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So, here's the story...
About two years ago, I met this guy when I was interviewing for summer internship positions. He was a partner at the time, and I had an offer at his firm. Super nice guy and quite professional from the get go. So, after my visit to the firm, I get an email from him telling me it was nice to meet me and that he would be happy to answer any questions I may have about the firm during my decision making process. Oh, btw, I didn't actually give him my email address myself. He got it from recruiting. I didn't think anything of it because this sort of thing happens all the time during the recruiting season.
Fast forward several weeks later. I turned down his firm's offer to go to another firm. He emails me to tell me that he understands the decision and feels like I still made a great choice for a firm. Then, he asks if I wanted to meet up for a drink. I'm thinking "Huh? Uh...um...okay." He's not exactly bad on the eyes Significantly older than me, but he looks nice for his age. So we go out for a drink, and OMG, he's such a pompous A$$. I was so shocked and disappointed. I decided right then and there that I was not interested in going out with him again. He asked me out a few more times, to which I made up an excuse each time for not being able to meet him. Finally, I gave some lame excuse that I didn't feel right being so junior and dating a partner, blah, blah, blah.
Fast forward about 4 or 5 months, he emails to say "Hi" and see how I'm doing. I tell him fine. He asks me out again. I say "No."
Fast forward another 5 to 6 months...he emails again to say "Hi," tell me he's leaving for a sweet in house gig, and he asks me out again. I congratulate him and then pretty much tell him to "Go the **** away" (I say it a little nicer than that, but that's the gist).
Fast foward to about a week ago. It's been about 2 years since that first date. He emails me asking how everything's going and if I am happy at my new firm. And, of course, he asks if I'd like to catch up over a drink. I'm thinking "Wow...seriously? You're still contacting me after all this time?" So, I figure, okay, fine, whatever, I'll meet him for a drink. Besides, in the event he was a jacka$$ again, I had an easy out - work!
Well, to my surprise, he was completely different. I guess he got the message that I thought he was a complete a$$hole, and he was every bit the perfect gentleman. He even apologized for how he was on the first date. I asked him why, after nearly 2 years, he had been so persistent. He responded, "Well, I really liked you. Something about me feels alive around you. And I felt awful that you thought I was awful! So I hoped that maybe, if I kept contacting you, at some point, you'd give me another shot."
So, what do you think ladies?
On the one hand, it's kinda cute and sweet, but on the other hand, I'm thinking "Is this guy nuts???"
About two years ago, I met this guy when I was interviewing for summer internship positions. He was a partner at the time, and I had an offer at his firm. Super nice guy and quite professional from the get go. So, after my visit to the firm, I get an email from him telling me it was nice to meet me and that he would be happy to answer any questions I may have about the firm during my decision making process. Oh, btw, I didn't actually give him my email address myself. He got it from recruiting. I didn't think anything of it because this sort of thing happens all the time during the recruiting season.
Fast forward several weeks later. I turned down his firm's offer to go to another firm. He emails me to tell me that he understands the decision and feels like I still made a great choice for a firm. Then, he asks if I wanted to meet up for a drink. I'm thinking "Huh? Uh...um...okay." He's not exactly bad on the eyes Significantly older than me, but he looks nice for his age. So we go out for a drink, and OMG, he's such a pompous A$$. I was so shocked and disappointed. I decided right then and there that I was not interested in going out with him again. He asked me out a few more times, to which I made up an excuse each time for not being able to meet him. Finally, I gave some lame excuse that I didn't feel right being so junior and dating a partner, blah, blah, blah.
Fast forward about 4 or 5 months, he emails to say "Hi" and see how I'm doing. I tell him fine. He asks me out again. I say "No."
Fast forward another 5 to 6 months...he emails again to say "Hi," tell me he's leaving for a sweet in house gig, and he asks me out again. I congratulate him and then pretty much tell him to "Go the **** away" (I say it a little nicer than that, but that's the gist).
Fast foward to about a week ago. It's been about 2 years since that first date. He emails me asking how everything's going and if I am happy at my new firm. And, of course, he asks if I'd like to catch up over a drink. I'm thinking "Wow...seriously? You're still contacting me after all this time?" So, I figure, okay, fine, whatever, I'll meet him for a drink. Besides, in the event he was a jacka$$ again, I had an easy out - work!
Well, to my surprise, he was completely different. I guess he got the message that I thought he was a complete a$$hole, and he was every bit the perfect gentleman. He even apologized for how he was on the first date. I asked him why, after nearly 2 years, he had been so persistent. He responded, "Well, I really liked you. Something about me feels alive around you. And I felt awful that you thought I was awful! So I hoped that maybe, if I kept contacting you, at some point, you'd give me another shot."
So, what do you think ladies?
On the one hand, it's kinda cute and sweet, but on the other hand, I'm thinking "Is this guy nuts???"