Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

One of my people did me a solid by parting and ponying my hair. I had to make some minor adjustments, but the groundwork is laid and saved me about a day’s time. :clap:
 
@Napp I hate the situation you are currently in. It really sucks. I’m sorry you are going through this, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to trek through it.

Before you make any rash decisions, here are some questions you may want to ask yourself. What is your hair goal? Will getting a silk press while cutting your ends get you closer to your goal? Are you going to continue doing “low” manipulation/“protective” styles even though you find them damaging? Is starting all over better than transitioning? You said both and those are two different things. Is style more important to you than length retention right now?
 
GettingKinky said:
@Napp
I’m sorry you aren’t happy with your hair. Do you think the breakage is from friction?

How did you like the comb attachment for the dyson? I have t straightened my hair in close to 4 years, but I’m tempted to do a blowout.
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Once again, I’m answering a question not address to me. Lol

I’ve used the comb attachment. It holds on great. No problems in that department. It also dries quickly.

I didn’t blow dry my own hair. I did my mom’s. There is a learning curve. With most comb attachments you can hold your hand right behind the comb base. The Dyson’s design doesn’t allow you to do that.

I also found myself trying to put my hand lower where the filter/vent thingy is. I could not find the right hand placement nor angling of the dryer to get the hair properly straightened. So some sections came out silky and other sections with a little puff.

Like @Napp said you’d get a better blow dry with a denman or paddle brush. Throw a round brush in there too. But that is only because I haven’t tried mastering using the blow dryer for that. If I could get the right amount of tension, the Dyson comb attachment would produce awesome and quick blow drys.
 
It took me from March until last week to use up my sample bottle of Innersense Hydrating Hair Bath. I used it at the very minimum once a week. Mind you, I wash my hair anywhere from 2 to 4 times a week. Besides seborrheic dermatitis, I live on a farm/ in woods. Even if I cover my hair up, my hair will be soaked with sweat.

This stuff is so concentrated. I just bought my first full sized bottle. I probably should have gotten the liter size but I wanted to try the new AG Curl Fresh shampoo. After I made my purchase, I heard that its on the scale between AG Balance and Innersense Hydrating Hair Bath. I kind of feel like all All-purpose shampoos leave my hair feeling the same. So, they bring me no joy testing out new ones. I'm good with the AG Balance, CurlMix and the additional Innersense poo samples and few others I have. I won't be purchasing anymore until I use up my bottles.

I've made an observation. Innersense HHB cleans my scalp so well, but its detangling. It also leaves my hair super soft. I haven't tried many moisturizing shampoos, but the ones I have tried just don't clean my scalp worth a lick. My hair is fine with them though. On the other hand, cleansing conditioners with surfactants clean my scalp but do nothing for my hair.

I would love to find something I can easily get on the ground. Stuff like Design Essentials Almond and Avocado Shampoo and Mielle Pomegranate and Honey Shampoo are definitely hydrating shampoos but can't easily clean the natural sebum buildup from my scalp. Trying to see what's good quality (gently cleanses hair and scalp) in stores.
 
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Napp said:
I took out my twists because they were oily, fuzzy and tangled. It was only a week and they were tangled really badly. Then I washed and deep conditioner my hair. I tried to do a wash n go but it was late and I knew it wouldn't dry in time before I went to bed. (I refuse to sleep with wet hair) so then I washed my hair again and then blew it out with my new dyson comb attachment. My hair looks scary. I have suffered alot of damage from neglecting my hair over the last few months. I have extreme breakage.

So I lightly flattened my hair and gave myself a cut back to shoulder length. (I had some parts at APL). I think I'm going to cut some more off. I didn't know what to do with my hair. I tried braiding it for my wig but I had no energy to put them in. I settled in putting my hair back into a braid and putting on my wig cap. My hair sucks. I hate my hair. i am going to go to the salon again and get a silk press and full trim. I just need to start all over. I'm going to stay away from braids for a while. They seem to eat my ends up.

