Nayna
Unbothered
Hola! So here's the story. My homeboy has a friend that I always thought was such a cutie but when I met him he' had a girlfriend so i stayed far away from him. Fastforward a year and I see that any time my boy wants to hang out with me he wants to tag along. I'm not slow; clearly dude is feeling me. I don't play on it though cus last I heard he had a girlfriend. Finally he makes a move. I deflect it because I'm not hearing that. He tells me that he's not with his girl anymore. I didn't believe him at first. I asked my boy but he wasn't sure. I did some digging and my efforts were fruitless so finally I consented and allowed him to take me on a date.
So we were speaking one night and I admit to him that I didn't believe him when he said he and his ex were over with. He laughs and says 'Trust me. Until I come telling you I'm engaged you have nothing to worry about.' It sooo rubbed me the wrong way and I slowly stopped talking to him. That was a few months ago and we stopped speaking not too long after the comment (I switched numbers and he claims I never gave him my new number). We ended up bumping into each other the other night and sparks were flying. We've started speaking again but I dunno. I won't lie I like him. I just didn't like that comment. For starters it tells me that you plan on plucking around on someone that's taking you serious and it also makes me feel as if you're saying that I shouldn't take you serious because it isn't me that you would ever be proposing too. So I'm preparing to cut him loose.
So ladies tell me, am I reading this wrong? I'm pretty good with reading guys. And I'm a healthy dater as in I'm dating till I meet someone I would like to be exclusive with. I just don't know this time. Maybe I just didn't like hearing it and that's what's bothering me. Or I just feel like well if you have a girl does this mean you won't say jack and just keep messing with me till you pop the question? Or does this mean exclusivity is out of the question till you're ready for marriage? I've asked him all this obviously and he says he didn't mean it like that. He had a convo with his granny who made him realize that he should date till he meets the girl he wants to marry. As you can see it's been on my mind heavy. Help, lol.
So we were speaking one night and I admit to him that I didn't believe him when he said he and his ex were over with. He laughs and says 'Trust me. Until I come telling you I'm engaged you have nothing to worry about.' It sooo rubbed me the wrong way and I slowly stopped talking to him. That was a few months ago and we stopped speaking not too long after the comment (I switched numbers and he claims I never gave him my new number). We ended up bumping into each other the other night and sparks were flying. We've started speaking again but I dunno. I won't lie I like him. I just didn't like that comment. For starters it tells me that you plan on plucking around on someone that's taking you serious and it also makes me feel as if you're saying that I shouldn't take you serious because it isn't me that you would ever be proposing too. So I'm preparing to cut him loose.
So ladies tell me, am I reading this wrong? I'm pretty good with reading guys. And I'm a healthy dater as in I'm dating till I meet someone I would like to be exclusive with. I just don't know this time. Maybe I just didn't like hearing it and that's what's bothering me. Or I just feel like well if you have a girl does this mean you won't say jack and just keep messing with me till you pop the question? Or does this mean exclusivity is out of the question till you're ready for marriage? I've asked him all this obviously and he says he didn't mean it like that. He had a convo with his granny who made him realize that he should date till he meets the girl he wants to marry. As you can see it's been on my mind heavy. Help, lol.