Have you ever felt that that's what you are to someone else?
That you were chosen, because something else with someone else doesn't seem to be working out?
I met a guy who said that dating is a chain of second choices... and when I stopped and thought about it, it's kinda funny (funny - interesting)
Just think - there's this couple at the top of "whatever" chain. Dude is interested in her, but she's in a relationship, so he dates someone else (second choice). There's a girl who's interested in THAT dude, but he's dating someone else, so she dates someone else. And on and on and on.
"Second Choice" sounds so negative. What about
"unforeseen opportunity"? Sure, dude didn't initially have his eye on you - it was on someone else. But then you came along and presented an opportunity that he had never considered before...
I'm definitely not leftovers, but I might be a main dish that someone's never considered before...
The question is - do you feel like that unforeseen opportunity or more like "something to do"?? If you're feeling like an unforeseen opportunity - stick it out. If you're feeling like "something to do" and you don't like the feeling, keep it moving.
Folks may not like to admit it - we date guys sometimes because we have nothing better to do, or because a particular guy presents an opportunity to do something WITH somebody (in other words - activities). Why do we act like men are any different!? And there's nothing wrong with that.
And keep in mind, there's always the flip side. Have you ever had your eye on someone in particular - and when you actually got to "taste" and "experience" that person, it just wasn't what you thought??
I dunno, there's a lot of different ways to look at the situation. The question is - how is it making you feel? If you're feeling more down then up about it, its time to move on to the next!