Hello to all my beautiful single christian sisters in the Lord.
Anyway I wanted to get the ball rolling on what seems to be a very controversial/sensitive topic, unless its new to some of you all. It is clear and biblical that dating unequally yoked/ unsaved men (with the purpose of marriage or for other reasons whatsoever aka Missionary Dating) for most christians is a no no, in which ITA!
We even have biblical guidelines given by Paul and we clearly see the effects of what being unequally yoked did to Solomon in the Old Testament.
However, I am not talking about unequally yoked/unsaved men but the kind that do believe in Christ, but have no relationship with God at the current moment, not attending church, used to go as a child but not active, not reading their word consistently/daily, etc.
Now just so my post doesn't get misconstrued in any way, I do not believe in dating anyone that is clearly not maturing in their relationship with Christ (that means backsliders, non-believer/Christian, etc). And I personally will not date nor have ever dated in my life unless I clearly see that God is guiding or leading me into a courtship in which his will for marriage is a result.
However, with the growing number of single Christian women in church and the low attendance of males these days, let's just say hypothetically speaking that there is a well rounded male candidate for marriage who believes in Christ but is not currently attending church but occasionally reads his word.
If this candidate were to approach you and express interest to you after being acquaintances/friends for some time for a serious relationship, how do you handle these kinds of situations?
Yes, I have been in these situations with only being genuinely interested in two of the guys. I admit that I used to completely ignore guys that would try to date me if I knew that they were not a Christian even though I may have liked them but I have always believed it to be compromised, so I brushed them off.
However, now that I am growing and maturing I've learned to share my faith w/ all these unsaved men that have approached me, regardless of whether I am interested in them or not.
A soul is more important to me than finding a husband, so if I given the chance I take it as opportunity to minister to them.
I have had just a couple of female friends who met their husbands while they were saved but their mates weren't at the time. Their husbands did get saved before my friends started courting them by the way and now are on fire for the Lord. However, I do see these situations as an exception though and not the reality for most christians. Most christians will and have met their mates through ministry, church, etc and both parties were already saved for the most part.
I believe that when God provides for a mate that he will be a believer and growing in his relationship w/ Christ. God is the author of marriage and if he is to orchestrate marriage, he will provide us with a leader and not someone who doesn't know where they stand in their relationship with Christ and compromises, hardly prays, etc. And yes, God can provide for a mate other than church such as at work or on the train, but he will BE SAVED!
So ladies, how do you handle these situations, keeping in mind that he is a believer and a great candidate for marriage. I am talking about a man who is mentally, physically and emotionally healthy/stable, is willing to wait, has integrity, good character, financially dependent, responsible, articulate, wise, but whose spiritual walk isn't first in his life and has taken a back seat.
Also, is it still missionary dating if the guy believes but just needs a little push to come to church?
Anyway I wanted to get the ball rolling on what seems to be a very controversial/sensitive topic, unless its new to some of you all. It is clear and biblical that dating unequally yoked/ unsaved men (with the purpose of marriage or for other reasons whatsoever aka Missionary Dating) for most christians is a no no, in which ITA!
We even have biblical guidelines given by Paul and we clearly see the effects of what being unequally yoked did to Solomon in the Old Testament.
However, I am not talking about unequally yoked/unsaved men but the kind that do believe in Christ, but have no relationship with God at the current moment, not attending church, used to go as a child but not active, not reading their word consistently/daily, etc.
Now just so my post doesn't get misconstrued in any way, I do not believe in dating anyone that is clearly not maturing in their relationship with Christ (that means backsliders, non-believer/Christian, etc). And I personally will not date nor have ever dated in my life unless I clearly see that God is guiding or leading me into a courtship in which his will for marriage is a result.
However, with the growing number of single Christian women in church and the low attendance of males these days, let's just say hypothetically speaking that there is a well rounded male candidate for marriage who believes in Christ but is not currently attending church but occasionally reads his word.
If this candidate were to approach you and express interest to you after being acquaintances/friends for some time for a serious relationship, how do you handle these kinds of situations?
Yes, I have been in these situations with only being genuinely interested in two of the guys. I admit that I used to completely ignore guys that would try to date me if I knew that they were not a Christian even though I may have liked them but I have always believed it to be compromised, so I brushed them off.
However, now that I am growing and maturing I've learned to share my faith w/ all these unsaved men that have approached me, regardless of whether I am interested in them or not.
A soul is more important to me than finding a husband, so if I given the chance I take it as opportunity to minister to them.
I have had just a couple of female friends who met their husbands while they were saved but their mates weren't at the time. Their husbands did get saved before my friends started courting them by the way and now are on fire for the Lord. However, I do see these situations as an exception though and not the reality for most christians. Most christians will and have met their mates through ministry, church, etc and both parties were already saved for the most part.
I believe that when God provides for a mate that he will be a believer and growing in his relationship w/ Christ. God is the author of marriage and if he is to orchestrate marriage, he will provide us with a leader and not someone who doesn't know where they stand in their relationship with Christ and compromises, hardly prays, etc. And yes, God can provide for a mate other than church such as at work or on the train, but he will BE SAVED!
So ladies, how do you handle these situations, keeping in mind that he is a believer and a great candidate for marriage. I am talking about a man who is mentally, physically and emotionally healthy/stable, is willing to wait, has integrity, good character, financially dependent, responsible, articulate, wise, but whose spiritual walk isn't first in his life and has taken a back seat.
Also, is it still missionary dating if the guy believes but just needs a little push to come to church?