Sick of my hair!!!!

[skegeesmb]

Man I am just about fed up with my hair. The only way I am happy with it now is up in a bun. It's getting longer, but that damn braclasp of mine seems so freaking far away. It's itchy as hell, and I just can't get the front to look good for anything. I'm just really frustrated. I'm scared of it rubbing on my shirt and I imagine little hairs catching on the back of my shirt, I have become scared to let the hair out.

Yesterday I wore my hair down, my husband was like "your hair" and I was like "what? what's wrong with it?" he says "nothing it looks nice." So I kept it down, of course with a ouchless rubberband masquerading as a bracelet. As soon as I got outside and the wind blew my hair, I put that bad boy up in an bun.

What's wrong with me? The air isn't going to kill me if I wear my hair down for one day, its getting to the point where I think I look funny with my hair down. I love looking at others with their hair out, but I freeze when it comes to wearing my own down.

The pictures I post of my hair are the only times I wear it down now-a-days. I have so many past pictures of my hair down, but it's getting harder to enjoy that luxury. Has anyone gone through the same thing? Is there any hope of getting over this hair out paranoia?

 

[DatJerseyDyme]

Umm..yeah..ITA about everything in your post..I recently realized that I don't know HOW to wear my hair down anymore.

 

[Karonica]

I'm struggling too.

I just don't want my hair anymore. I think I'm gonna have to try the phonytail thing til I climb out of this rut. I have so many different textures on my head it ain't funny.

 

[DDHair]

Hmmmm. Since I haven't achieved my goal yet, I am so unhappy when I get my hair straightened, I immediately want to put it back into a natural style under a wig or in some sort of braids. I get scared sometimes that my hair is breaking from the elements, so I want to hurry and put it up in order to retain length. I think that maybe once you meet your absloute goal or a little passed that, you will be fine.

 

[lisatamika]

It's funny you say all those things. I'm too the point where when I do get it done and have it down, I'm scared to let it blow in the wind!!!

Now I catch myself. As much time and effort as I put into taking care of my hair (as I'm sure we all do). The few times when you do decide to blow dry or wear our hair out WILL NOT hurt. True, you should protect your hair MOST of the time but in my opinion, wearing your hair in just a regular loose ponytail or some other style other than a bun, is OK.

What's the use of having long, healthy hair if nobody (not even you) ever get to see it?

Just my $.02.

 

[stacia]

Girl, first of all you have beautiful hair! I love your hair, I always look at your pictures and wish I had your hair type. I also can feel ya, girl, I can't remember the last time I wore my hair down. I'm tired of the bun but I'm afraid to let it loose too!
Just try and remember...this to shall pass!

 

[jainygirl]

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lisatamika said:
It's funny you say all those things. I'm too the point where when I do get it done and have it down, I'm scared to let it blow in the wind!!!

Now I catch myself. As much time and effort as I put into taking care of my hair (as I'm sure we all do). The few times when you do decide to blow dry or wear our hair out WILL NOT hurt. True, you should protect your hair MOST of the time but in my opinion, wearing your hair in just a regular loose ponytail or some other style other than a bun, is OK.

What's the use of having long, healthy hair if nobody (not even you) ever get to see it?

Just my $.02.

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Hey, i'm so worried about the same things mentioned about breakage and everything that i've rationalized the fact that almost no one else sees my hair most of the time by saying "well, my husband and son see it at home every once in a while"--shame, shame on me

i gotta get this "ironic torture" monkey off my back

the thing i'm liking about my self (my hair)is the thing that is making me worried half the time (my hair) ---i'm seeing some weird therapy in my future

 

[Allandra]

Girl, I hear ya. Even though I love long hair, I love wearing my hair in a bun more than I love wearing my hair down. I wore my hair down Friday from 3:00 pm until bed time. I also wore it down Saturday for about two hours. I had my clip close by to pull it right up.

 

[dontspeakdefeat]

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DatJerseyDyme said:
Umm..yeah..ITA about everything in your post..I recently realized that I don't know HOW to wear my hair down anymore.

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Ditto!

My hair is not quite as long as yours but I just can't do anything but wear it up right now. That's what I am comfortable with. Maybe it will change once I get closer to my goal.

 

[shinyblackhair]

I feel the same way as you do. I am afraid of doing some irreparable damage to my hair, just by wearing it down.

The last time I wore it down was about a month ago and I was so nervous the whole time. At home, I take it down look at it in the mirror (bad habit of mine) and then put it back up in a bun, lol...I am so wierd.

 

[inthepink]

Maybe what you can do is set aside a regular day (like once a month or so) when you'll wear your hair down and not worry about it. Then, you'll know that the very next day it's going right back up in a bun. Just relax a bit - your hair is so beautiful and healthy than it can definitely handle being down sometimes!

 

[ChasingBliss]

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shinyblackhair said:
I feel the same way as you do. I am afraid of doing some irreparable damage to my hair, just by wearing it down.

The last time I wore it down was about a month ago and I was so nervous the whole time. At home, I take it down look at it in the mirror (bad habit of mine) and then put it back up in a bun, lol...I am so wierd.

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LOL, I do the same thing too. I believe no matter what we put ourselves through, we are all reaching our goals. Just think of the reactions we get from others when they see us with our hair out every now and then. They are pleasant reminders that we are do'in the damn thing.

 

[caralexis2005]

I can totally relate to what everyone has said. Especially the keeping something close by to put it up again. I actually placed ouchless bands and seamless bobby pins in all (and i have a lot) my purses so i'm never without one. one day i lost one and someone offered me a rubberband! You would have thought the girl slapped me. I left work to go to the cvs for my bands! I thought to myself "Self, is this healthy?" But what the heck, I like my hair!

