Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

I couldn't remember the last time I combed my hair, so I combed this wash day (yesterday) with my Hercules 1975. I know folks worry about the sharp ridges of this comb but I love it. Had hardly any hair in the comb at all. Most of my sheds come out with finger detangling:toocool:. It was much less of a chore than the last time.

Now I just need my hair to air dry in time for this event tomorrow:spinning:.
 
I Am So Blessed said:
If my hair looked like crap I'd wouldn't want someone to lie and tell me "its beautiful". I have seen this a few times on this forum. There's encouragement and there are lies. Tell me the truth or don't tell me nothing, its better than a lie any day.
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I haven't seen this. Idk, but maybe to the person saying it, the hair is beautiful. People have different tastes. I could be wrong.

One time I shared a video of a wng that I liked, but most others thought it was NOT the business. :lol:

Also, sometimes people are commenting about just one aspect of the hair, and not the overall style. Example: In a thread about curl definition, someone says, "Beautiful!," referring to just the curl definition, and not the styling, because that's the focus of the thread. I have a photo where I just woke up, hair is in an unstyled messy pineapple, and I got a compliment due to the definition.

Idk. I could be wrong. Maybe every so often there are people purposely lying when commenting others here? That doesn't sound like LHCF. Regardless, I'm glad I don't see that. :smile:
 
YvetteWithJoy said:
I haven't seen this. Idk, but maybe to the person saying it, the hair is beautiful. People have different tastes. I could be wrong.

One time I shared a video of a wng that I liked, but most others thought it was NOT the business. :lol:

Also, sometimes people are commenting about just one aspect of the hair, and not the overall style. Example: In a thread about curl definition, someone says, "Beautiful!," referring to just the curl definition, and not the styling, because that's the focus of the thread. I have a photo where I just woke up, hair is in an unstyled messy pineapple, and I got a compliment due to the definition.

Idk. I could be wrong. Maybe every so often there are people purposely lying when commenting others here? That doesn't sound like LHCF. Regardless, I'm glad I don't see that. :smile:
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What I mean is totally not what you mean and I get what you mean lol, but that's not where I'm at.

What I am talking about is hair that was CLEARLY damaged in every way (infallible damage). I'm not going to lie to them with a fake "your hair is beautiful".

I dont see this often, but I have seen it. That's all.
 
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@I Am So Blessed

That woman has a few videos of her ranting I think. I saw one the other day about exposing hair youtubers as scammers that was getting a lot of support. I'd never get a relaxer but I think everyone should just do what will make them the most happy in the end. I know I feel a strong sense of happiness from seeing my tiny coils. Then there's knowing I won't ever have to worry about demarcation lines, over processing, blending textures, etc.

Also, I was thinking, you should post in the Hair Inspiration forum! You always post nice photos and no one ever posts in there but me. (Oh, and don't mind me posting at 3 am either. :look: I woke up and could not fall back to sleep no matter how hard I tried. :confused:)
 
Sooooooo . . .

I'm reading a blog post about that new Palmers line, and to the right I see a link that says

"Fabulous Finger Coils Tutorial Featuring Fantasia Haircare."

I was like o_O

fantasia-.jpg

"Could it be? Fantasia got a hair line? Whaaaaaaaaat???"

So ummmm . . . yeeeeeah . . . I'm clear now (please see attached photo or linked blog post). I'm cool. :look: :lachen:

:rofl:

http://www.theglamorousgleam.com/2018/03/finger-coils-tutorial.html
 

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I don’t want to like the detangler by LuvNaturals but I have not met anything else that detangles my hair as well. Since it’s not available on the ground, the temptation to stock up is high.
 
YvetteWithJoy said:
Sooooooo . . .

I'm reading a blog post about that new Palmers line, and to the right I see a link that says

"Fabulous Finger Coils Tutorial Featuring Fantasia Haircare."

I was like o_O

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"Could it be? Fantasia got a hair line? Whaaaaaaaaat???"

