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belldandy
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You're not tripping. I get that too. I am not natural but I do WnG's and my hair gets really BIG if i dont put product in it (im texlaxed) and in fact I enjoy wearing my hair like this. Many people think I am natural when I wear it like that.
I noticed that I get compliments from older men (im talking 50+) younger black guys look at me in awe but they get intimidated. I get a lot of non-blacks commenting as well. Older black ladies ask me if its all mine and when I tell them they either tell me its pretty or try to tell me to tie it up half jokingly.
Now do I get taken more seriously? I dont think so...well I am gonna say if a guy is trying to get my number, they don't "hey shorty" me but I get a lot of those when I wear my hair straight. Maybe they do think you're more serious
congrats on finishing first year. it is usually the weed out year for many majors
I noticed that I get compliments from older men (im talking 50+) younger black guys look at me in awe but they get intimidated. I get a lot of non-blacks commenting as well. Older black ladies ask me if its all mine and when I tell them they either tell me its pretty or try to tell me to tie it up half jokingly.
Now do I get taken more seriously? I dont think so...well I am gonna say if a guy is trying to get my number, they don't "hey shorty" me but I get a lot of those when I wear my hair straight. Maybe they do think you're more serious
congrats on finishing first year. it is usually the weed out year for many majors
Curly Lee
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Yes! The older guys love me! My friends stay roasting me because I get so many of the older workers at our schoolI noticed that I get compliments from older men (im talking 50+) younger black guys look at me in awe but they get intimidated...
Now do I get taken more seriously? I dont think so...well I am gonna say if a guy is trying to get my number, they don't "hey shorty" me but I get a lot of those when I wear my hair straight. Maybe they do think you're more serious
But thats what I mean, I don't get the "Ayye shawty can I get yo number" types. That equates to serious for me, at least in some sense I guess...Thanks girl! Two more finals to go and I'm out of this joint! lolcongrats on finishing first year. it is usually the weed out year for many majors
SouthernStunner
My 13yr old Men
No offense to you OP but maybe its your age (young 19-24) but at my age (older that 20something 
) but I dont get the hey shorty. I have read alot of naturals seem to think that they dont attract the young immature type that dont know how to approach a woman. I handle myself like a woman, walk with my head held high but not smelling myself just confident, and most of all I am not loud. I 90% of the time attract the type of male who is respectful to a woman. I draw into me what I want. Now dont get me wrong there are a few that act like they fell and bumped their heads but they starghten up quick once I speak to them.
Hair is important to most but lets face it, it is not the entire package. Oh and I am a relaxed head but on a one year stretch.
) but I dont get the hey shorty. I have read alot of naturals seem to think that they dont attract the young immature type that dont know how to approach a woman. I handle myself like a woman, walk with my head held high but not smelling myself just confident, and most of all I am not loud. I 90% of the time attract the type of male who is respectful to a woman. I draw into me what I want. Now dont get me wrong there are a few that act like they fell and bumped their heads but they starghten up quick once I speak to them.Hair is important to most but lets face it, it is not the entire package. Oh and I am a relaxed head but on a one year stretch.
Curly Lee
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No offense to you OP but maybe its your age (young 19-24) but at my age (older that 20something
Hair is important to most but lets face it, it is not the entire package. Oh and I am a relaxed head but on a one year stretch.
Yeah you're probably right about the age thing, you being elderly and me being young would effect how men approach us. And trust I know how to carry myself like a lady, and I know that when you carry yourself with respect you will receive it. But I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about a strictly physical and visual perspective. Before men get to know your personality or even see how well you carry yourself, they SEE you. And they have preconceived notions of your visual appearance. For example if I was scantily clad, men would see me as a "promiscuous girl" and treat me as such. So my point is that I feel that men treat me differently with my natural hair, and seeing as nothing about my appearance or the way I carry myself has changed I'm assuming that it has something to do with the values people attribute to women with natural hair.
SouthernStunner
My 13yr old Men
I dont normally jump to assumptions so I will just ask was that suppose to be funny? If so that was a major fail, if you didnt mean it as harsh as it sound then you really should review what you type prior to posting, and finally if what you said you really meant I will just say that 35 is no where near being elderly and I will end the conversation right here.
Many Blessings,
Eritreladiee
New Member
seriously
I think this is a case of wrong word choice. OP, I know you meant nothing by it and meant to say older, but folks are sensitive round here. It's bad enough you're saying that you pull better quality men with your natural hair.. Anyway, just wanted to add my 2 cents
I think this is a case of wrong word choice. OP, I know you meant nothing by it and meant to say older, but folks are sensitive round here. It's bad enough you're saying that you pull better quality men with your natural hair.. Anyway, just wanted to add my 2 cents
exoticmommie
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*exits thread*
Are these boys from your school approaching you randomly and complimenting you while you walk through campus or in your classes or at club meetings? Or are they doing these things at more social environments like clubs/parties/bars?