Also I noticed my ends are a different texture than my roots. Its seems like that botox I did last year did not completely revert. So now I'm pretty much transitioning which is probably why I have so much breakage. I didnt retain my length this year. It looked great at first but it really broke off once I started wearing crochet braids back to back. I'm just sick and tired of my hair.:cry3:
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I'm sorry. I used to wear crochet styles back to back and had similar issues with my hair. I had to quit them.
 
oneastrocurlie said:
New client fees are strange. Why are you charging someone an extra $10 because they haven't been to your salon before? Sounds like a cash grab.
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Its meant to stop time wasters and flakes. Most people are willing to follow through if they make an investment. That’s like deposit fees that are not refundable. That’s potential other clients appointments and money.

So, yes it’s a cash grab, but it has a purpose. Those not willing to pay move on and all is happy.
 
DVAntDany said:
Its meant to stop time wasters and flakes. Most people are willing to follow through if they make an investment. That’s like deposit fees that are not refundable. That’s potential other clients appointments and money.

So, yes it’s a cash grab, but it has a purpose. Those not willing to pay move on and all is happy.
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But a returning client can and will flake too. The new client fee isn't a deposit, it's added to your bill at the end of the appointment. This place doesn't do deposits in general.

Not sure what purpose that extra fee is serving. It's surely not a thank you for checking out my business. It's more like here's a fee for not booking with us before.
 
DVAntDany said:
@Napp I hate the situation you are currently in. It really sucks. I’m sorry you are going through this, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to trek through it.

Before you make any rash decisions, here are some questions you may want to ask yourself. What is your hair goal? Will getting a silk press while cutting your ends get you closer to your goal? Are you going to continue doing “low” manipulation/“protective” styles even though you find them damaging? Is starting all over better than transitioning? You said both and those are two different things. Is style more important to you than length retention right now?
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My goal has been TBL hair and I've been on this board for over a decade and still havent reached it. Right now my hair doesnt have a good shape. Its just a TWA. After doing a wash n go actually dont want to cut it anymore. Its already too short for my tastes. I am going to try and grow it out from here with wash n goes and see if that's a style I can stick to with as little manipulation as possible.
 
Napp said:
My goal has been TBL hair and I've been on this board for over a decade and still havent reached it. Right now my hair doesnt have a good shape. Its just a TWA. After doing a wash n go actually dont want to cut it anymore. Its already too short for my tastes. I am going to try and grow it out from here with wash n goes and see if that's a style I can stick to with as little manipulation as possible.
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You and me are so similar beyond just curl pattern. I have frequented this place on and off since I was in high school and Im 33 right now. I've grown out my hair so many times just to mess it up at my own hands. My goal since forever has been to have waist length hair in an unstretched wash and go. Prior to now, I settled on locs because I didn't think their was any easier way to long hair. I too am not satisfied with my current short hair because I don't have enough length in the front for it to look like a real style. So I have all the empathy and sympathy for what you are going through right now.

Im so glad you have a goal. If reaching TBL hair through wearing wash and gos is your main goal, then what are your micro goals/milestones/daily or consistent actions that will get you there? Hey, it never hurts to have a plan.
 
DVAntDany said:
It took me from March until last week to use up my sample bottle of Innersense Hydrating Hair Bath. I used it at the very minimum once a week. Mind you, I wash my hair anywhere from 2 to 4 times a week. Besides seborrheic dermatitis, I live on a farm/ in woods. Even if I cover my hair up, my hair will be soaked with sweat.

This stuff is so concentrated. I just bought my first full sized bottle. I probably should have gotten the liter size but I wanted to try the new AG Curl Fresh shampoo. After I made my purchase, I heard that its on the scale between AG Balance and Innersense Hydrating Hair Bath. I kind of feel like all All-purpose shampoos leave my hair feeling the same. So, they bring me no joy testing out new ones. I'm good with the AG Balance, CurlMix and the additional Innersense poo samples and few others I have. I won't be purchasing anymore until I use up my bottles.

