BeetleBug
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cubanit said:didnt slide pictures of essence in there.Im new to this bare with me.
All of your children are so cute!
cubanit said:didnt slide pictures of essence in there.Im new to this bare with me.
NuMe2004 said:First, I'd like to say, "Welcome Cubanit!"
Secondly, I want to say that I agree with you in that the views expressed in the article should not be considered a representation of an entire group of people. However, I do believe that every culture has their hangups in terms of skin color and hair, so you shouldn't take too strong offense to that.
I have had friends of every race, and each of them expressed to me at one point or another, their warped view of beauty. Let's face it, we live in a society that celebrates European-esque looks over ethnic looks. In the grand scheme of things, our standard of beauty has been largely shaped by a predominantly white Hollywood and images of Barbie.
My Indian, Latino, and even Asian friends have talked about their skin color issues. In addition, the term "nappy" is used even by White Americans to describe difficult to manage hair, which many consider to be the antithesis to beauty. These standards go beyond hair and skin, as one of my Asian friends has even talked about getting surgery done on her eyelids in order to give them a hooded look, which is representative of Western roots.
I can go on and on, but the point I'm trying to make is that although you and your family may not have issues with skin, hair, heritage, etc. other people do. I'm not saying everyone does, so maybe the article was throwing around generalizations. Yet, there are still a lot of folks out there who unfortunately do struggle with such issues.
You needed to come off hard, because folks were being ignorant and foolish. I'm glad you were able to explain yourself.cubanit said:Looking back. I didnt mean to come of hard.But ther were so many nasty things said in that thread I felt backed into a corner Thanks for understanding.![]()
StrawberryQueen said:You needed to come off hard, because folks were being ignorant and foolish. I'm glad you were able to explain yourself.
I don't understand why folks want to fault ALL Dominicans for thinking the way that a lot of AAs already do?![]()
StrawberryQueen said:You needed to come off hard, because folks were being ignorant and foolish. I'm glad you were able to explain yourself.
I don't understand why folks want to fault ALL Dominicans for thinking the way that a lot of AAs already do?![]()
I'm glad that I read the article. I thought it was quite interesting,more so because I recognized many of the opinions that were expressed. I've heard many Black Americans saying the same things, or WORSE about our hair & skin color. "N***a hair", "cuca-bug hair", "blue gums", "you got a lotta nerve, with your ugly black a$$", "good grade of hair", "I got some Indian in my family, so I got that good hair"....etc. You've heard it, I've heard it, and I still hear these things to this day. We all know perfectly well, if someone calls you BLACK (like it's a accusation or something), they're trying go for your jugular vein. It's not meant as a compliment.
But of course, not all Black Americans feel this way, so it's reasonable to assume that not all Latinos (Dominican or otherwise) feel this way.
Welcome Cubanit, and thank you for sharing your point of view.
-Dona Flor
Welcome Cubanit! I'm sure your money won't go to waste here.
I don't think anyone was generalizing the whole nation. Or single DR out. It's just that the article was about DR, so I see how it could have seemed that way.
But I see how it could be misleading for those people who have never been around many Dominicans.
But as someone who has been around lots Dominicans, white, black and in between...it pretty much matches up with what I've seen and what I've been told.