Random Hair Thoughts/Thinking out loud

fasika said:
I'm really really bored with my hair. It's grown quite a bit the past couple of months. I haven't straightened since September 2014, so it's hard to know how long it is exactly, but in the shower, the longest strands seem to be somewhere around MBL.

The problem is that my hair texture just sucks. It's kinky, but has no real pattern. Part of it is curly, others wavy, and others just undefined. And as it gets longer, the worse the manageability gets. I just don't know what to do. I hate relaxers, but at the same time I'm tired of just wearing buns. I'm at just about 4 years since my last relaxer.
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When was the last time you had a trim or haircut? I ask because I felt the same way that you do for a long, long time. My hair looked and felt extremely fragile and unmanageable, and the "curls" resembled drunk, overcooked spaghetti. I dealt with that for a long time while constantly wondering, "Is this all there is?" because it wasn't always this way. Well, I got tired of it and recently did a drastic cut. Girl, lemme tell you...my hair feels and behaves differently - it's significantly more manageable, no longer fragile and the curls look different (more ringlets and spirals, and no more limp wet noodles). I did a braid-out after the cut and was surprised to receive soft, defined, fluffy hair (I had big hair for the first time in me life; those limp noodles never gave me anything more than flat frizzy wriggles). I am very pleased. Simply put, I wrote all of that BS just to say that I highly recommend that you get a trim and assess things from there.
 
PJaye said:
When was the last time you had a trim or haircut? I ask because I felt the same way that you do for a long, long time. My hair looked and felt extremely fragile and unmanageable, and the "curls" resembled drunk, overcooked spaghetti. I dealt with that for a long time while constantly wondering, "Is this all there is?" because it wasn't always this way. Well, I got tired of it and recently did a drastic cut. Girl, lemme tell you...my hair feels and behaves differently - it's significantly more manageable, no longer fragile and the curls look different (more ringlets and spirals, and no more limp wet noodles). I did a braid-out after the cut and was surprised to receive soft, defined, fluffy hair (I had big hair for the first time in me life; those limp noodles never gave me anything more than flat frizzy wriggles). I am very pleased. Simply put, I wrote all of that BS just to say that I highly recommend that you get a trim and assess things from there.
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I cannot remember the last time I had it professionally done. Either August or September 2014. I've been wanting to do so for a while, but finances don't allow right now. You're right, my hair needs a proper cut. I've been doing dustings at home 2-3 times a year, but it's clearly not enough right now. I don't want to go too short, but I'm ok with cutting to BSL or something like that. So 2, maybe 3''?

I'll wait until I get a professional haircut before making any decisions. Thanks for reminding me!
 
fasika said:
I cannot remember the last time I had it professionally done. Either August or September 2014. I've been wanting to do so for a while, but finances don't allow right now. You're right, my hair needs a proper cut. I've been doing dustings at home 2-3 times a year, but it's clearly not enough right now. I don't want to go too short, but I'm ok with cutting to BSL or something like that. So 2, maybe 3''?

I'll wait until I get a professional haircut before making any decisions. Thanks for reminding me!
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My pleasure, just paying it forward. I was dissatisfied for a long time and tried a multitude of things before cutting. Although I don't recommend a drastic cut like I did, a good trim might do the trick. I just thought I would share my experiences and let you know that you're not alone.
 
I should just stick to what I know works. I know that CR almond jai twisting butter is the best product for a perfect twist and curl...why must I continue to experiment? Smh.
 
An hour under the dryer and 12 EFFIN HOURS of air drying and my hair still isn't dry.

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llan said:
African black soap worked wonders for my eczema. Just thought Id share. May try shampooing with it too. (diluted) I dont understand how it manages to be both drying and moisturising at the same time. ?!
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I use Dudu-Osun for my face. My face is dry but I have light and dark areas I am trying to tone. It works very well, but on my real skin, like body.... I walk the streets scratching like a crack-fiend with crabs. I mean, at least you know Im clean, but ive given that stuff up on anything other that my face.
 
fasika said:
I cannot remember the last time I had it professionally done. Either August or September 2014. I've been wanting to do so for a while, but finances don't allow right now. You're right, my hair needs a proper cut. I've been doing dustings at home 2-3 times a year, but it's clearly not enough right now. I don't want to go too short, but I'm ok with cutting to BSL or something like that. So 2, maybe 3''?

I'll wait until I get a professional haircut before making any decisions. Thanks for reminding me!
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I had this same reality check last summer. Got a DevaCut in the fall and I was all better. I also started working in sections so my definition would be better...best thing I ever did for my natural hair!
 
KinksAndInk said:
Took the long way to CVS so I could low key stalk the mail lady. :sekret:She's supposed to have my 3 Honey's Hamdmade orders. Where you at with the goods Ethel?!
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Ethel did not deliver the goods. :angry2:According to USPS my packages are floating on the abyss. Left Opa Locka 2 days ago and then apparently they fell off the face of the earth. Let them not have an update tomorrow...:censored::censored:
 
bajandoc86 said:
@KidneyBean86

What method did you use to blow dry? I have fine stranded 4b hair that loves to tangle and Reniece's method works wonders for me. Before learning how do to do it I avoided blowdrying like the plague as I always ended up with tangled dry hair that felt like hay + breakage :nono:.



Hope this helps.
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Thank you for this. I was just thinking about her blow dry technique. I'm going to give it a try this weekend.
 
i am glad to be a source of inspiration..but having someone call me and asking me to get on my laptop while she is on the other end of the phone to help her order a wig is too much...this person is going to be drama...i am still ill from chemo and i have to do this...get out of here... just pick one that you like or might look good in..choose the quanity color and click..read the disclaimer accept the terms and pay...Twingurl thinks she is going to ask me to pay for it....i think not...depending how i am feeling i won't answer any calls...thank goodness for this app..if you aren't in my contact list...you go straight to voice mail. check this..i even sent her text and she can't get it...i know i sound awful...every time i speak or am friendly..these are the kind of folks i attract..
 
I remember my bang was above my eyebrows. I just got done moisturizing my hair and my bang is like mid boob length stretched. Idk why lately I'm just noticing growth. I swear I'm bald lol. Probably because my hair is low-mid density, it doesn't seem like much. A good sum of my family has fine and low density hair. Oh well. I can't wait to reach waist length
 
I think I'm addicted to deep conditioners. I love me a good deep conditioner! But why are so many of them butter based?

I've been wearing my puff a lot and I guess that has now prompted my mother to note that a lot of naturals wear their hair in a puff....she's just now noticing this. I thought that was so cute lol.
 
KinksAndInk said:
Trying to decide if I need more deep conditioners. I have 16 and possibly 2-4 more coming in the mail. Maybe 5. :look: I'm thinking about getting 5-6 more. *sigh*
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I only have 3 deep conditioners right now but I have 13 on my list... probably going to get all of them in the next few months even though I'm still going through like 20 rinse out conditioners :lol:
 
mzteaze said:
Are they back ups?. How do you rotate thru so many DCs?
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There are some backups. I have 11 or 12 different types. 7 or 8 have backups...ummm I may have miscounted lol. I may have 20ish. 7 are store bought so they won't be used for a while. I'm focusing on my handmade ones for now. There are only 3 handmade ones and 1 store bought open at the moment so it's not hard to rotate through them. My SM DCs tend to be used as a prepoo, cowash, detangler, dc leave in and styler so I tend to go through those faster. Spring/summer I dc a lot more 2-3 times a week so I will probably be down to 4-5 by fall.
 
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