Honey Bee
Well-Known Member
I keep hearing about terrible perming experiences, like having to leave it on until it burned so badly that you cried, or scabs on scalps, etc. My question is:
What on earth were you doing?!?
I've had a perm, on and off, but mostly on, since I was 10. I never got burns on my scalp, or cried from the pain, or any of those horror stories. My hair never fell out due to the perming process.
I'm asking because, for a hair board hosting both relaxed and natural ladies, there seems to be a lot of misinformation floating around about a chemical process most of us have tried at least once. A compendium of horror stories might prove useful to newbies, or people considering relaxing.
I understand that caring for processed hair (bleached, relaxed, whatever) is a chore at which many fail, including myself, but that's a different topic. So, this is the format, and I'll start it off.
What's your hair type?
Still don't really know, I think 4 a (that's ball-point pen, spring-sized curls, right?).
When did you get your first perm?
Age 10.
Did you get it done by a professional (whether at home or the salon), or a family member/friend? If you chose the latter, were they familiar with the process?
A family friend who seemed to know what she was doing, since my mother let her do it. After that, my mother did it most of the time, but occasionally, I would do it myself, or let the Dominicans do it.
Lye or no-lye? Did you ever switch?
No-lye, always.
On average, did you follow the instructions? or did you add stuff, leave it on longer, etc?
I followed the instructions and left it on the exact amount of time recommended for my hair type.
On average, was your hair in good shape? Were you dc'ing, sleeping in a silk scarf, doing all the right stuff?
Yes and no. I vaguely recall dc'ing, but it was rare, and I slept in a cotton bandana. So, no, my hair was basically stumbling along.
Please share your horror stories, and what you think contributed to them.
None. It never grew past APL, due to substandard maintenance on my part, but not the perm itself.
What are you doing with your hair now?
I'm transitioning to texlaxed, so I can wash and go.
What on earth were you doing?!?
I've had a perm, on and off, but mostly on, since I was 10. I never got burns on my scalp, or cried from the pain, or any of those horror stories. My hair never fell out due to the perming process.
I'm asking because, for a hair board hosting both relaxed and natural ladies, there seems to be a lot of misinformation floating around about a chemical process most of us have tried at least once. A compendium of horror stories might prove useful to newbies, or people considering relaxing.
I understand that caring for processed hair (bleached, relaxed, whatever) is a chore at which many fail, including myself, but that's a different topic. So, this is the format, and I'll start it off.
What's your hair type?
Still don't really know, I think 4 a (that's ball-point pen, spring-sized curls, right?).
When did you get your first perm?
Age 10.
Did you get it done by a professional (whether at home or the salon), or a family member/friend? If you chose the latter, were they familiar with the process?
A family friend who seemed to know what she was doing, since my mother let her do it. After that, my mother did it most of the time, but occasionally, I would do it myself, or let the Dominicans do it.
Lye or no-lye? Did you ever switch?
No-lye, always.
On average, did you follow the instructions? or did you add stuff, leave it on longer, etc?
I followed the instructions and left it on the exact amount of time recommended for my hair type.
On average, was your hair in good shape? Were you dc'ing, sleeping in a silk scarf, doing all the right stuff?
Yes and no. I vaguely recall dc'ing, but it was rare, and I slept in a cotton bandana. So, no, my hair was basically stumbling along.
Please share your horror stories, and what you think contributed to them.
None. It never grew past APL, due to substandard maintenance on my part, but not the perm itself.
What are you doing with your hair now?
I'm transitioning to texlaxed, so I can wash and go.
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