Question - What Happenned?

Please dont get more started....i try to believe life is cruel not God...but then i wonder why would God create such a rough life why are some so fortunate and others are not. I dont know its life so continue to have your faith in God and hopefully.this is just a minor lesson in life hopefully you will find a new job. In fact im sure you will. Be blessed because one thing i know for sure it does get better:)

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Sometimes, "failure" teaches us lots of lessons we wouldn't normally learn if we sailed through life. Really no one can answer the questions for you. Is there a God, why is this happining. I have been and am currently going through some of the most difficult things I have EVER gone through in my entire life. But I do know one thing in my heart, if I didn't have God in my life, they would be a lot worse. I pray that you get some of the answers you seek.
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Hi. I had a situation happen that has caused me to question whether God is real. Here it is -

Months ago, I left my well-paying job of three years to pursue another job. One that I felt God had led me to. I prayed on it a lot before making the decision. I felt I was doing what He wanted me to do, even though others discouraged me.

So, I leave the well-paying job and move to another city to an entirely different career. Then one obstacle after another at my new job. Each time I cast it off as the devil trying to take my new job away. Then the ultimate worst thing happens. I lose my job after exploding at one of my colleagues. Never has this happenned before in my professional life.

For years I've had a temper, but it's never been present in the working world. This was the first time. I am confused. Why didn't I stay at my previous job? It was good money. I was secure. I was there for 3 years with no problems. But the second, I move to a new job I felt God had led me to, things go awry. And now I don't have the job anymore.

Is this some kind of sick joke? I know I have a temper, and that's something I've been praying to Him about before all of this. It was something I was working on in my personal life. If I wasn't ready for this job or it wasn't for me, why did He lead me there?

Can you all convince me that our God is real? That He didn't lead me into a place where He knew I would fail? I can't imagine a God that is cruel.

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I'm sorry you lost the job...

Darlin' God is VERY real... More real than anything in this life will ever be; more real than the temporary challenge which you are facing.

I don't have the answers as to why this happen, but I know that God will bring you through all of this and with more wisdom and strength than you've ever had before.

As humans, we make decisions in this life. Even when we 'pray on it', we still make decisions which seem 'right' to us. One thing for sure is that God is never going to leave you nor forsake you no matter what. He will always be there with and for you.

Hmmmm, :scratchch: Okay, I'm going to share what I 'think' [key word: 'think'] has happened.

Perhaps God was trying to 'calm' you and then backed away only to allow you to see what needed to be addressed in your life which has been suppressed.

Many times He will do this because He is developing us for a more responsible role that He has planned for us and the 'old' temperment needs to be adjusted -- dealt with -- removed from our spirit.

Perhaps it's God's protection, that it's better that it occurred now than later when it would really 'cost' you even more. Perhaps a relationship, not just another job position, perhaps a Ministry where your gift in leadership will require temperance.

I don't believe that God lead you there to 'lose' your temper / lose the job. God is not the reason that this happened...you made a human mistake that He wants to set you free from, because He loves you and has a special place for you to give Him honour as only you can.

God still loves you, He loves you so very , very much. He's not going to allow anyone to disparage you or hold you back from His blessings for you. You will not be left in the 'cold'. Just continue to love Him and allow Him to love you as no one can; not even a well paying job. Let Him show you just how much better He can give you than either one of those jobs ever could or ever will.

Wipe the tears and smile... Okay? :kiss:
 
Sometimes, "failure" teaches us lots of lessons we wouldn't normally learn if we sailed through life. Really no one can answer the questions for you. Is there a God, why is this happining. I have been and am currently going through some of the most difficult things I have EVER gone through in my entire life. But I do know one thing in my heart, if I didn't have God in my life, they would be a lot worse. I pray that you get some of the answers you seek.
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You are one of God's cherished 'sweeties'... :yep:
 
Please dont get more started....i try to believe life is cruel not God...but then i wonder why would God create such a rough life why are some so fortunate and others are not. I dont know its life so

....continue to have your faith in God and hopefully.this is just a minor lesson in life hopefully you will find a new job. In fact im sure you will. Be blessed because one thing i know for sure it does get better:)Sent from my SGH-T959 using SGH-T959

Yes it does... :yep: It does get better.

Good word. :up:
 
I'm gonna tell you like he told me in one word 'SIN'

Please dont get more started....i try to believe life is cruel not God...but then i wonder why would God create such a rough life why are some so fortunate and others are not. I dont know its life so continue to have your faith in God and hopefully.this is just a minor lesson in life hopefully you will find a new job. In fact im sure you will. Be blessed because one thing i know for sure it does get better:)

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How do I know God is looking out for me? I don't feel like He is. It just got worse today. The company wants to take me to court.
 
