So Heartbroken

(((HUGS)))

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Firstly, don't post the messages to facebook, you may think it will make you feel better but it may make things worse and more embarrassing.

All a broken heart needs to heal is time. Take some time to regroup and find comfort in your loved ones. You can bounce back from this!
 
I'm so so sorry! ((HUGS)) 8 years is a long time but it's better you found out now than after you married him.

Be the bigger person and don't post on facebook. He's just making himself look stupid by posting.

You WILL get through this!!
 
@ClassyTiffy, I'm so sorry to hear this. When my friend's hubby decided that after 15 years he didn't want to be with her and just turned her life upside down, I sent her this book and she swore she would not have survived those days without it. The reviews on it are why I got it, so maybe it will help you.

When betrayal happens, there's not much that can make you feel better except perhaps words from those who've experienced it. The author of the book experienced betrayal by her hubby when she was a SAHM with no income and was totally dependent on her hubby. She didn't even see the end coming. It was sudden; hubby came home and made an announcement that he was leaving.

You can get a digital copy of the book and download it now and start reading it...so you can start to find healing. This too will come to pass, Hun. And you know what, what goes around....

ETA: IIRC, if you create an account online on E-books.com you can buy the book and just have it online if you don't want to download it to your PC. I think Kindle can work the same. You can download the program to your PC or some smart phones and have access to your library at any time you log on.

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Wow I am so very sorry. I can't really give advice...that would be helpful at this point. Just hang out with your closest friends and accept that this relationship is over.

BIG E-HUGS!
 
(((((HUGS))))) Sorry you are going through this. 8 years is a long time to devote to someone, I'm sure you feel betrayed. Keep yourself busy and lean on your family and friends during this hard time.
 
I'm sorry to hear this. I've been through something similar, although my relationship had not been going on for 8 years. Your family is telling you to stay with him? For what? You all have been together for 8 years and are not married. That's a long time, long enough for you and them to figure out that this guy does not want to get married and be faithful. The cheating just sealed it. They should be able to understand that. It's probably not even his first time cheating, but the first time he got caught. If you no longer want to be with him or trust him, the best thing you can do is go no-contact. Then start meeting new people, spending time with friends, etc. I won't say you will get over it, but you will heal... in time.
 
Follow your own gut. Nothing hurts worse than being cheated on. But if you stay with him this probably won't be the last time.

And each betrayal hurts less and less until you start to get used to it - which is where you don't want to be.

Cherish this pain because it means you know your worth and it means your soul knows you don't deserve this.

He didn't do this because of you. He did it for his own reasons and he surely thought you'd never find out. This is not your fault. But it's a character flaw for him. The attention he got from cheating meant more to him than his commitment to you.

But this is not your fault. Nothing is wrong with you. And you are not obligated to stay with a man who would betray you.

I don't care what anyone says. If your gut tells you to move on, do it.

Nothing worse than being with a man you don't trust.

God let you see this for a reason.
 
SelahOco said:
Follow your own gut. Nothing hurts worse than being cheated on. But if you stay with him this probably won't be the last time.

And each betrayal hurts less and less until you start to get used to it - which is where you don't want to be.

Cherish this pain because it means you know your worth and it means your soul knows you don't deserve this.

He didn't do this because of you. He did it for his own reasons and he surely thought you'd never find out. This is not your fault. But it's a character flaw for him. The attention he got from cheating meant more to him than his commitment to you.

But this is not your fault. Nothing is wrong with you. And you are not obligated to stay with a man who would betray you.

I don't care what anyone says. If your gut tells you to move on, do it.

Nothing worse than being with a man you don't trust.

God let you see this for a reason.
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AMEN!!! :yep:
 
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