(Sigh) Overexpecting Re. An Introduction?

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Ok y'all.... keep it real as I keep it real, ok?!

Here's what happened... one of my friends (like a lil' sis) was at a party last weekend and she met up with an acquaintance and as they conversed at the party, she told him about me and wanted to make an introduction at church (was supposed to happen today). So she says she tells him about me (including my age and a couple of other significant points) and he appears to be interested. He says he's looking for a wife, so on and so forth.

So today at church. The service concludes and my friend finds me and she begins to look for the guy. Don't see him. So I'm standing there starting to feel a little bit and then she says/non-verbalizes that we're going to look for him and I'm like and starting to feel a little desperate 'cause I'm thinking that if he was interested/curious, he would have been in the vicinity. So we begin to walk out of the sanctuary and she ends up staying behind for a meeting and so I just go on home.

As I'm driving home, I start thinking about how I could have handled the situation better. Should I have stayed around? I mean, I do have stuff to do but like I said before, if dude was interested, then wouldn't he have made the effort to be visible? I recognize that I can come off a bit abrasive (it's really a defense mechanism; the Lord is working on me that as I trust HIM, I don't have to be so defensive and just allow the Lord to protect me).

Oh yeah, I was a bit apprehensive about meeting him anyway because even though he seems like a nice guy, ha sa graduate degree and is actively looking for companionship, he's EIGHT years YOUNGER than me. EIGHT! EIGHT! Wow. I'm cool with just meeting new people and all that and being acquaintances or maybe even friends, even if all that this turns out to be, but um... wow... that EIGHT-year age difference....

Did I miss out? What could I have done better?

 

[cocoberry10]

Ok y'all.... keep it real as I keep it real, ok?!

Here's what happened... one of my friends (like a lil' sis) was at a party last weekend and she met up with an acquaintance and as they conversed at the party, she told him about me and wanted to make an introduction at church (was supposed to happen today). So she says she tells him about me (including my age and a couple of other significant points) and he appears to be interested. He says he's looking for a wife, so on and so forth.

So today at church. The service concludes and my friend finds me and she begins to look for the guy. Don't see him. So I'm standing there starting to feel a little bit and then she says/non-verbalizes that we're going to look for him and I'm like and starting to feel a little desperate 'cause I'm thinking that if he was interested/curious, he would have been in the vicinity. So we begin to walk out of the sanctuary and she ends up staying behind for a meeting and so I just go on home.

As I'm driving home, I start thinking about how I could have handled the situation better. Should I have stayed around? I mean, I do have stuff to do but like I said before, if dude was interested, then wouldn't he have made the effort to be visible? I recognize that I can come off a bit abrasive (it's really a defense mechanism; the Lord is working on me that as I trust HIM, I don't have to be so defensive and just allow the Lord to protect me).

Oh yeah, I was a bit apprehensive about meeting him anyway because even though he seems like a nice guy, ha sa graduate degree and is actively looking for companionship, he's EIGHT years YOUNGER than me. EIGHT! EIGHT! Wow. I'm cool with just meeting new people and all that and being acquaintances or maybe even friends, even if all that this turns out to be, but um... wow... that EIGHT-year age difference....

Did I miss out? What could I have done better?

Let the Holy Spirit lead you. That's right, I said it. Let the Holy Spirit lead you. Lately, the Holy Spirit has lead me to do some strange (unconventional) things. Of course, none of these contradict the word. But for our Heavenly Father, it's all about our obedience (and I meant to say OBEDIENCE)to Him and His authority. Many women who are single and independent (and of course classy gals like you RR ) become so used to doing for themselves, that they start not hearing that still small voice of the Holy Spirit. But that voice is ALWAYS there!

So, don't let your flesh lead you, let the Lord lead you. Like yesterday, the Holy Spirit lead me to text someone that I hadn't spoken to in a few months. I have no idea why, b/c the person didn't get back to me. But the voice said, "just do it," and trust me. Maybe that person needed the pick me up I sent them, and only God knows. Or God will tell me not to go somewhere, and I'll think "it's not too far from where I am, it will only take a little bit to get there." So I'll go, and I'll hit major traffic and what should have taken 5 minutes will take 50 minutes or 1 hour. So adjust yourself to God's voice, and then things will start to make sense. And even if they don't "make sense," at least you will begin to feel that peace! Sorry if this doesn't help, but hope it does!

