cocoberry10
Well-Known Member
Hi Ladies:
Short question: Do we have the right to say no to marriage (or anything else), if God wants it for us?
This is kinda hard for me to write, since I've been privately struggling with this for a while, but I thought I could share it with you all. There have been so many wonderful posts about marriage, dating and preparing yourself for marriage. I am a single woman in my early/mid 20's and I've read some of the posts. However, I'm not sure that I want to get married.
It's not a matter of it being God's will or not, because I accept God's will for me (whatever it is). Something in me makes me feel like IT IS God's will for me to get married, but over the last year, I have felt the desire to be partnered with someone leave my spirit almost entirely.
It's strange, b/c this didn't happen as the result of a bad upbringing, bad relationship or traumatic experience. I had a really good childhood, loving parents who have been married for 34 years, and most of the few men I've dated have been extremely respectful. Even the one jerk was a lot better than most guys, and I wasn't hurt by him .
I'm starting to wonder if this is Satan trying to distract me, because God really does want me to prepare myself to be a wife.
Normally, ladies are posting about not being sure if it's God's plan for them to have a mate. I guess my question is, what if you feel really strongly that it is God's plan, but you don't want it? Do we have the right to say no to marriage (or anything else), if God wants it for us?
Short question: Do we have the right to say no to marriage (or anything else), if God wants it for us?
This is kinda hard for me to write, since I've been privately struggling with this for a while, but I thought I could share it with you all. There have been so many wonderful posts about marriage, dating and preparing yourself for marriage. I am a single woman in my early/mid 20's and I've read some of the posts. However, I'm not sure that I want to get married.
It's not a matter of it being God's will or not, because I accept God's will for me (whatever it is). Something in me makes me feel like IT IS God's will for me to get married, but over the last year, I have felt the desire to be partnered with someone leave my spirit almost entirely.
It's strange, b/c this didn't happen as the result of a bad upbringing, bad relationship or traumatic experience. I had a really good childhood, loving parents who have been married for 34 years, and most of the few men I've dated have been extremely respectful. Even the one jerk was a lot better than most guys, and I wasn't hurt by him .
I'm starting to wonder if this is Satan trying to distract me, because God really does want me to prepare myself to be a wife.
Normally, ladies are posting about not being sure if it's God's plan for them to have a mate. I guess my question is, what if you feel really strongly that it is God's plan, but you don't want it? Do we have the right to say no to marriage (or anything else), if God wants it for us?
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