So ummmm . . . yeeeeeah . . . I'm clear now (please see attached photo or linked blog post). I'm cool. :look: :lachen:

:rofl:

http://www.theglamorousgleam.com/2018/03/finger-coils-tutorial.html
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LOL. I would have thought the same as you. I’ve always known that product line as IC Fantasia.

Speaking of which, I wonder why no one uses that sparkalites gel anymore. That used to be really popular. Now it’s like it doesn’t even exist.
 
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Feeling bored with the idea of becoming more attractive lately. I guess that phase of my life is through. I think I was just focusing on minor things because I felt empty, and attaching my hopes to anything was better than that. But nice hair, better clothes, products, better skin, wealth, etc. cannot transform my emotional issues or make my life fulfilling. I don't know what can but at least I've learned what can't.

I still want nice hair but I don't feel the same about it as I did yesterday.
 
FadingDelilah said:
@I Am So Blessed

That woman has a few videos of her ranting I think. I saw one the other day about exposing hair youtubers as scammers that was getting a lot of support. I'd never get a relaxer but I think everyone should just do what will make them the most happy in the end. I know I feel a strong sense of happiness from seeing my tiny coils. Then there's knowing I won't ever have to worry about demarcation lines, over processing, blending textures, etc.

Also, I was thinking, you should post in the Hair Inspiration forum! You always post nice photos and no one ever posts in there but me. (Oh, and don't mind me posting at 3 am either. :look: I woke up and could not fall back to sleep no matter how hard I tried. :confused:)
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Thank you, I will post in that thread soon as per your request. I actually forgot about that thread. Yeah about the young ranting woman lol I agree with her actually. She makes some points. Relaxers are bullsht...and I wish I had known that sooner. Not to suggest that I don't appreciate and adore the women that relax their hair.

Eta: I was in Wal-Mart today and all the black women there had natural hair (including my Mother and I). I was ecstatic!
 
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While in Wal-Mart today I was shopping for some girl's uniform pants for my six year old niece. I saw a white mother and daughter. The Mother spoke so kind to her little one. I cross over to another isle and saw a spanish woman and her little girl conversing and enjoying shopping.

A few minutes later what do I hear? A black mom talking so down to her little girl! This little girl (about 7 years old) was walking behind her Mother and dropped something by a mistake. Her Mother turns around and yells (with a ghetto accent)"You being extra, with YO DUSTY ASS!". I was floored. My mother later said when we got in the car "that was cold blooded". I was so hurt for this little girl. How do you come out of your mouth like that to your seven year old daughter!?. I know her feelings were hurt, she walked on behind her Mother in silence and out of my view.

Life is funny because I had just witnessed the other races interactions toward each other with love... and then comes this mess.

I know it's off topic, but I don't care.
 
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FadingDelilah said:
Feeling bored with the idea of becoming more attractive lately. I guess that phase of my life is through. I think I was just focusing on minor things because I felt empty, and attaching my hopes to anything was better than that. But nice hair, better clothes, products, better skin, wealth, etc. cannot transform my emotional issues or make my life fulfilling. I don't know what can but at least I've learned what can't.

I still want nice hair but I don't feel the same about it as I did yesterday.
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I totally get what you're saying.

FWIW,
I've decided to address both without making either one a thing, or worrying about how I'm ranking them. The wisdom literature I've chosen to follow tells me that inner beauty lasts longer than outer beauty, and that inner beauty is to be prioritized. So I do that without stewing over it, and I enjoy developing both types of beauty without making them compete.

For illustration, if inner beauty gets 75% of my effort to 25% of my effort on outer beauty, then that's just it and I don't keep thinking about it. If I need to attend church but also need to do my hair, I'll prioritize church. That doesn't mean that I don't receive God's blessing of the ability to enjoy my hair, be a good steward of my personal beauty and my hair's health, etc.

For me, as a woman, feeling beautiful and being beautiful is healthy and powerful in a positive, peaceful way. It gives me a break from my "serious" inner work to learn about how to make my face present beauty to those I'm around and for myself. It is powerful to present my children, husband, little black girls in general, and people of other races with as beautiful a me as I prudently can. A glowing woman can be a healing, uplifting presence.