I've made an observation. Innersense HHB cleans my scalp so well, but its detangling. It also leaves my hair super soft. I haven't tried many moisturizing shampoos, but the ones I have tried just don't clean my scalp worth a lick. My hair is fine with them though. On the other hand, cleansing conditioners with surfactants clean my scalp but do nothing for my hair.

I would love to find something I can easily get on the ground. Stuff like Design Essentials Almond and Avocado Shampoo and Mielle Pomegranate and Honey Shampoo are definitely hydrating shampoos but can't easily clean the natural sebum buildup from my scalp. Trying to see what's good quality (gently cleanses hair and scalp) in stores.
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Have you ever tried Keracare Hydrating Detangling? It’s my staple poo. Been using it since the 99 & the 2000’s. It’s cleansing, hydrating, inexpensive, and available at every beauty supply.
 
Hi
DVAntDany said:
You and me are so similar beyond just curl pattern. I have frequented this place on and off since I was in high school and Im 33 right now. I've grown out my hair so many times just to mess it up at my own hands. My goal since forever has been to have waist length hair in an unstretched wash and go. Prior to now, I settled on locs because I didn't think their was any easier way to long hair. I too am not satisfied with my current short hair because I don't have enough length in the front for it to look like a real style. So I have all the empathy and sympathy for what you are going through right now.

Im so glad you have a goal. If reaching TBL hair through wearing wash and gos is your main goal, then what are your micro goals/milestones/daily or consistent actions that will get you there? Hey, it never hurts to have a plan.
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Apart from fluffing in the mornings I won't touch my hair till wash day. So far I can get only 4-5 days out of a wash n go and my goal is 7 days. That way I can wash and DC once a week and not have to worry about my hair throughout the week. Finger detangling and styling only. I dont like being in my hair that much anymore so the less I can do it(but still care for it) the better.
 
Napp said:
Hi

Apart from fluffing in the mornings I won't touch my hair till wash day. So far I can get only 4-5 days out of a wash n go and my goal is 7 days. That way I can wash and DC once a week and not have to worry about my hair throughout the week. Finger detangling and styling only. I dont like being in my hair that much anymore so the less I can do it(but still care for it) the better.
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That definitely sounds like a plan. Are you thinking about joining the Jello Shot Gang for long lasting wash n gos?
 
DVAntDany said:
That definitely sounds like a plan. Are you thinking about joining the Jello Shot Gang for long lasting wash n gos?
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It's on my wishlist for sure. I buy expensive products every now and then but the jello shot price makes me pause when ever I try to buy it. I'm waiting for it to be on sale again
 
GettingKinky said:
I love sisterlocs. Maybe one day I will get them. How often do you get them tightened and how long does it take?
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I definitely got to this point once I felt like I did every experimental thing I wanted to do to my natural hair, so take your time.

I get my hair done every 5 or 6 weeks. 5 is preferred because my hair is super fine and I don't want to tug on my hair too much while it's grown out and accidentally pop out a loc. I never have but seeing the contrast between my loose strands and the relatively thicker loc is a touch jarring to me.

It takes me 2-3hrs on average. 2hrs on the good days.
 
imaginary said:
I definitely got to this point once I felt like I did every experimental thing I wanted to do to my natural hair, so take your time.

I get my hair done every 5 or 6 weeks. 5 is preferred because my hair is super fine and I don't want to tug on my hair too much while it's grown out and accidentally pop out a loc. I never have but seeing the contrast between my loose strands and the relatively thicker loc is a touch jarring to me.

It takes me 2-3hrs on average. 2hrs on the good days.
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Thanks. That’s a lot of maintenance- it’s pretty close to what my relaxer touch up schedule was before I learned about stretching. Are the tightening appointments expensive?
 
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