The first was when my hair took a five month break from growing the first five months of last year. 
I saw loads of spilt ends. I did an emergency intervention, deep condition last night.
Exactly! I have decided that self-relaxing is not worth it for me.LovelyZ said:
longhairluva said:How many setbacks have you had since you started your healthy/longhair journey. I have been on a healthy hair journey for almost a year now but I have to get in cut tomorrow because my ends are a mess and they have split up very high. I think I may even have split middles. I'm so depressed but I'll be okay. My hair grows pretty fast. I'm just so
longhairluva said:
Me too! no more self relaxing, I also lost my last hairdresser she wanted me to come for a relaxer every 5-6 weeks I waited until 9 I think she got mad at me(oh well don't care) Here I go again searching for another I am sooooo tired of these hairdressers what is wrong with some of them? Not all, but most I have encounter. I have all kind of stories, they have a way of making you feel it's you not them, so I am the reason they don't call back when you try to make an appointment(after leaving 3-4 messages on their voice mail, or they are always late, or put too strong of a relaxer in your hair and say oops next time we will use a mild on you, or don't show up or call you to tell you they are not coming in or screaming at their kids to stop while they are doing your hair, or leave the relaxer in your hair while they run to the bank or want to talk about their personal life for 30 mins before doing your hair(I AM JUST OVER IT) and this is not the same hair stylist!!!! Oh hell, it is me I just previewed my own thread people think I am a push over because I don't say anything because I am so afraid they will mess me up which they end of doing anyway. I am moving to another state!!!!Lovelylocs said:
! After that, my hair got a little bit healthier, and I retouched in March 2005. Then I thought I should stretch for a long time, which I did. It was successful at first, disastrous after that. So I got braids, because my new growth was too much. Overall, I stretched 34 weeks (Yikes!), and had my first phyto relaxer experience. It was a disaster (November 2005). It didn't take and I had 34 weeks of "underprocessed" hair. I waited 9 weeks and relaxed in early January 2006 with phyto again. It was another disaster. I will be relaxing on Saturday, and hope that I can report growth. In the meantime, I've been bunning, but I feel that a lot more hair than normal has come out of my head. Hopefully 2006 will be a better growth year than 2005!
You may just discover that you don't have to chop it off at all. As much as I am still annoyed that I ruined my hair which was in perfect condition by coloring it 
, I did learn a lot from the experience and I am really happy that I didn't cut it all off as a result. 
When my ends need to be trimmed, that one section needs to be trimmed. It doesn't spread up the hair shaft or anything. So, when I cut it, the new ends will become split and then I have to trim again. I figure that if I wait until I reach my goal, I will have to trim less. 
Does this make sense? 
I've NEVER had my hair relaxed by a professional, but I'm considering it now. I'm terrified of overlapping. My girlfriend's hair is about 2.5 inches long and she had 1.5 inches of new growth and her stylist was like some kind of mad scientist trying not to overlap. I was like dang....I want HIM! I'm nervous about having someone else do it, but unlike my mother I don't have eyes in the back of my head.Lovelylocs said:
Never again. I've had to spend hours/week chasing split ends and deep conditioning. They seem to be under control now. But I did cut off an inch or two.
Lovelylocs said:I have experienced 3 setbacks since I began my journey in 2003. My hair was thriving in the summer of 04 but in the fall, I decided to color my hair. The process itself broke the edges off and made my hair feel like yarn. Then, in summer of 05, I waited too long for a retouch and had some major breakage that thinned my hair out. I didn't do any major chops. I took care of the hair I had left, used motions CPR on my ends to try to regain as much fullness as possible and got a rinse. My hair was starting to feel as good as new. Then, I decided to self-relax. That gave me a slight set-back, but my hair is on it's way again!
Don't cut it! Just do some treatments and treat your hair really well. You will be surprised!
sareca said:Sorry about your hair. I've recently had a major set back too. I dyed my hair and it fried it. I didn't know even a temp dye could do this much damage.
