chicitygirl
Well-Known Member
I don't post much, but would love some insight for this situation I'm in. Sorry it's so long but I would love to here everyone's advice. Here's the situation:
I've been dating this guy for the last four months. He's they type of guy that I thought I always wanted. Great personality, educated, career oriented, financially stable, kind, generous, funny, no kids, never been married. We go out at least once a week and have a really good time together all the time. He's 4 years older than me (I'm 26) and he's mentioned that he's ready to settle down and eventually get married and have a family. Everything would be great except for a few things:
1. I'm not sexually/physically attracted to him at all. And I don't think it's because he's unattractive to me. But it's more so that in the one sexual encounter we had, it was just terrible. And I mean bad, like there's no fixing his inexperience bad. He's not a touchy, feely person so we can go out and never touch each other and not think anything of it. We haven't even kissed since the one bad sexual experience and that was over a month ago.
2. He's an agnostic and I am a Christian. Now I know what you're thinking. You're thinking that if I was so much of a Christian then I wouldn't be having premarital sex. Well, the only thing I can so to that is that I'm far from perfect and there are a lot of things that I need to work on. That being said, I only want to have a serious relationship with someone that shares my faith because of how I would like to raise my future children and the type of religious foundation I would like to have for my marriage.
My right mind tells me that I should just break it off with him so he can find someone that he can start a long term relationship with. But I really like spending time with him and to be honest, I just like having the male attention and going on nice dates. I feel like I'm getting older and that he has most of the qualities that I have been looking for-but I don't want to settle or compromise what I know is right for me. Also, he's asked me to Hawaii with him (he's going for work and it would be an all expenses paid first class trip) and I don't want to go if I plan on breaking it off. What do you all think I should do?
I've been dating this guy for the last four months. He's they type of guy that I thought I always wanted. Great personality, educated, career oriented, financially stable, kind, generous, funny, no kids, never been married. We go out at least once a week and have a really good time together all the time. He's 4 years older than me (I'm 26) and he's mentioned that he's ready to settle down and eventually get married and have a family. Everything would be great except for a few things:
1. I'm not sexually/physically attracted to him at all. And I don't think it's because he's unattractive to me. But it's more so that in the one sexual encounter we had, it was just terrible. And I mean bad, like there's no fixing his inexperience bad. He's not a touchy, feely person so we can go out and never touch each other and not think anything of it. We haven't even kissed since the one bad sexual experience and that was over a month ago.
2. He's an agnostic and I am a Christian. Now I know what you're thinking. You're thinking that if I was so much of a Christian then I wouldn't be having premarital sex. Well, the only thing I can so to that is that I'm far from perfect and there are a lot of things that I need to work on. That being said, I only want to have a serious relationship with someone that shares my faith because of how I would like to raise my future children and the type of religious foundation I would like to have for my marriage.
My right mind tells me that I should just break it off with him so he can find someone that he can start a long term relationship with. But I really like spending time with him and to be honest, I just like having the male attention and going on nice dates. I feel like I'm getting older and that he has most of the qualities that I have been looking for-but I don't want to settle or compromise what I know is right for me. Also, he's asked me to Hawaii with him (he's going for work and it would be an all expenses paid first class trip) and I don't want to go if I plan on breaking it off. What do you all think I should do?