In my experience, no, I can't relate. I'd be lucky to get eye contact from a guy on this campus.
In my experience, no, I can't relate. I'd be lucky to get eye contact from a guy on this campus.
ConstantlyDynamic
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oh there is definitely a difference. it's all about perceptions. there are certain stereotypes associated with natural hair so of course when women rock their natural hair, people see them in a certain way. all of the natural haired girls on my campus are viewed as being proud of their blackness, serious, and get the most attention from guys, black and non-black. i'm not saying these stereotypes are true but we can't deny that people are biased in their interactions with others and do have preconceived notions of how the other person will act. i say this because there are plenty of permed women on my campus who fit those stereotypes and naturals who don't but generally, i can tell that people are influenced by these "character assessments".
age DEFINITELY plays a factor. i agree. when i was relaxed, i was the same person (i'm more mature now but i mean that i carried myself in the same way-my mother always taught me to behave like a lady) but i still got mainly idiots (on the street) who thought they could cat call me and that i'd come running to them smh. now that i'm natural, i get oggled but never cat-called. they either stare or they come up to me properly. i don't think the OP meant anything against permed women. i think she is just talking about how people allow certain stereotypes to dictate how they interact with others. i understand where you are coming from but i feel like you represent the majority of black women because you are permed so the men don't have specific views about who you are. you are kind of a blank slate to them. for me, as a natural, men automatically assume that they know me. i've been called a militant black feminist (i love black but i'm not exactly militant with it) which is not me at all so people are definitely looking at my hair and making assumptions about me
age DEFINITELY plays a factor. i agree. when i was relaxed, i was the same person (i'm more mature now but i mean that i carried myself in the same way-my mother always taught me to behave like a lady) but i still got mainly idiots (on the street) who thought they could cat call me and that i'd come running to them smh. now that i'm natural, i get oggled but never cat-called. they either stare or they come up to me properly. i don't think the OP meant anything against permed women. i think she is just talking about how people allow certain stereotypes to dictate how they interact with others. i understand where you are coming from but i feel like you represent the majority of black women because you are permed so the men don't have specific views about who you are. you are kind of a blank slate to them. for me, as a natural, men automatically assume that they know me. i've been called a militant black feminist (i love black but i'm not exactly militant with it) which is not me at all so people are definitely looking at my hair and making assumptions about me
belldandy
New Member
I am just going to say, that when I wear my hair straight I get people telling me I look like I am 18. I am 25.
I can definately tell a difference in the way people as a whole react towards me based on how I wear my hair, to the point where it is so extreme that its ridiculous. It does not have anything to do with how I carry myself. I have heard my brothers talk about women's hair (locked and natural women being a little more serious) they seem to assume a women with locks or an afro is more "on point" or has her life more in order
I can definately tell a difference in the way people as a whole react towards me based on how I wear my hair, to the point where it is so extreme that its ridiculous. It does not have anything to do with how I carry myself. I have heard my brothers talk about women's hair (locked and natural women being a little more serious) they seem to assume a women with locks or an afro is more "on point" or has her life more in order
MarieB
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@ this! I just caught the tail-end of that movie this morning! I'm 'bout to cry laughing at that gif!
Curly Lee
Well-Known Member
Oh okay I know a few people who go to Howard and have natural hair. They said it's fine but natural hair is kinda "in" there so....
But I go to a PWI in North Carolina. You don't find that white people like/are interested in your hair?
tHENATuRALhAiRpRoJEcT
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lmao!.............
tHENATuRALhAiRpRoJEcT
Well-Known Member
i agree
i also did this thread on another site and the woman aren't being honest with themselves
men do react to us differently based on hair, style, perceived age, clothing (scantily clad) all types of ish
i'm natural & before now i always thought natural hair divas were those AFRO-CENTRIC type women, lol
so DEEP. that perhaps they go to poetic readings NITELY & snap their fingers instead of clapping
i fingered somehow they were all more closely connected to the MOTHER LAND than "i"! = ALL BASED ON MY PRIOR IGNORANCES lmao
now i'm natural...i do feel alot stronger (can't explain it, more like nicc don't try me) but i'm just as silly as before
it's weird how hair evokes different emotion
yeahisaidit
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SignatureBeauty
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LMAO!! CurlyLee, this "ELDERLY" is gonna get you in trouble girl, Lol!!
My Elderly *** always hook em! LOL!! J/k CurlyLee!
But I understand what you are saying though!
My Elderly *** always hook em! LOL!! J/k CurlyLee!
But I understand what you are saying though!
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