Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

Sally. said:
I'm looking for this kind of salon. I had it when I was living in a bigger city and could find a black owned Devacut-certified stylist. Can I ask how'd you find the place you go? Is it a chain? Is the stylist black?
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I found this one by on a fb friend who's also natural posting about her experience. Other times I find salons by searching instagram hashtags for example #yourcityhair or #yourcitysalon

The place isn't a chain and believe it or not the owner is a white guy. There's only 3 stylists and 2 assistants. The lady who did my hair is mixed (I think) and the other stylist is black (i think).

I know that probably sounds odd and to prove I'm not crazy going to a white man owned salon here's their IG page lol: https://www.instagram.com/evanjosephsalon/

The day of my appointment my former cousin was in there and the owner did her hair. It looked awesome.

I wish I could find a black owned salon just like this.
 
I had the strangest hair related dream last night.

I was at Beyonce's baby shower at Steve Harvey's houseo_O She had gotten a box of clay hair mask, but she didn't want them, and said I could have them if I wanted them. I was so excited to try the new products that I put them on my hair in the middle of the baby shower and sat up there with a plastic cap on my head and towel around my shoulders :look: Blue laughed at me, but dug in the box. She was impressed that the products were all natural, cruelty free, and black owned :giggle:

When it was time to rinse I got up and went to Steve's master bathroom and he followed me asking what I was doing. I told him I needed to rinse my hair, he said okay and left. So, here I am in the middle of a baby shower doing my hair. My hair detangled so easily looked amazing after I was done; everyone was so impressed :kiss3:
 
The 18th of this month made two years since I BCed my hair for the 3rd time, in 8 years of being natural. I’m feeling unsatisfactory about my hair. Don’t get me wrong I’m happy with the progress, but I had a few setbacks with African hair braiders that made me feel disappointed. I’m in that awkward stage I always hate, of not having long hair or having short hair, but my level of shrinkage makes my hair look shorter then it really is when it’s wet/unstretched. I’m shoulder length in the front and armpit in the back, which is great. I think it’s going to be at least two more years to get out of this awkward stage.
 
Sally. said:
So, yesterday I had a bit of time and wanted to only use natural products on my hair so I did 4 treatments on my hair since it had been shedding, breaking, and dry from my 2 year period of neglecting it.

I started with an avocado hot oil prepoo with my hothead for 1 hour. I then did a bentonite/kaolin clay detox for an hour, followed up with a henna treatment for 2 hours, and then deep conditioned with my Kindred Pumpkin DC mixed with the waikiki DC mask from Bellebar. I finished with a wash and go using evoo and ecostyler gel.

My hair was pretty moisturized and while my curls looked much better, they still weren't as popping as I think they can get. My hair feels soft but I actually think it's too soft. Usually, ecostyler gel keeps a strong hold on my hair, keeping my curls in tact and frizz free for at least 3 days, but this is the morning after and my hair already feels like it has no hold. I also think the hold from the gel and weight of my hair was what gave my curly hair volume (my hair is cut in a devacut). Now that my hair is weightless/feather soft, my curls just hangs lifeless. Has anybody had this problem?
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Yes. I usually have the issue when humidity is high though. Or, I don’t use a proper leave in under my gel.
 
shawnyblazes said:
@guyaneseyankee , Good morning! What is your hair routine like? Your hair is lush!
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Good morning @shawnyblazes I keep it simple. I wash on Sundays and deep condition faithfully with my hothead. I detangle with Knot Today and smooth in my diy shea butter mix. My commercial shampoos and conditioners vary as I am a product junkie. But I think the key is deep conditioning every week. I don't style my hair often I wear a puff all the time. I also genetically have thick and fast growing hair.
Thank you for the compliment.

HTH

ETA: I water my hair in the shower mid week. Not saturate but spritz and moisturize with my shea butter again (usually on Wednesday's or I co-wash if I feel my hair needs it)
 
I ve been natural for years but how come I never heard of Steampod ?? I got my hair straightened and looked beaaauutiful ,although it reverted the next morning . The results were nice though
 
I need to DC...but have nothing (commercial) in the house. Just a couple of years ago I would have just whipped something together...now I'm bout to head to the BSS....smh. I gotta do better.
 