It may not had been the job but the new city that he wanted you to be. Know that there is a plan for you. It may not seem like it today but it will be shown to you. It's hard I know. Here's my story:

13 years ago I was living with my grandmother in NYC. I met a man that I thought was the one for me. I was ready to move out of the city as I didn't want to raise my son in NY. So me and man decides to move to DE. I just knew everything would work out great. NOT! He was an alcoholic and doing drugs. He couldn't hold a job because of his alcohol. Then we were in a car accident. Things got worse during the first year we were here in DE. I didn't know what to do and how to do it.

At the time I really wasn't in church and was just doing my own thing. The worse came in July of the following year when I had enought and left him. My son and I was in a hotel for 2 months with no car and I was working a temp job. It was so bad that my check from the temp job was paying my hotel and I had nothing left.

13 years later and going thought a lot more I realize that this was the place for me. People ask me all the time what brought me to DE and I tell them God used a man to get me here because this is where I was suppose to be. The man isn't in my life anymore but I'm happier than I could had been in NYC.

I say all of that to say: Stay strong my sister and don't let the devil make you doubt the Lord cause he still good!
 
There are some powerful testimonies in this thread and though I may not want to share mine just yet but I want to let you know that it happens to the best of us. This is the point more that ever to pray and to call out to him and ask for his will to be done in your life. For his guidance and his protection to cover you.

Have you been going to an anger managment programme? If not then start, show the court and judge (if it reaches to that) that you are willing to change and improve. Try to get an out of court settlement or the charges dropped. Look for a new job or go back to school and try to turn this situation into a positive one.

My old situation has led me to the job I'm at now and in the Masters programmed that I'm currently enrolled in.

Remember that He loves you more than anyone ever will.

Hope it all works out, I'll keep you in my prayers :)
 
I just read this and thought, "How fitting!"

I love and I care -- August 25, 2011

My children, there are many, who do not really believe that I love and I care for them. When they have to go through trials, tribulation and difficult times, they think I do not love them or care about them anymore, that I have forgotten them. They started doubting Me for who I really am. Many left Me, they strayed not willing to endure and to press on through their trials and tribulations. I warned you that My children will enter Heaven through much tribulation. Your faith will be tested. It is not an easy road when you follow Me. The obstacles are for your own good, to build your faith and trust in Me. I work all things out for good for those who love Me and are called according to My purpose. I will not fail My children. I will not abandon you, I will never leave you nor forsake you. I am faithful, man's unfaithfulness cannot change My faithfulness. My love endures forever. I change not.

My child, what can separate you from My love for you? There is no greater love than Mine. Show Me that you really love Me and that I am still your first love. Is your love for Me the same or has it gone cold? Do you really love Me? Then you will care about My Kingdom, to do My will, that which is pleasing to Me, to build My Kingdom.

My children, I discipline and chastise every one of you out of love because I love and I care for your soul not out of hatred. It is to change you more and more into My likeness to become more like Me to do My will. You are My representatives on this earth, others must see Me in you, working through you because you also love and care for them.

My children, you must cry out to Me, stand in the gap for souls to be spared and saved in this time of turmoil because you love and care for them. Who will stand in the gap, if you are not willing? Many died without Me and many more will if you do not have love and do not care for them. I am merciful and full of compassion, it is not My will that anyone perish but that all repent to have eternal life. I love and I care for all, do you?
 
Just remember that everything works together for good. I don't think I've ever shared this with anyone, but here goes....

Three years ago I left a good job with a good company. My salary was decent, the work wasn't hard, I had very little to no stress, three weeks of vacation, two weeks of personal time that I could use any way I wanted to use it, a boss who didn't micro-manage me and pretty much let me come and go as I pleased, good hours and I enjoyed my co-workers. Beneath the surface I was unhappy because I felt like I could be doing so much more than "admin" work. I felt like my boss wasn't using me to the best advantage of his group or the department. I went to a job where I had only two weeks of vacation, personal time that could only be used if I was sick or I had a doctor's appointment. If my child was sick or my husband was sick I had to take a vacation day. The hours were strict, I didn't click with a lot of the people and the commute was longer. To top it off my increase in salary only amounted to an extra $100 per paycheck. Each time I hustled to get to work, crying while in traffic because I was afraid of being late for work I felt like I had made a horrible mistake. Now that I am no longer with that company and I can look at the situation with fresh eyes I know that me leaving my previous company was the right thing. Was it God's perfect will? I don't know, but I know that he took a situation that could have been very stressful and helped me to learn a valuable lesson. You see, when I was with my previous company I became a person who gossiped. I gossiped a lot. I laughed at some of my co-workers and laughed at their hardships. I cringe to think about the things I laughed at. I had become bitter and cold. I should have known something was up when it got back to me that another co-worker, a person who I really respect to this day, made a comment that "this place is really bringing her down". I ignored that comment and fired back something rather snide behind her back. I still didn't get a clue when a new co-worker asked me why I was so bitter. Leaving that place helped me step back and see the things I was doing wrong. At my new job I was quiet, polite and while I was cordial to everyone I made it a point to not sit around and gossip about anyone. In doing so I was able to see how gossip can be rude and hurtful....because I was the one they were gossiping about. My point is that I thought I was making a good move for my career and it had very little to do with my career and everything to do with who I had become on the inside.
 
