Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

SmilingElephant said:
I think about stuff like this. Black men want our support so bad...but they don't want to support us. Not all of them...but I hate hearing stuff like this.
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Black women don't support each other either, outside of the internet community of naturals blacks young and old have something to say about natural hair that isn't 3a/b. Most black women are still relaxed or wear their hair straight 24/7, most still don't like kinks, so comments like that are the norm.
 
shawnyblazes said:
Outside of hair forums and blogs, there are people in the dark about what our hair is and can do.

I swear just because you are mixed does not mean your hair will be " curly ". Some people do not realize all curls comes in different shapes and sizes.

My neighbor is half Puerto Rican. She asked me why her hair doesn't look like mine with the most serious look I have ever seen. She then proceeds to say , " Oh ,all those products you use make it curly."

What product do you know that makes someones hair curly??? O_oI only tell people my ethnic background if it comes up within a conversation about cultures.
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Yup, as I was saying, outside of the internet community the ignorance is still high. A white woman at work is trying to figure out how I get my buns slicked back so shiny and wavy and I'm only black. She's a pale blonde grey eyed white woman with a dark skinned black boyfriend with 2 dark skinned daughter's with kinky hair. She thinks if my "regular ol black self" can get my hair to do that her mixed daughters can. Um no, that's not their texture and if you had so much issue with it not being "silky enough" and them not being light enough you should have had children with a white male. She was just saying last week how she was mad/jealous because her boyfriends cousin (black woman) and her black husband had their baby and she has hazel eyes and curly hair. That woman is a mess, it really angers her that her daughters don't look stereotypically biracial. I feel bad for those little girls
 
naija24 said:
screw this. i'm still big chopping.
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My good friend had a dude like that. She burned her BSL length hair and heat damaged it tryna keep it straight for him.....he's gone now....she's finally recovered from the heat damage. She has a new man who loves her for herself and not how her hair looks.

Here is a picture of my friend's 100% natural hair..... All I can say is "the struggle is real" because dude had mad problems with her hair. Mmnph....no comment...... :(

Do whatever you feel is best for you and your relationship....if that's who u want to be with......I STRESS THE WORD "IF".
 

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So happy to report this ladies!!

I was resting in bed five minutes ago. Woke up to my bf watchin me. He hesitates for like 3 minutes and then says the following: I am sorry for putting so much pressure on you and your hair. And for making you wear styles you loathe for my happiness...I will not like it but I will support your hair decisions.

Y'all I nearly cried. It was so cute. He's a handful but moments like this is why I love him. He plans to take several pictures of my weave before I take them down lol. Y'all were right! If he loves me, he'll deal with it. Obviously he loves me. So happy!!

Big chop is back on and with support (not permission) from my SO. But thank you everyone for your comments!! Yay e-sisterhoods!!
 
havilland said:
My good friend had a dude like that. She burned her BSL length hair and heat damaged it tryna keep it straight for him.....he's gone now....she's finally recovered from the heat damage. She has a new man who loves her for herself and not how her hair looks. Here is a picture of my friend's 100% natural hair..... All I can say is "the struggle is real" because dude had mad problems with her hair. Mmnph....no comment...... :( Do whatever you feel is best for you and your relationship....if that's who u want to be with......I STRESS THE WORD "IF".
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Your friend has beautiful hair. Glad she moved on and found someone who appreciates her hair just the way it is. It's disheartening that that some men are like this smh.
 
Finally giving my hair some TLC while I study for finals. Protein treatment then overnight deep conditioning. My hair was waaay too dry and crunchy to wait until finals week is over.
 
[USER=380627]naija24[/USER];20894767 said:
So happy to report this ladies!!

I was resting in bed five minutes ago. Woke up to my bf watchin me. He hesitates for like 3 minutes and then says the following: I am sorry for putting so much pressure on you and your hair. And for making you wear styles you loathe for my happiness...I will not like it but I will support your hair decisions.

Y'all I nearly cried. It was so cute. He's a handful but moments like this is why I love him. He plans to take several pictures of my weave before I take them down lol. Y'all were right! If he loves me, he'll deal with it. Obviously he loves me. So happy!!

Big chop is back on and with support (not permission) from my SO. But thank you everyone for your comments!! Yay e-sisterhoods!!
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I rescind my "lame" comment.
 