 

[He_Leads_I_follow]

First I have to say the story made me laugh!

As I'm driving home, I start thinking about how I could have handled the situation better. Should I have stayed around?


Uhhhh ...NO! My sister, if in fact God is connecting you, you'll meet the guy another time. I wouldn't have hung around either. Perhaps he changed his mind or you just missed each other. Either way I wouldn't hang myself over it. We always think we're 10 minutes late for what God is trying to do with us. Relax sis. Your friend will call if the guy is still interested.

I mean, I do have stuff to do but like I said he's EIGHT years YOUNGER than me. EIGHT! EIGHT! Wow. I'm cool with just meeting new people and all that and being acquaintances or maybe even friends, even if all that this turns out to be, but um... wow... that EIGHT-year age difference....

Okay now this is scary! The brother in my prayer group who I have been friends with for at least 4 years has been pursing me for more than a year. Guess how old he is?!! 26! Uh huh. He's 8 years younger than I! When he first said something to me, the age thing was a HUUUGGEEE deal for both of us but I PROMISE you I actually forget there is an age difference now. We have grown so close that it doesn't matter anymore. I'm not saying that we are marriage bound which is way I have since stepped back from the relationship because I wanted to be careful . I don't beleive in dating if it's not purposed for marriage.
I'm saying all this to say, his age is unimportant. Unless of course he is not able to take care of you or mature enough to be a husband. But right now, you don't know any of that so wait and see. Be cool sis he won't be the last man looking for you.

 

[StrawberryQueen]

No I wouldn't have waited either. If he really wanted to be there to see you, he woulda made himself seen. Maybe something happened to him, but then he'll make you aware of what happened if he's that interested.

 

[dlewis]

I wouldn't not have waited.

I don't see why the age difference is a problem. My mother has been married three times and they all have been younger than her.

 

[kbragg]

I say, don't make assumptions. Maybe he got in a car accident, or his car broke down (hey, it happens OFTEN here in Dallas, so you never know). Or perhaps a family member of his died and he had to leave town on an emergency. Seriously, I say think the BEST not the worst, because I find that when I think the Worst of someone, I find out something bad happened, or a family member died and I end up feeling real salty! Then that sill small voice says "see....?" I reply "Leve me alone Lord! I know, I see!" ROFL! Seriously, always think the best or the Holy Ghost will getcha!

 

[Shimmie]

Sweetheart... STOP! Stop beating yourself up over this in the sense of 'woulda' shoulda' coulda'... Hey, you did nothing wrong. Not even your attitude was wrong or abrasive.

All first 'meetings' are apprehensive. Please....Girl, I pity the man who meets me for the first time. I may be nervous that I might 'bark' at him 'arfff" and bite his hand as he reaches out to shake my hand. But I will be a cute little Chiquaqua with pretty hair. (Just wanted you to smile ).

But here's the gist of the entire situation. You didn't miss out. What happened the way it did is what it was and you have nothing to feel blame or even shame for.

Sweetheart, remember the scripture from Hebrews "...He that will come WILL Come and will not tarry.' Well be it the man you spoke of or someone else, 'He that will come WILL COME and will not tarry."

Here's the scripture verbatim:

Hebrews 10:37

For yet a little while, and he that shall come will come, and WILL NOT TARRY.

Angel, did you notice... "For yet a little while..." Yes, in just a little while, he that shall come WILL come and will not tarry.

Ummmmm, as for the age difference. Girl, please. Almost all of my married friends is with a younger man. Ummmm (they eat their oats and honey on the regular).

Precious, Age is only "Mind over Matter"... if you don't mind, it don't matter. Most of the men who try to talk to me are younger.

Hey don't waste the Pretty...forget about what happened with this guy... your future husband is closer than it appears and your numbers won't matter one bit to him....not one bit. He will find no spot in you. Your price is far above rubies and to you he will declare, "Thou art fair, my love...fairest above all the others and I will take you for my wife forever and not waste the beauty of you.....

(((( Hugs )))))

 

[Misseyl]

Don't beat yourself up, you did the right thing. I wouldn't have gone to look for him... Whatever excuse he has, you are not interested because you weren't looking to see him anyway. IMO he seems like he's not too serious about anything.