Loving
Well-Known Member
I'm in a bit of dilemma ladies...
I work in a very small office (please note that I am not in the US). There are 17 of us here - half of us are black, half are white. The whites of course, cling to each other (including the boss). They gossip a lot and hang out with each other on the weekends. Every Monday morning they come in with stories of what they did over the weekend.
2 of the 'whites' have gotten married recently and of course they invited the boss. He even took pictures, while he was at the wedding and sent to the entire office. I have only been here 3 years, but apparently its the tradition to invite him to weddings.
My boss and I do not have this kind of relationship. It's strictly work related between us. It's a small office, but believe me, there are days when I do not see him...and that's by choice. Don't get me wrong, he's alright (I guess) but we just don't gel together on a social level.
I am inviting 2 of my co-workers, who I am close with to my wedding. I DON'T WANT TO invite my boss...
Number 1 - I'm going to be uncomfortable with him there.
Number 2 - He might be uncomfortable there as he (and by extension his wife) are going to be the only white faces there
Number 3- I would have to invite his wife and that would mean spending extra money (we are only having about 70 guests)
Of course, this is my boss we are talking about...he pays me. Not inviting him may affect me somehow down the road, and I really do not want to lose my job or hinder my progress over this.
Another co-worker who got married 3 years ago didn't invite him. However she did not invite any one at all from the office. I'm inviting 2....
What should I do????????
I work in a very small office (please note that I am not in the US). There are 17 of us here - half of us are black, half are white. The whites of course, cling to each other (including the boss). They gossip a lot and hang out with each other on the weekends. Every Monday morning they come in with stories of what they did over the weekend.
2 of the 'whites' have gotten married recently and of course they invited the boss. He even took pictures, while he was at the wedding and sent to the entire office. I have only been here 3 years, but apparently its the tradition to invite him to weddings.
My boss and I do not have this kind of relationship. It's strictly work related between us. It's a small office, but believe me, there are days when I do not see him...and that's by choice. Don't get me wrong, he's alright (I guess) but we just don't gel together on a social level.
I am inviting 2 of my co-workers, who I am close with to my wedding. I DON'T WANT TO invite my boss...
Number 1 - I'm going to be uncomfortable with him there.
Number 2 - He might be uncomfortable there as he (and by extension his wife) are going to be the only white faces there
Number 3- I would have to invite his wife and that would mean spending extra money (we are only having about 70 guests)
Of course, this is my boss we are talking about...he pays me. Not inviting him may affect me somehow down the road, and I really do not want to lose my job or hinder my progress over this.
Another co-worker who got married 3 years ago didn't invite him. However she did not invite any one at all from the office. I'm inviting 2....
What should I do????????
he knows. He had to approve my leave and the extra 3 days that he gives for weddings.