[USER=433059]KinksAndInk[/USER];20894773 said:
Finally giving my hair some TLC while I study for finals. Protein treatment then overnight deep conditioning. My hair was waaay too dry and crunchy to wait until finals week is over.
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Yes it is a bad idea to neglect your hair, even in a stressful time like finals. It can help take some pressure off of you to do something fun like playing in your hair. And if there's a setback with dry, crunchy tangled hair, you will be even more stressed out!
 
krissyhair said:
Yes it is a bad idea to neglect your hair, even in a stressful time like finals. It can help take some pressure off of you to do something fun like playing in your hair. And if there's a setback with dry, crunchy tangled hair, you will be even more stressed out!
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I know better. Don't know what I was thinking. I'm going to do better from now on. Thankfully the Joico started melting the tangles as soon as I put it in.
 
flyygirlll2 said:
Your friend has beautiful hair. Glad she moved on and found someone who appreciates her hair just the way it is. It's disheartening that that some men are like this smh.
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Her hair is LUSH!!! OMG..... I digress....

The funny thing is that her former dude, an African American man, had no love for her curls....now she is with a YT man and he loves her hair curly and likes it straight but prefers her curls. Either way though he could care less. He loves her for herself not her hair style choice.

Shame.....
 
I say this all the time and I'm going to keep saying it... Garnier Fructis Sleek & Shine Intensely Smooth Leave in conditioning cream is the best dayum thing since sliced bread! It leaves my hair soft and silky and the moisture lasts for days.

I've tried so many leave in conditioners and not a single one has left me wowed like this one. It's heaven in a bottle and it's only $2.99. I wish it came in a gallon size though...it's that good.
 
I'm going to wash my hair just because I got some products in the mail today. I've been trying to resist but I can't help it. I want to know if the conditioners have slip, if detangling will be a breeze and if I can m/s to wake up to soft hair in the morning. Scary the things that excite me these days. :look:
 
KinksAndInk said:
I say this all the time and I'm going to keep saying it... Garnier Fructis Sleek & Shine Intensely Smooth Leave in conditioning cream is the best dayum thing since sliced bread! It leaves my hair soft and silky and the moisture lasts for days.

I've tried so many leave in conditioners and not a single one has left me wowed like this one. It's heaven in a bottle and it's only $2.99. I wish it came in a gallon size though...it's that good.
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I love this stuff too! A little goes a long way and I'll have moisture for days. It also doesn't mess with my curl definition.
 
I'm thinking of dooing a hair care kit for my 11 year old niece. She does her hair and it is always fried. She asks me questions so I think I will put something together for her for christmas-products and written how to
 
natstar said:
I'm thinking of dooing a hair care kit for my 11 year old niece. She does her hair and it is always fried. She asks me questions so I think I will put something together for her for christmas-products and written how to
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That's a great idea. Help her put down the flat irons. I wish someone had taught me to love my curls when I was 11. I'd probably be tbl if they had.
 
A natural lady I used to follow blocked me on Instagram lol. I unfollowed cause her pics were pretty repetitive. She's got a lovely wash and go but that's all she really posted. No biggie. Just unfollow and KIM. I saw she posted a comment on another naturals page I follow and clicked on her to see if she had any different pics....Blocked!

How do you notice one out of 4,000?
 
oneastrocurlie said:
A natural lady I used to follow blocked me on Instagram lol. I unfollowed cause her pics were pretty repetitive. She's got a lovely wash and go but that's all she really posted. No biggie. Just unfollow and KIM. I saw she posted a comment on another naturals page I follow and clicked on her to see if she had any different pics....Blocked! How do you notice one out of 4,000?
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Wow... That's very strange though that out of all people following her she decided to block you. It's not like you said anything out of line to her which is what typically propels someone to do that.
 
flyygirlll2 said:
Wow... That's very strange though that out of all people following her she decided to block you. It's not like you said anything out of line to her which is what typically propels someone to do that.
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Yeah. Its very rare I comment on people's pictures I don't know or even had a convo with.
 
Its funny how my bf used to be a hater now he can't stay out of my stash trying to make his "good" hair soft and shiny. ***... They crazy...
 
oneastrocurlie said:
A natural lady I used to follow blocked me on Instagram lol. I unfollowed cause her pics were pretty repetitive. She's got a lovely wash and go but that's all she really posted. No biggie. Just unfollow and KIM. I saw she posted a comment on another naturals page I follow and clicked on her to see if she had any different pics....Blocked!

How do you notice one out of 4,000?
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oneastrocurlie i hear there is an app that tells you who unfollows you. Thats very petty of her to block you...its not that serious :nono:
 
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