Sibling Bullying

It seems that the rate Ms Thang is going, she is going to be a handful in a few years. Things always start off little, like hitting and pinching and it can esclate into more "criminal" activity, if ya know what I mean.
 
You and the child's dad IMO will be found culpable if something happens to that child. You and especially the dad are responsible for keeping the little boy safe, period. IMO it is very neglectful for two adults to sit back and let an older, non-disabled child bully, pick on and abuse another child in the home. I don't know about an eye for an eye but the bullying must be put to a stop ASAP. Parents are supposed to love AND protect their children. Someone needs to act like an adult and put a stop to the cruelty immediately. The dad sounds very weak and not too bright. He can't figure out how to seek out professional help and keep his own disabled child safe? Where are his problem-solving skills & protective instincts?
 
Get the girl to a therapist ASAP. She might be finding it hard to deal with her mother's illness or she might have psychological issues of her own.
 
Why would the disabled child be left alone with this girl when everyone seems to know she is abusive? Keep her away from him, get her intensive therapy, and get the entire family counseling. Somebody protect that baby!!!! Most older sister's would have sympathy for their disabled little brother and if anything the problem would be her babying him, not bullying him. Something is very wrong with the girl in particular and the family as a whole.
 
Ms. Hopeful, I hear ya.

Your comments reminded me of a thing or two; i.e., some topics shouldn't be posted unless one is willing to spell out a whole lotta stuff that is really nobody's business and wouldn't be wise in cyberspace (after all most folk do not "know" each other in this medium; we're strangers, bottom line). I was seeking general info (which I since looked up after writing here and most of it was bull$$|$, stuff like get between them "let them know calling names is not allowed" - as if a parent is in front of all their children 24:7. Some parents do work while children are in school. Not that it makes a difference, to look at the little boy, or spend time with him, one would not know he is "disabled". I do not want to leave visions of a crippled, quadriplegic in a wheelchair at the mercy of the teenager.

On that note I will say this, there are some "agencies" that mean children and families no good. To be sure they may have been put into place due to a need; however, as time has shown, they currently have too large of a load to be of good assistance. Trusted guidance is being sought, by the way.
 
jdvzmommy said:
Get the girl to a therapist ASAP. She might be finding it hard to deal with her mother's illness or she might have psychological issues of her own.
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THANK YOU for your insight and not attacking the one seeking solution(s) and the family of the "victim". Sometimes it's good to get viewpoint(s) of someone not up close and personal to a situation.
 
Its possible that she is jealous of how her brother is treated. Besides therapy the parents should look into how they interact with both children and if there is any favouritism, or situations that may be perceived as such.
OP, i'll honestly say i dislike the tone of your description of this girl (calling her ms thang, alluding to her mother's mental illness, using expressions like 'the path she has chosen'), its as if she has already been placed on an evil/crazy box, and it makes me wonder if she feels that people around her think that of her.
Its also important to identify when the bullying started and what triggered it (look into whether she is being bullied herself).
 
If he cannot provide a safe environment for both of the kids, without getting DCS involved, then he needs to make a sacrifice and get that little girl out of the house. Maybe she needs some time away with some other relatives while receiving counseling for her bad behavior. Whatever the case, the little boy should not be a victim in his own home. It's not right.
 
SweetNic_JA said:
Whatever the case, the little boy should not be a victim in his own home. It's not right.
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Touche! Exact words I shared recently.

Well, ladies. Thanks for your replies. I came to ask about techniques that could be incorporated by the family (vs. getting strangers involved, Departments of the State, etc. - perhaps I should have stated that in the OP).

Again, thanks for you all's input.

Have a good evening.
 
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