Whew! I completely forgot how much my hair loves protein. I used to do an aphogee 2 step every month when I was natural. My hair will not accept moisture with out getting protein first. Last year I tried to stupidly step away from the 2 step and 2 minute and tried to use cheaper proteins. Since relaxing last summer I haven't used two step at all. And lately I've just been deep conditioning with no protein. My hair had been soooo dry and brittle and breaking and I couldn't figure out why. Until it hit me that I haven't done an aphogee 2 step treatment since relaxing. So I went out and bought the treatment along with a shea moisture Manuka shampoo and joico moisture balm. I did the treatment on Friday and did a good long DC. My hair is soo juicy and soft now. I tried to use cheaper products but my hair wasn't having it. So from now on I'll stick to what works for my hair. Weekly aphogee 2 minute with a DC and Sulfate free shampoo and Monthly aphogee 2 step.
 
ItsMeLilLucky said:
I don’t know why people wanna change my hair. I have to keep setting people straight. I like my hair the way it is. I don’t need to add gel or have straight hair to like my hair.
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Im with you sis ,my own mother says my natural hair look clownish and that I should always keep it twisted or braided . She only likes my hair when it’s straight. I love natural hair besides hubby loves playing with it too*wink*
 
I started using a product with cones - why? Because my hair loved it back in the day. But what have we learned so far? My hair doesn't love anything it used to. On top of the dye, it feels like straw. Doh!

So I washed with a shampoo that had coco betaine or whatever in it and then it felt even more like straw. Doh! I have the thickest DC I own - Beau Vert from Jakaela on Etsy - in my hair under a heat cap. I stuck the guilty conditioner in my guest bathroom cabinet.

As a side note, since that was a growth related conditioner, I'm thinking of giving up on growth aids and just taking the patient healthy road. I don't want anything that'll dry my hair out, change the way I treat my hair, or otherwise complicate my hair regimen. I'll revisit this thought process later.
 
I am wondering if the inversion method could help reduce or prevent grey hairs. I guess it would also depend on the nutrients in our blood and stress levels.

Now I understand why some older folks have thinning hair when it goes grey. I can pluck my few greys out easily without any pain with my fingers. Plucking the normal hairs (by accident) makes my eyes water, it hurts so much. I even plucked a grey out of my DH's eyebrow with my fingers; he barely felt the tug. A normal hair stayed put and curled from my fingernails.

Using ACV has helped my detangling game. It helps pumpkin seed oil and water work better.

I want to reach waist length mostly loose before I turn 50. I will take twist and puff breaks to keep me from cutting my hair.

I get breakage, but no split ends. I had found three reverse splits when I had started to use the Tangle Teezer Thick n Curly, but none in the last six months. Using it sporadically helps.

I think aloe is better for my scalp than my hair, but my nape seems to like it.
 
I washed my hair yesterday ,I used mielle shampoo and Dc ,Asiam leave in and double butter and A bit of palmers dry oil mixed with real monoi oil on the ends. I stretched it and blow dried it. happy with the results it looks really good .
Mielle DC only needed 10 mins to fully penetrate .
@Sharpened my grey hair look thick and stubborn
 
I took this photo, and I’m in love how coppery looking my hair is on its own. I haven’t dyed or bleached my hair in years.

I cross posted this in another forum, but I decided to darken the picture a bit just because it was looking so orange colored.
via Imgflip Meme Generator

On the occasion that I probably will want to rinse my hair red, it’ll look nice though

Sorry for my very linty shirt.
 
Welp.....*sigh*. I think my hair may be too long/thick for me to handle. Its growing fast too. Am I thrilled?....no (not today). I never had this much hair in my life. Instead of me handling IT today it handled me. So I put it in an updo and all day I felt the weight of it along with the bobby pins poking. I stared in the mirror at thinking "no...no..this cant be!" Two more inches away from Hip Length:pullhair:. I have to do something. I'm not really complaining I'm talking about my experience for the last weeks. I have to think about some options. I Will not relax or cut it. I just have to do something. Or maybe this was just a bad two weeks. Or maybe I'm just tired of dealing with it all :redface:. Oh I'm a "Debbie downer" today.
 
