to spend some time in the city...The same evening! I think his ears were burning!

Lol @ the pilot playa comment...Most I know are N.E.R.D.S.

I don't like that because a construction worker could cheat as well... And my pilot buddies are usually one walking in on the GF :perplexed

I really appreciate the advice, but does anyone else really think it's a archaic way of dating...Sitting prim hoping he notices my smoke signals?? Embry-Riddle doesn't include picking up heauxs in the curricula...LOL

Excited for my date :)
 
Simply_elle said:
Hey, guys!

We've arranged dates and whatnot...I'm inpatient!! Lo and behold He asked me to spend some time in the city...The same evening! I think his ears were burning!

Lol @ the pilot playa comment...Most I know are N.E.R.D.S.

I don't like that because a construction worker could cheat as well... And my pilot buddies are usually one walking in on the GF :perplexed

I really appreciate the advice, but does anyone else really think it's a archaic way of dating...Sitting prim hoping he notices my smoke signals?? Embry-Riddle doesn't include picking up heauxs in the curricula...LOL

Excited for my date :)
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Woohoo. Congratulations. Did he make the move of asking you out?
Aaah - all professions have their stereotypes. Different races have their stereotypes. Just go with how he treats you and how you feel.

It's not archaic to have a man make the first, initial move. He needs to feel like he is working for your time and attention....come on you've read all the advice on here and on Youtube! Sure, after the first few dates there is nothing wrong in asking him to go out but for at least the first 2 dates he should be asking you out.
 
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