@ndidirod, I want you to pull away from the world and go to a place that is very quiet and be still. Be very still. Just listen to the silence. Close your eyes. Be so still that you almost feel numb. Then I want you to think of a hymn that you know and one that sings of God's might, faithfulness, greatness, love. Then I want you to turn to meditate on those words as you sing. Lose yourself in His presence. Feel reverence. Worship.

Then I'd like you to read the story of Job. This link gives a commentary on that story which may make it easy to follow: http://www.easyenglish.info/bible-commentary/job-lbw.htm

Sweetie, that you are questioning God's reality and perhaps His faithfulness is evidence that you have a lot to learn. Sometimes God drops a pebble on our heads to make us look up. I'm not sure why you were sure that God wanted you to go to that job. But if He did, He had a reason for you to be there. It's like a child sent to kindergarten for the first time, if he's bullied or made uncomfortable till he cries, he'd wonder whether his parents really loved him if they'd send him to such a place. But his parents do it out of love and desire that he "learn to fly". And later the child realizes it's not so bad. So if parents who aren't Omniscient can be right about something that makes no sense to the child, how much wiser is the One who knows everything, who loves you more than anyone could? Perhaps Father wanted you to learn the lesson that your tongue is a dangerous weapon. Remember He wants to mold you to be worthy of His kingdom. And if God brought you to the mess you're in, you can bet your bottom dollar He will take you through it, be there all the way, and bring you out of it better, stronger, wiser than you were.

God's people have been arrested, prosecuted, tortured...but through it all, they have seen His hand fight for them and bring them out of the nightmare. I believe if you just put EVERYTHING into His hands, you will see what manner of love the Father has for you and how AWESOME are his workings, and you will look back and honestly say, if you had to do it all over again, you wouldn't change a thing.

I've shared these words before and I share them again, hoping someday this may be your song too and that it'll bring you comfort and peace to know that nothing happens to you unless He allows it to happen, and whatever happens the One who loves you most is IN CONTROL:

Lead me along the path,
Lead me along the winding way;
I trust enough to never need the why
You can take me to the where--
Lead me along the path,
Lead me along the winding way;
I don't know what's around the corner, Lord,
But I know that you'll be there.
 
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Can you all convince me that our God is real? That He didn't lead me into 1a place where He knew I would fail? I can't imagine a God that is cruel.
For you ndidirod,:bighug:
Ok, leggo:yep:
First of all, there's no such thing as a company that provides a secure job. Job security is a myth:look:. There are thousands of ppl who are or have been adversely effected by the recession who all had 'secure' jobs. The government:usa: is not the solution either b/c unlike a business which actually creates jobs and incomes, it cannot create anything. All a government can do is redistribute and manage what comes into it's coffers. So then God has to be your source- period. Renew your mind in this area now and save yourself some disappointment in the future. You create your own security by making wise choices with the resources God allows you to have. Then you take the money generated by the use of those resources and tell it what to do for you. Spend some, save some (parable of the talents, emergency fund, large purchases, medical emergencies, clothing allowances, gifts/ holidays etc), and last but not least give some away (to those with less than you who still believe in things like job security and government). Pay your tithes and give offerings. Develop multiple streams of income from the overage you have accumulated over time. That is how you secure your future. Unless you own the company beloved, you will always be at the mercy/ whims of circumstances beyond your control:master::jail:. The very government many look to to help out is often the very entity behind such poor legislation that causes a company's maladies and leads to job/ income losses. **sigh** I digress. It doesn't matter how good your income is if you are not making the right decisions about what to do with your money. Now, this might not apply to you but when the emergency fund is fat and you have multiple streams of revenue coming in, a job loss is no more than a wrinkle in the fabric of your life. I don't hear that in your post. I hear fear and uncertainty.

