Sex Addiction?! Or...

[NitaChantell]

Hey hey hey.

I didn't wanna post this because of what people may think, but I HAVE to...I HAVE to!!

I struggle with porn, sex, masturbation and alcohol. I'm not so much ashamed of the content as I am the fact that I feel like I CAN'T stop. Sounds dumb right? Makes me hate myself sometimes. I'll pray, read, sing, then go back to the same ole thing. So please, just pray for me, and if any of you have struggled with anything and have been delivered please share. I don't want anyone to baby me, I just need prayer and I need to STOP doing the things that Jesus died for.

I also have intense demonic visions/attacks often in my sleep, and I know (or at least I think) that the two are related.

 

[Shimmie]

Hey hey hey.

I didn't wanna post this because of what people may think, but I HAVE to...I HAVE to!!

I struggle with porn, sex, masturbation and alcohol. I'm not so much ashamed of the content as I am the fact that I feel like I CAN'T stop. Sounds dumb right? Makes me hate myself sometimes. I'll pray, read, sing, then go back to the same ole thing. So please, just pray for me, and if any of you have struggled with anything and have been delivered please share. I don't want anyone to baby me, I just need prayer and I need to STOP doing the things that Jesus died for.

I also have intense demonic visions/attacks often in my sleep, and I know (or at least I think) that the two are related.

I have to commend you for your honesty and bravery to speak up. I will indeed pray for you and I will not judge you. Just know that you have already won this battle just by admitting you want to be free from this

The dreams may indeed be related to the sexual issues, however, when you have a chance, please make an appointment with your GYN and have them check your hormone levels. Often times when a woman is having her menstrual cycle her hormones fluxuate and it heightens her sexual arousal.

You may have an exceptionally high level of a hormonal imbalance going on with and without your cycle; with such a hormonal imbalance, this is when the 'enemy' steps in to take advantage of this and 'prompts' the person to seek to extend the arousal by porn, sexual encounters, etc.

The feelings of 'guilt' come in via the enemy, which can attribute to the dreams, nightmares.

There are many ways of fighting the devil at his own game, number one is knowing Jesus, and knowing one's body and how it can be prone to 'changes', and needs the intervention of adjustments in hormones, thyroid and other issues.

Let's seek God for His answers to this all around, meaning 'Spirit, Soul and Body'.

Remember: You are more than a Conqueror through Jesus Christ Our Lord.

Love and blessings..

 

[Sharpened]

Yes, I have dealt with sex, porn (visual and written), and masturbation (the last two after I got married oddly enough). Usually there is at least one underlying reason for each behavior. You have to ask yourself (you do not have to tell us) why are you doing this, what made you start in the first place, and why are you avoiding the issues?

For example, I had problems with promiscuity and I thought I had it tackled through marriage and children. All it (or should I say the spirits behind it) did was resurface in other, hidden outlets. Thanks to Him, I had the desire to advance spiritually, which meant not only facing the ugly truth of this existence, but the mental pollution in mine. I admitted to Him I got into sex in the first place because I wanted to make sure I did not despise a natural part of life. I had read and heard enough stories about females hating sex after being abused or molested as a child; I did not want my experience to ruin me in that direction.

The realization was like an invisible chain dropped from me. More chains dropped as I worked out the anger, hurt and disappointment He dredged up for me to conquer. The more I laid myself on the altar, the more He burned away the facades of sin. The more of my soul I nailed to the cross, the more I was able to see (or hear) those demonic infestation and cast them away. Today, I have to be extremely bored out of my mind to conjure a fraction of the filth that ran through my mind; even then, it feels so pointless, so I stop.

The solution is not nice, quick, or easy. Ask yourself: are you ready to sacrifice everything to be cleanse, to be broken and reshaped contrary to what you know and what the world says is OK? He is waiting...

 

[LilMissSunshine5]

NitaChantell- Thank you for being honest about where you are/what you are struggling with As a recovering alcoholic, I understand all too well that compulsion to do the very things you despise and to feel absolutely no control over your actions. I just wanted to let you know things can get better and recovery is a possibility. My drinking got so bad I felt like I couldn't hear God's voice anymore and I couldn't recognize myself in the mirror...I was spiritually bankrupt. Then a series of bad events happened that brought me to the place where I was finally willing to submit to God's will in my life. The moment I made that decision, He spoke to me clear as day and told me to go to treatment. I obeyed without hesitation (that was a FIRST) I dealt with a lot of my issues there and have been clean and sober ever since thank Jesus. God is able to heal whatever you are dealing with and I pray you have someone trustworthy to talk to about this...please know that addiction is a disease and nothing to be ashamed of! The enemy tries to use that shame to keep people in bondage. Growing in my spiritual walk and being involved in the recovery community have helped me tremendously, so feel free to message me if you want to talk or need to vent. You will definitely be in my prayers!

 

[LoveisYou]

I don't have any advice Nita, but I want to commend you for your courage and honesty! I will keep you in my prayers!

 

[MonPetite]

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[KappaChino]

Hey Sis, I don't know if this is advice as much as it is what worked for me. I struggled with masturbation for many years believing that it was harmless and at the same time satisfied a need. And I got to a point where I was addicted! I would be at work and get aroused and have to go into the restroom to relieve myself. I felt out of control! I would even stop for a while and something would trigger me and I would start again, going at it several times a day. What I found was that I needed to fill that void space of being alone with the things of God. And I'll tell you it wasn't easy, I still take each day at a time.

You really need to press your way into the presence of God. You need to cry out to him that you are struggling and want His deliverance. And He will give to you! What turned things around for me was, I thought what if Jesus was to return at this very moment and I am in bed pleasuring myself? It's those "secret sins" that will destroy us! Ask for God to give you His heart so that you get to the point where it grieves your spirit to indulge in those activities because it grieves the Holy Spirit. When you feel those urges coming on, counteract them with the Word, prayer and praise. Praise your way through and pray your way out! It can be overcome but not without the Lord's help. We are only successful to a point in and of our own strength.

Try and find out what common triggers draw you into these activities and ask God to fill them with his peace, His love, His contentment. We are bombarded all day long with images of sex and perversion, no wonder so many people (including Christians) are struggling with sexual addictions. But it is a lie from the enemy to get us off God's path for our lives. Especially when you're single because I believed that I wasn't fornicating with someone and not catching/spreading disease and I sure wasn't getting pregnant! But God showed me that I needed to find my pleasure in serving Him. It hasn't been easy but one thing for sure, I have deepened my relationship with God through it all.

Thank you for your honesty and sharing something so personal with virtual strangers, I am praying for your deliverance and a deeper walk with the Lord. Feel free to reach out to me if you just need to talk/vent or pray.

 

[BostonMaria]

I commend your honesty OP
I think this affects more women than you think, but its a taboo subject so its not talked about. Sending a big hug your way.