I Am So Blessed said:
Welp.....*sigh*. I think my hair may be too long/thick for me to handle. Its growing fast too. Am I thrilled?....no (not today). I never had this much hair in my life. Instead of me handling IT today it handled me. So I put it in an updo and all day I felt the weight of it along with the bobby pins poking. I stared in the mirror at thinking "no...no..this cant be!" Two more inches away from Hip Length:pullhair:. I have to do something. I'm not really complaining I'm talking about my experience for the last weeks. I have to think about some options. I Will not relax or cut it. I just have to do something. Or maybe this was just a bad two weeks. Or maybe I'm just tired of dealing with it all :redface:. Oh I'm a "Debbie downer" today.
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Have you considered maintaining your hair in braids? Maybe braid into 4-6 sections and make updos with those braids? Then you only have to worry about it when you take down to wash. I think Chicoro does this, though I'm not sure, but if I ever had long hair I'm positive that's what I would do. :)
 
I Am So Blessed said:
Welp.....*sigh*. I think my hair may be too long/thick for me to handle. Its growing fast too. Am I thrilled?....no (not today). I never had this much hair in my life. Instead of me handling IT today it handled me. So I put it in an updo and all day I felt the weight of it along with the bobby pins poking. I stared in the mirror at thinking "no...no..this cant be!" Two more inches away from Hip Length:pullhair:. I have to do something. I'm not really complaining I'm talking about my experience for the last weeks. I have to think about some options. I Will not relax or cut it. I just have to do something. Or maybe this was just a bad two weeks. Or maybe I'm just tired of dealing with it all :redface:. Oh I'm a "Debbie downer" today.
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sunflora said:
Have you considered maintaining your hair in braids? Maybe braid into 4-6 sections and make updos with those braids? Then you only have to worry about it when you take down to wash. I think Chicoro does this, though I'm not sure, but if I ever had long hair I'm positive that's what I would do. :)
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I agree with sunflora. It sounds like it's time for some simple twists or braids with your natural hair so you can get a rest. After a month of braids/twists you;ll actually miss it and the joyous journey will presume.
 
BronxJazzy said:
I agree with sunflora. It sounds like it's time for some simple twists or braids with your natural hair so you can get a rest. After a month of braids/twists you;ll actually miss it and the joyous journey will presume.
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sunflora said:
Have you considered maintaining your hair in braids? Maybe braid into 4-6 sections and make updos with those braids? Then you only have to worry about it when you take down to wash. I think Chicoro does this, though I'm not sure, but if I ever had long hair I'm positive that's what I would do. :)
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Thank you ladies. I do twists :look:. My hair is twisted 100% of the time.
I'm tired of detangling and separating. These cannot be avoided by any means. I get this attitude every year then it passes and I'm good after. This seems to be a pattern for every year that I'm natural.
When my first year natural ended I was overwhelmed a tiny bit then the feeling left me. After my second year ended i was really overwhelmed for a few days with 13 inches of 4B hair. Now that my third year has ended with 19-21 inches I'm like whoa...whoa! Detangling got real, real fast. The webbing effect is crazy right now. But God will give me the grace to handle it as it continues to grow. Length sneaks up on me. This has happened every year like clockwork for each new level I reach in length. In a week or so I'll be back to normal once I get use to it again.

Am I the only one that gets surprised by (seemingly sudden) length? Thanks for the good suggestions.
 
I want a wig that looks like a braid out on blown out natural hair... I’d be willing to make the wig... I just need the right hair.
 
I realize I will always have a type 2 patch of hair in the front of my head, and it breaks my heart. This patch seems to get bigger over the years. The only way I could wear my hair out curly is if I pulled the top up in a high bun. Hair is weird man
 
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