 

[asummertyme]

yeah i get the same way , i dunno if i will ever fell 100% happy with my hair, maybe when i reach my goal wich seem far away for me as well but, i do get tired of buns as well...i think i will do a weave to shake me up a little....
i need a break from same old and at the same time i will have a new style

 

[Leshia]

This post reminds me of a friend of mine. She's got bra strap length hair, maybe a little longer, and it's ALWAYS out. I watch her hair blow in the wind constantly and she claims she does this all the time. Through winter, summer and all in between. She laughs at me because she has never seen my hair down. I've determined that I'm deathly afraid to wear it down. It's so fine...it may not "survive". Isn't it unfair that some can wear their hair down every day and never seem to suffer any consequences?

 

[Allandra]

HairLove,

That's a good idea.

 

[skegeesmb]

Well you guys, I have an update. I washed my hair yesterday and I curled it with a curling iron (no flatiron, just a blowdry and curl). I went to see Gothika yesterday night and I wore my hair out. I took pictures too, so hopefully I'll be able to post them before mid-December. My husband said it looked really nice.

I took his word for it.

Today, it is back in the bun. What I've decided to do is wear it out that first day I wash it, and for holidays like Christmas, or if I am going out somewhere special. When I get to my 1st goal (which is 3 inches 4 to feel even better) then I might ease up. When I get to my second goal, I'll ease up some more, and when I reach my final goal, then I'll ease up even more.

 

[pebbles]

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DatJerseyDyme said:
Umm..yeah..ITA about everything in your post..I recently realized that I don't know HOW to wear my hair down anymore.

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Hmmm, I've gotten to that point too.

 

[aqualung]

Bunning is supposed to help when you don't feel like obsessing over hair. You're not supposed to obsess over bunning!

I'm at a busy stage with thesis/end of fall term stuff. My hair's been up in the same surge-and-vaseline bun for 2 weeks (no breaks or washing even, just moisturizing and bunning). I'm going to take some time tonight to wash and deep condition tonight.

 

[tasha]

I've been feeling the same way too skegeesmb but I rely on the fact that I've been keeping my hair healthy and I make sure I seal the ends with serum whenever I wear my hair down. I also have saved my "hair out" days to special occasions, i.e. B-Days and holidays(with no guilt).

 

[DatJerseyDyme]

You know what, I think I'll break the bun challenge (I've worn my hair down ONCE since I started in August) and wear a twist out for Thanksgiving. I'm going to wash on Wednesday night ANYWAY!

 

[Lindy]

Wow

; I guess I'm the oddball here, but I wear my hair whichever way I feel like on any given day, and I don't think twice about it when it's out!!

I wear it straight sometimes, curly sometimes, in a bun sometimes, in ponytails sometimes, in twist-outs sometimes... well... you get the picture!!

Am I the ONLY one who isn't, er... BUN-CRAZY???

 

[Crysdon]

You're not alone Lindy.

The only time I wear ponytails/buns constantly, is during humid months. I usually wear a rollerset from washday to next. If you moisturize & seal your hair properly, then you won't have to worry too much about friction from your clothes.

 

[Victorian]

I wear my hair out while I'm air drying - like today - and I'm always worried about every little hair that ends up on my shirt. It's cold so I've been wearing sweaters and stuff, so if I so much as feel a single little tug or ANYTHING in the back of my hair I start imagining all the damage I might be doing to my hair (probably not even the case though). Of course I always put it up before I go out anywhere. I'm on the bun challenge but I feel like I'll probably cheat a couple times before August. Otherwise I"m not having a problem since I'm too paranoid to let my hair down anyway

In related news, I tried a french roll on Sunday and it actually looked decent enough to wear to church

I think putting serious effort into trying new styles might keep me from getting bored or restless with my hair.

 

[CocoaCure]

I used to NEVER feel this way..........but I find myself feeling like this more and more. It's like my bun has become my "security bun" like some kind of security blanket! I guess because we DO feel secure wearing it because our hair is all moisturized and our ends have something heavy on them like Vaseline or some heavy grease (ends only) and we knowing our hair is getting loving care and no stress in the bun. BUT..............when we take it down, first thing is the heat required a lot of times....I'm scared to death now of heat! I'm going to wrap my hair tonight so I can wear it down for Thanksgiving - but just that day! That will be enough for everyone to see it, then I'll be back in my security bun!! Same thing with Christmas - I'll have it down just that one day, and then back in my security bun again! Tee Hee!

 

[skegeesmb]

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Crysdon said:
You're not alone Lindy.

The only time I wear ponytails/buns constantly, is during humid months. I usually wear a rollerset from washday to next. If you moisturize & seal your hair properly, then you won't have to worry too much about friction from your clothes.

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See that's the thing Crysdon, I'm good with moisturizing, I always have been; but now that my hair is close to bra-strap and I've retained 95% of my hairgrowth, I'm starting to get hair scared.

I never used to be that way. But I'm just scared my hair will rub up on these sweaters I wear since it's been getting cold and my hair will stay at a standstill.

 

[jainygirl]

Cardinal, i really like the protective style in your album with the braid tucked in

i'm gonna try that one out

 

[DatJerseyDyme]

I think my major problem is that the bun always looks nice, and I just don't know HOW to wear my hair down. I'd love to wear a doobie like the girls on campus, but mine never looks good for more than a few hours.

 

[Crysdon]

I totally understand Skegeesmb. I used to think that way last year until I saw this woman on the train who wears her waist length hair out everyday . If it's very cold outside, she'll have a single braid tucked into her shirt so as not to rub against her wool coat.

 

[sweetcocoa]

I know how you feel. I feel like I'm punishing my hair when I wear it down. I feel more comfortable with it up or back.