blazingthru
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I had a male coworker make a comment about my hair one day...I just told him "I'm going to need you to get some business". I haven't heard anything else from him.
I had a male coworker make a comment about my hair one day...I just told him "I'm going to need you to get some business". I haven't heard anything else from him.
I don't think that was rude. It's no different than if a girl or one of us had said "Girl, why don't you get layers and side swooping bangs." It would be out opinion of what would look nice on you. It's totally different from saying "Girl, why don't you comb that ish." Don't let him upset you.
And this is OT but... what does them being black have to do with it?
Maybe... single, yes. Cute? If you think Martin L. King is cute... then yeah, he's a hunk!
Okay, so I washed my hair and conditioned it yesterday. I got up this morning and flat ironed my hair w/ my Chi iron. I was feeling good because the wind was all blowing through my hair and stuff right? So I get to work and a female (a Black woman) co-worker says how she loves my hair because I have healthy, shiney, "heavy hair" whatever that means, but it's a good thing in her book. She has naturally curly hair and hates her texture because it won't stay straight. My hair was kinda done by the wind because I never combed it back into the way I curled it. I also a permanent part in the middle of my head, so my natural part came out. So the guy's (Black and straight) standing there and says, "Why don't you cut your hair even all around and part it on the side" Isn't that rude?? I hate unsolicited advice. I don't roll over to that man at night, so what gives him the right to say that to me?? I am so pissed to say the least.
I had a male coworker make a comment about my hair one day...I just told him "I'm going to need you to get some business". I haven't heard anything else from him.
I know how you feel. I wrote a check the other day after my first shot at bantu knots and had to show my drivers license (which happens to be the best I've ever taken.) and the guy doing the transaction held my license to my face and said your hair looks better straight. I said Gee thanks, I'll be sure to change it soon as I get home. He apologized and said that he didn't mean to be rude but I thought that was pretty rude.
people like that are opening the door.....when that happens to me I carefully point out one of their flaws and incorporate that as part of the conversation.
Example: Well I havent really thought about making my hair even good idea....I see that your teeth are stained, do you drink a lot of coffee, my dentist say that that the most common cause of stained teeth next to smoking...(said smiling and gossiping like they was part of the conversation)
Hope I am not wrong for that but it does make people keep their nose where it belongs....call me mean then....
I know how you feel. I wrote a check the other day after my first shot at bantu knots and had to show my drivers license (which happens to be the best I've ever taken.) and the guy doing the transaction held my license to my face and said your hair looks better straight. I said Gee thanks, I'll be sure to change it soon as I get home. He apologized and said that he didn't mean to be rude but I thought that was pretty rude.
I came in here angry lol.
But now I don't think it was that crucial. First, he was a guy, they are real ignorant when it comes to hair. Second, he was really just giving what he thought was a friendly suggestion. That fool probably didn't even know he hurt your feelings, so just take it in stride and forget the whole thing--- it could have been worse.
I totally agree
I don't see how he was being rudelook:look: But either way I hope the OP is feeling better
Okay, so I washed my hair and conditioned it yesterday. I got up this morning and flat ironed my hair w/ my Chi iron. I was feeling good because the wind was all blowing through my hair and stuff right? So I get to work and a female (a Black woman) co-worker says how she loves my hair because I have healthy, shiney, "heavy hair" whatever that means, but it's a good thing in her book. She has naturally curly hair and hates her texture because it won't stay straight. My hair was kinda done by the wind because I never combed it back into the way I curled it. I also a permanent part in the middle of my head, so my natural part came out. So the guy's (Black and straight) standing there and says, "Why don't you cut your hair even all around and part it on the side" Isn't that rude?? I hate unsolicited advice. I don't roll over to that man at night, so what gives him the right to say that to me?? I am so pissed to say the least.
I guess it's one of those things where it depends on how exactly it was said, but reading it I didn't feel like it was a rude comment. I'm not sure how he would expect you to answer it though. You should have asked him why he doesn't cut his hair even all around and part it down the side.
Okay, so I washed my hair and conditioned it yesterday. I got up this morning and flat ironed my hair w/ my Chi iron. I was feeling good because the wind was all blowing through my hair and stuff right? So I get to work and a female (a Black woman) co-worker says how she loves my hair because I have healthy, shiney, "heavy hair" whatever that means, but it's a good thing in her book. She has naturally curly hair and hates her texture because it won't stay straight. My hair was kinda done by the wind because I never combed it back into the way I curled it. I also a permanent part in the middle of my head, so my natural part came out. So the guy's (Black and straight) standing there and says, "Why don't you cut your hair even all around and part it on the side" Isn't that rude?? I hate unsolicited advice. I don't roll over to that man at night, so what gives him the right to say that to me?? I am so pissed to say the least.
people like that are opening the door.....when that happens to me I carefully point out one of their flaws and incorporate that as part of the conversation.
Example: Well I havent really thought about making my hair even good idea....I see that your teeth are stained, do you drink a lot of coffee, my dentist say that that the most common cause of stained teeth next to smoking...(said smiling and gossiping like they was part of the conversation)
Hope I am not wrong for that but it does make people keep their nose where it belongs....call me mean then....
I know how you feel. I wrote a check the other day after my first shot at bantu knots and had to show my drivers license (which happens to be the best I've ever taken.) and the guy doing the transaction held my license to my face and said your hair looks better straight. I said Gee thanks, I'll be sure to change it soon as I get home. He apologized and said that he didn't mean to be rude but I thought that was pretty rude.