After 8 months of stretching I will finally be getting a relaxer. I want to go back to my old stylist because she was always really good with my hair but everytime I would go to her she would want to cut off some of my hair I know I might need a trim but I think I would prefer to do it myself a little at a time instead of a big chop at one time. She always does this and then says my hair is not even. I know this but my hair still grows out longer on one side of my head then the other. How can I tell her not to cut?