1. No, we cannot convince you that God is real. I have acquaintances who are atheists or agnostics IRL. I don't try to convince them that God is real. I just do me. Funny how when the stuff hits the fan, they come running tho:saythat:. The existence of the Almighty is a conclusion you must reach on your own:yep:. The good news is it will come over time as long as you keep pressing, seeking, and plain ol living. You see, you'll be able to look back and see situations where He showed up and did things for you that no one and nothing else could possibly explain. I suspect you didn't mean that literally anyway. You are frustrated and understandably so.

2. You may very well have been lead into a situation where some temporary(key word- this whole life is temporary- we are only in the preparation phase for the real one) pain, seemingly failures, and obstacles would be present but as others so glibly put it, trials come to make you strong. They don't feel good and we don't like them but they must take place if you are to grow up and flourish in this life. It is easy to love on God when things are going well or only a little shaky. It is not so easy when all Hades:pullhair::kneel: breaks loose. However, that's when you find out what you are really like. So, if you have a tendency to turn to alcohol, sex, lose your temper, smoke, over-eat, get high, curse, become physically violent etc it all comes out. Bad times are a magnifying glass for what's in your heart and soul (what's really in you):detective:. For what you really believe. Ever had a moment where you did something and then thought that's not like me or where did that come from? It came from you!! The real you. The one you learned to censor and filter years ago. The one that never really changed but lies dormant and comes to the surface when stuff is not going so well:look::perplexed. God wants to truly rid us of all of the filtered nasties we hide deep inside of us. Society says it's good enough to hide/filter those things. Says that's displaying 'good' manners and PC as long as what's in your head doesn't actually get spoken out loud. God says it's not good enough:nono:. It needs to be pruned from within us (ouch) and it hurts like the dickens! Like a good daddy he is right there with the antibiotic, band-aids, and hugs and kisses:love3:. He sees all and knows all. We delude ourselves a lot. Look at his world he made for examples of how his mind works. They are everywhere:spinning:. Just about everything of value to us such as precious stones/ jewels to metal works, to rubber, and other artifacts are only produced when crushing pressure is applied to their raw forms. And then if the pressure wasn't enough, these things tend to not have a quick turn around time before they are in their flawless finished states. So it is with us.

Dear heart, God loves you and will never leave you. Do you know that even if we miss hearing him correctly, the mere fact that we stepped out on faith and tried warms his heart? He can redirect you. He will honor your effort. I do not know why you are going through this right now:whyme: but I do know that is the time to really dig in and say God, I don't understand what's going on but I believe in you no matter what. It takes practice. Say it aloud especially when you don't feel like it. Feelings are fickle:schizo:. You cannot let them dictate your actions or you will end up miserable. Remember the bible account of the man who cried out in his frustration , "Father I believe but help me as I struggle with my unbelief?" It's no different for you and I. The closer you get to God the more intense your trials will be. Life is not fair. But, GOD will provide a way of escape. Then you will need to share your experiences of how he changed you with the next person with a bad temper. BTW- I hope you do not have to go to court and I am praying for God's grace, mercy, and peace to be shed abroad in your life right now.

Please also remember all of those who were lead to some very uncomfortable places but they endured and came out on the victorious side. David (as he fled from Absolom- a king in some old stank caves of all places), Moses (with all his whining, ungrateful kin-folk), Joseph (jealous siblings, Potiphar's old slutty wife, lied on, forgotten, etc), Jesus (hated, depised, rejected for no reason, the butt of the joke- still to this day), and on and on.

Surround yourself with good music, read your bible, and journal so that you can look back and see the goodness of God. Our lil minds are so fickle:drunk:. We forget so easily:seesaw:.
 
You ladies know how to give a good message. Thank you. I will update you all.
ndidirod, :bighug:
Anytime:yep:
One of the most reliable weapons the enemy uses is isolation. He makes us feel like we are the only person going through something or like no one else could possibly understand how we feel. Well, that's just not true!! I guarantee somebody else has gone through the same situation you find yourself in. He knows there is strength in numbers. Even when it's just two together (For where 2 or 3 are gathered together in my name...:yep:). Never subscribe to the belief that you've done something so bad until no one will understand or God can't restore you. There is nothing new under the sun. The situations are not new:nono:. Only the players from generation to generation change. That's why there is no such thing as the 'good old days'...
Ecc 1:9
9 What has been will be again,
what has been done will be done again;
there is nothing new under the sun.
Matt 18:20
20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
 
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