Question for the natural hair ladies

[LexiDior]

Do you ever get that 1 annoying person who wants to 'pat' your hair like its a puppy??

I saw this happen yesterday and honestly, it bothers me and im not natural. Do you all allow people to touch your hair??

 

[APrayer4Hair]

OMG!! this just happened to me like 5 mins ago. My SO did it and I almost broke his wrist

 

[KurlyNinja]

If I'm close to that person, I don't mind them playing in my hair a little bit. But if it's a stranger, they betta stay back! Also everybody needs to ask. Its my body and I don't go around touching random people. I feel like its the same way about my hair.

 

[Caramel Hottie UK]

Yuuuuup! I hate it, i dont care who it is I'm not your pet chihuahua!!!

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[lovegymnasts]

I'm used to it now, so it does not phase me. It used to bother me sometimes because it would startle me or they were rough but I realized I'm a hair toucher myself with family and friends; not strangers. There is no thought behind it. I touch when I communicate, am curious, with children, and with my friends and family.
When I was skimming my fingers on the water in a fish tank while we were at a grocery store (don't ask me why; I was staring at the tropical fish), my friend said I was like a child. I touch everything.

 

[sckri23]

When women have a natural puff it like seeing a pregnant woman everyone wants to feel the "baby". But when I see someone do that I have to ask the "touched" did they know that person.

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[CurlsBazillion]

Not only am I unapproachable (I will ignore a strangers existence without a thought) but I also have a natural mean/serious face. I don't get bothered much. Only people who know me are allowed to touch my hair but I really don't like being touched by anyone unless I touch them or they're my SO...you know what I'm just complicated lol.

 

[LexiDior]

I just really hate to see it, im not racist but it really bothers me when its a white person doing the petting, that rubs me the wrong way.

 

[MrsJaiDiva]

I dunno...so far I've never seen or heard of this happening to myself, or anyone else that's natural that I know. But I live in NYC, so that might be why....cause you might get cut for that...

 

[Lylddlebit]

I let people touch my hair when they ask when they spontaneously reach I back away and say "please don't touch me thanks". In general I need to know if someone is about to touch me before hand.

 

[JBunnie]

-_-

I don't like being touched by just anyone, and my hair is a whole different story. The people at my job seem to think my hair is the petting zoo no matter what state it's in (curly/straight). And I can't stand it, AT ALL. I think it's very rude and uncouth to put your hands on someone, especially in that manner, without asking. I'm like your hands are all over the place, why just plop them on my hair? And the main 2 culprits at my job one of the cooks (who I was just notified that he doesn't wear gloves instead he keeps a wipe towel on his shoulder. He touches raw chicken then wipes his hands, then proceeds to touch whatever else he needs to touch, YEAH) and a housemen (sir, didn't you just come from mopping the restrooms?!)

But I can't stand when anyone does it to anybody. I was out with my old co-worker eating pizza and her son has the best, softest, curly hair. This white couple came up and just started touching his head. Both my friend and I looked at each other like, "are these people serious?!" And He was clearly uncomfortable with them touching him as well. No matter what race/age/gender being touched unwarranted is so damn annoying and rude. And the petting motions make it worse, like if you're really going to need the feel to touch me at least touch me like I'm a damn human!

LexiDior, with them I'm like com'on son! But so much of their actions are done from the sheer fact that they rarely have to be on their ps and qs to impress people. I have White people throw keys at me at work, fling credit cards and put money on the counter when my hand is clearly outstretched. Their actions aren't monitored and scrutinized like other people's so they just do whatever. By no means does that make it right, but ignorance is bliss for many.

But it today's society I think it bothers me more when Black men touch my hair out of nowhere. They should know better for one. Two with how many men act today, like they have all the rights to Black women's bodies, it really rubs me the wrong way.

 

[LexiDior]

i didnt think black men did it, they really should know better. for me its just like touching my face, i hate it. i also have a germ thing and it extends to my hair since that is apart of my body.

 

[JBunnie]

LexiDior, mostly everyone at my job is black and yes they do it like they've never heard not to, smh.

 

[mscocoface]

I get this all the time. In stores, where I work, strangers, etc. Even had some one come up behind me and planted their whole hand on the back of my pinned up twists. It was so bad in Europe when I was with DH that he had to stand behind me to catch people. I had told him this happened to me all the time and he finally believed me when we where in Europe. He kept saying let me stand behind you before you slap someone silly and we have an international incident.

 

[tru4reele]

I just really hate to see it, im not racist but it really bothers me when its a white person doing the petting, that rubs me the wrong way.

And if you pay attention they will usually wipe their hands afterwards on their pants or rub their fingers together to see if it's greasy. That REALLY bothers me.

 

[ellebelle88]

Surprisingly, the people who touch my hair the most are black men. Many of whom, I don't even know. It's so freaking annoying because they are checking to see if its mine. I do wear weaves so it really makes me mad because I know that there are plenty of white women who wear weaves but aren't subjected to being weave-checked by (black) men. The next black man who touches my hair will get cursed out. I don't give a...

 

[LexiDior]

And if you pay attention they will usually wipe their hands afterwards on their pants or rub their fingers together to see if it's greasy. That REALLY bothers me.

yes they do do that!! they almost expect it.

 

[Curlykutie]

HECK NO!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[westNDNbeauty]

The only time it doesn't bother me is when it's an SO. I duck and dodge everyone else.

 

[Blyss_curls]

I don't wear my hair out very often. But when I have, I've encountered a few "touchers."

Most (if not all) were black women, who seemed sincerely interested in natural hair--so I wasn't phased by it at all. I let them touch my hair, as I answered questions, shared my routine, how I grew out, etc.

I understand that for sisters that aren't really on-line, but are curious about other hair possibilities, they're eager for information. Just not always sure how to get it. So I really don't mind.

Honestly, I had more of the "petting" kind of touchers, when I was relaxed. erplexed Weird, right?

 

[natural2008]

No, ma'am. My default face isn't friendly and it's always on when I'm out in public. My fiancé says it always looks like I'm mad, teeheehehee. I tell
Him no its my default face. I don't walk around all friendly looking smiling from ear to ear.

 

[kupenda]

Yup! Ppl love to pet my weird mini fro. I have a male coworker that kept talking about my hair and how it looks texture wise (never touched Afro hair). I asked if he wanted to touch it and he almost peed his pants in excitement. Afterwards he was absolutely ecstatic. And another time he went to hug me and literally rubbed his face on my hair and whispered that my hair smelled good.
Last week a coworker shrieked when she saw my twistout. As she reached Ro grope me I backed up but asked if she wanted to touch it. And my dentist patted me on the sly that same day. But I've never had strangers try. That's weird

 

[CHI10]

i currently work in a BSS..and it happens EVERY. DAY....when it gets overwhelming...i rock a wig/weave..i am now in braids..praise the lord

 

[LexiDior]

i remember when i was little i would let the little girls touch my hair. they were amazed by it's texture, and i was relaxed then. I'm grown now so i know, touching is a no no.