Kinky4Agirl, have you tried not using anything at all?
When that was first suggested to me at the age of 10, I thought my teacher was out of his mind. (Yes he was a guy) As far as I knew, the only way not to get dandruff and for my scalp not to itch was to grease or oil it. But I took him up on his challenge. The first day, my scalp itched something awful. But by day 2, no itches at all. I stopped applying anything to my scalp then. And over 30 years later, I still don't. (Heck, I'm crazy enough not to apply anything to my hair even! But even when I apply stuff to my hair, I focus only on my hair.)
The only thing I massage into my scalp is shampoo when washing my hair. I love gel-like shampoos not creamy ones because I feel as if creamy ones coat my scalp and I like it to be squeaky clean. When I apply conditioner, I skip the inch closest to my scalp because I don't believe conditioner, with it's coating properties, belongs on the scalp.
If I apply anything to my scalp, my scalp will itch something awful. I also know people who itch like crazy because they do not rinse conditioner off well. Our scalps do not need help moisturizing themselves. If you think they do, it's because you've gotten so used to smothering your scalp that you've made your sebaceous glands take a back seat; I mean, why should they interfere when you seem to have this down pat.
One thing you could try, is after washing your hair and getting it clean, (rinse very well so no residue of conditioner is left on scalp--even do what I do which is dunk your head in a very dilute solution of ACV and massage your scalp well), towel dry and get it dry however you normally do it. Doing this in the evening might be a good idea. If you can be daring, do this w/o any product on your hair then prepare your hair for bed and put on a plastic cap. This will encourage sebum production and when you wake up, you might be surprised at how "not dry" your scalp will feel. If baggying, I suggest you have nothing on your hair. But if you can't be that daring, then apply product to hair NOT SCALP and go to bed however you do it. If I had a sensitive scalp, I'd opt for a satin pillowcase instead of pressing my hair against my scalp with a scarf.
Just a suggestion.