She's calling the cops on me, for 500 or else...HELP

[AmyInAtl]

I am in such a dilema, pls help, here goes..
a dear family member was welcomed to my home. During his/her stay, they were treated, as i would have wanted to be treated in someone else's home. This person is on a fixed income, and was not charged a dime, to stay. However, when I could not furnish things they wanted, they would cash thier fixed income check (which i begged them not to, to save it, so when they left, they could have some money saved). Well the person cashed thier check and happily kept themself supplied with beer and cigarettes, a expensive habit. When going to the store, the person, would buy things, for the house, being nice, soda, chips, snacks, food on 1 occasion. Well now this person has decided to go home, and is demanding 500 dollars, or else, there will be serious hell to pay, aka he/she will call the police, call ppl's job and lie, make any call or do anything evil, in order to get the 500. I certainly cannot afford 500 bucks, and over the 2 month period, i am trying hard to count up all the nicities....i am so mentally stressed, i am considering giving the money over, even tho it's dh's, and just say i lost it, etc...........the person has made me feel like they life or death depends on the money, even 250 would be easier, they have me really scared, i have thought abt calling the police to escort them out, but because they family i wouldnt do such a thing, the person has serious mental, issues, unresolved drug abuse issues.............pls help, they want they money tomorrow, note, all the time they bought anything, they never once mentioned it as a loan, asked to be paid back, i never borrowed money..........HELP
i posted in this forum b/c i need serious spiritually directed advice...help, help, help
ps....i have all but been tortured the whole stay, but have put on a smile and been nice, b/c they are close family.....

 

[longlegz]

Options:
1. Change the locks when they leave the house.
2. Call the cops and get them to escort him/her out.

Don't ever let anyone intimiate you out of your home! Once they get the $500, who know what they bully out of you next!

 

[WomanlyCharm]

Sophiarose, I'm not sure I understand...this person has been staying with you, not paying anything, and is now demanding money? Why, what is their reasoning for this?

It sounds like this person is mentally unbalanced. You know in your heart what they are doing to you is wrong. You must be strong and say no, don't give them anything.

And her calling the police is an empty threat...she has no evidence of any wrongdoing on your part.
If anything, you should call the police to have her escorted out of your home, you have a family to protect.

I hope this helps even a little. I'll be praying for you, and please...pray for her. Sounds like she needs it.

 

[Keen]

I agree with the ladies. Change the lock and be the first to call the police. If you give in, they will do this again. Since the person said what they gave you was a loan, why don't you give them a bill for housing? If they can say that you owe them without a previous agreement, why can't you do the same? I know the person is family but family don't treat each other like you're been treated.

Like womanlycharm, a a bit confuse.

 

[lisana]

Start taping every communication you have with this person, so you will have proof that they are committing a crime, because that is what they are doing.

 

[oglorious1]

Call the police family or not...extortion is a crime...

 

[SkinnyMocah]

Tell her to go for it. Hand her the phone. No judge would award her $500 for stuff she supplied herself while she was living with you rent free.

 

[NOLA2NY]

Rose, I will definitely pray for you and the person who is taking advantage of you goodness. Based on the information you have given you owe this person nothing. I would not be concerned about their gimmick to get money from you.
Not to add to your stress, but your first move shouldn't necessarily be to change the locks. Depending on what jurisdiction (i.e. state) you reside that person may be deemed a legal tenant, even thought they aren't paying rent. This is usually determined by the amount of time a person has been allowed to stay in your home. In most jurisdictions it is 30 day period. (Ladies be careful of long term guest!) In the event they are found to be a tenant you would have to go thru the necessary eviction proceeding to legally remove this person form your home. This could be even trickier if you live in an apartment or a renter yourself. If you would like further advice PM me. The good thing about this is most guests usually don't know this caveat and making their stay just a little more miserable usually does the trick.

 

[comike]

First of all, calm down....take a deep breath. You have no reason to fret.

Secondly....laugh in their face and tell her/him to get the out of your house and find someone else to around with. She/he is making nothing but idle threats....let her/his broke try to hire a lawyer to sue you. And, if they decide to make some phone calls they are doing nothing but making themselves look like a fool and setting themselves up to be locked up. Yeah, she/he's acting crazy but crazy ain't nothing but a game.

 

[BrooklynSouth]

SophiaRose, by this time the results will be in for the situation but I have been there. A family member whom I trusted with my keys moved right on in when she was evicted. The time came when I was sick of her breaking my house rules, doing very little to help me out as she was not working and I was {like hey..can you at least defrost the freaking chicken I cooked for us??}. She threatened to call the po-po if I made her leave; I was hurt and horrified at her behavior. The solution was to find a small apartment for her and that was the way I rid myself of the intruder.

 

[Mocha5]

If this person is mentally unstable AND has drug abuse issues, call the police immediately. You are putting yourself at risk and your family. Tell them that you have a mentally unstable family member who you allowed to stay with you, rent free. And that he/she is trying to extort money from you. You're scared and you want this person escorted from the premises. That's the best advice I can give you. God wants us to be gentle as doves (which you have been) and as wise as a serpent.

Be strong, Mamacita. Whatever you to choose to do call on God and He will see you through.

 

[AmyInAtl]

I thank everyone who responded and prayed with me, on this issue of my family member, demanding money or else suffer horrible (lie) consequences. I recieved divine intervention, the person, turned the cheek and said, don't worry about it, gave me 100 dollars and bought groceries (which i really wish I had not been in the need to take, i feel , they did it, partially, for a way to say, hey i need to come back, and stay for a while). The person said they were going to travel back home (out-of-state), take care of some business, and check into the psych floor for a couple of weeks (yes, the person has many unresolved issues, that he/she carries w/ them, refuses to give things over to GOD, and consequently fuels her mental issues). She asked me leaving, "Now you sure i can come back?" I said yea (reluctantly). I am going to pray she goes to the hospital and relax and get help. Everyone, pls pray for her, i love her, she's my mom.

 

[Sasha Fierce]

I am going to pray she goes to the hospital and relax and get help. Everyone, pls pray for her, i love her, she's my mom.

I'm glad things are working out SophiaRose. This last sentence caused my heart to sink a little. All the while I was thinking it was maybe a cousin or someone closer to age that maybe you could be rough with and tell to get their act together. But being that she is your mom, I can understand how very difficult it can be. I will keep you in my prayers. Things are already starting to look up and her going to the hospital can be a positive step towards recovery.

 

[JFemme]

I thank everyone who responded and prayed with me, on this issue of my family member, demanding money or else suffer horrible (lie) consequences. I recieved divine intervention, the person, turned the cheek and said, don't worry about it, gave me 100 dollars and bought groceries (which i really wish I had not been in the need to take, i feel , they did it, partially, for a way to say, hey i need to come back, and stay for a while). The person said they were going to travel back home (out-of-state), take care of some business, and check into the psych floor for a couple of weeks (yes, the person has many unresolved issues, that he/she carries w/ them, refuses to give things over to GOD, and consequently fuels her mental issues). She asked me leaving, "Now you sure i can come back?" I said yea (reluctantly). I am going to pray she goes to the hospital and relax and get help. Everyone, pls pray for her, i love her, she's my mom.

{{hugs, chica}}