Any given day, I work on my inner self and outer self. Part of my inner work is freeing myself to be feminine, peacefully and freely enjoy being girly when I desire to, etc. Lol!

Sorry for the novel. I'm reaching a point where I am eliminating every unnecessary issue in my life that I possibly can. Eliminating a competition between inner and outer work allows me to be a more healthily integrated being -- in other words, to live with greater integrated-ness, I.e., integrity.
 
I Am So Blessed said:
Off Topic:
While in Wal-Mart today I was shopping for some girl's uniform pants for my six year old niece. I saw a white mother and daughter. The Mother spoke so kind to her little one. I cross over to another isle and saw a spanish woman and her little girl conversing and enjoying shopping.

A few minutes later what do I hear? A black mom talking so down to her little girl! This little girl (about 7 years old) was walking behind her Mother and dropped something by a mistake. Her Mother turns around and yells (with a ghetto accent)"You being extra, with YO DUSTY ASS!". I was floored. My mother later said when we got in the car "that was cold blooded". I was so hurt for this little girl. How do you come out of your mouth like that to your seven year old daughter!?. I know her feelings were hurt, she walked on behind her Mother in silence and out of my view.

Life is funny because I had just witnessed the other races interactions toward each other with love... and then comes this mess.

I know it's off topic, but I don't care.
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I’m a pre-k educator in a low-income area and this is what I see everyday. The way they speak to the boys is just as bad, if not worse. Who tells a four year old boy they’re acting like a Mitch because they’re sad & crying?! It’s heartbreaking the way some of us treat the most vulnerable among us.

Speaking of heartbreaking, I’m already bracing myself for my little girls to be relaxed when we get back in the classroom next week. One of my students already has massive breakage in the back third of her hair and traction alopecia across the first two inches of where her hairline SHOULD be. She’s not the only one with traction alopecia either.
Knowing what I know now about hair care, I often wonder how my girls’ hair would thrive with more frequent wash days, less heavy beads, more moisturizing products, and more water in their diet.
 
MeaWea said:
I’m a pre-k educator in a low-income area and this is what I see everyday. The way they speak to the boys is just as bad, if not worse. Who tells a four year old boy they’re acting like a Mitch because they’re sad & crying?! It’s heartbreaking the way some of us treat the most vulnerable among us.

Speaking of heartbreaking, I’m already bracing myself for my little girls to be relaxed when we get back in the classroom next week. One of my students already has massive breakage in the back third of her hair and traction alopecia across the first two inches of where her hairline SHOULD be. She’s not the only one with traction alopecia either.
Knowing what I know now about hair care, I often wonder how my girls’ hair would thrive with more frequent wash days, less heavy beads, more moisturizing products, and more water in their diet.
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So sad.
 
I would be getting my hair done for professional photos right when I have 4 dates coming up! :p I'm gonna be looking cuuuuuute, I'm so excited. :afro: I'm getting it straightened too, for the first time this year. I last wore it straight for my birthday in November and it was BSL/MBL. I'm curious how long it is now. :cool:
 
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When you're Natural and have alot of inches!!..looking at your hair as a whole is intimidating, but when you break that baby down to 8 sections eh.. it's cake. Now I may proceed.
 
ScorpioBeauty09 said:
I would be getting my hair done for professional photos right when I have 4 dates coming up! :p I'm gonna be looking cuuuuuute, I'm so excited. :afro: I'm getting it straightened too, for the first time this year. I last wore it straight for my birthday in November and it was BSL/MBL. I'm curious how long it is now. :cool:
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Girl you're cute already and please let us know your experience. Share pictures if you can!
 
My hair was so pretty yesterday as I clicked down the hall in my healed shoes and lip gloss poppin With my cotton candy like kinky hair with bangs. I had a side fluffy roll N tuck with bangs with A LOT of VOLUME. Caught my glance in a mirror I thought "look at this lil short cuttie with all this kinky fluf in her head looking like an Anime."
 
Guys is it okay to deep condition before shampoo? I hate living in the dorms because I have to hop in the shower twice :(. Should I cowash instead of the shampoo to not "remove" the deep condish? Or just stop being lazy and shampoo then deep condition?
 
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