PinkPebbles
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In the book of Ester some passages in chapter One stood out to me which caused my eyebrow to raise and would like to have a discussion.
The King, Nobles, and Eunuchs felt as though Queen Vashti behaved disrespectfully towards her husband who was the King and their guests when she refused the King's command.
10 On the seventh day, when King Xerxes was in high spirits from wine, he commanded the seven eunuchs who served him—Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, Abagtha, Zethar and Carcas- 11 to bring before him Queen Vashti, wearing her royal crown, in order to display her beauty to the people and nobles, for she was lovely to look at. 12 But when the attendants delivered the king's command, Queen Vashti refused to come. Then the king became furious and burned with anger.
As a result, Queen Vashti was made an example to other women. The King divorced her.
15 "According to law, what must be done to Queen Vashti?" he asked. "She has not obeyed the command of King Xerxes that the eunuchs have taken to her."
16 Then Memucan replied in the presence of the king and the nobles, "Queen Vashti has done wrong, not only against the king but also against all the nobles and the peoples of all the provinces of King Xerxes. 17 For the queen's conduct will become known to all the women, and so they will despise their husbands and say, 'King Xerxes commanded Queen Vashti to be brought before him, but she would not come.' 18 This very day the Persian and Median women of the nobility who have heard about the queen's conduct will respond to all the king's nobles in the same way. There will be no end of disrespect and discord.
My question - Do you think Queen Vashti was disrespectful to her husband, the King by refusing his request?
In what ways are women and married women disrespectful to their husband or any man without realizing it?
Do you think many of this is learned behavior?
One thing comes to mind. In Corporate America I'm assertive, aggressive, and takes the initiative on projects. My conduct is rewarded and praised. However, I do not want to behave in this manner in my future marriage.
In some church ministries I have to catch myself and take the passenger seat and allow the men of God to drive, especially if they are eager too.
So what are your thoughts about Queen Vashti's conduct and married women?
I hope that the married women on this forum would chime in as well !
TIA!
The King, Nobles, and Eunuchs felt as though Queen Vashti behaved disrespectfully towards her husband who was the King and their guests when she refused the King's command.
10 On the seventh day, when King Xerxes was in high spirits from wine, he commanded the seven eunuchs who served him—Mehuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, Abagtha, Zethar and Carcas- 11 to bring before him Queen Vashti, wearing her royal crown, in order to display her beauty to the people and nobles, for she was lovely to look at. 12 But when the attendants delivered the king's command, Queen Vashti refused to come. Then the king became furious and burned with anger.
As a result, Queen Vashti was made an example to other women. The King divorced her.
15 "According to law, what must be done to Queen Vashti?" he asked. "She has not obeyed the command of King Xerxes that the eunuchs have taken to her."
16 Then Memucan replied in the presence of the king and the nobles, "Queen Vashti has done wrong, not only against the king but also against all the nobles and the peoples of all the provinces of King Xerxes. 17 For the queen's conduct will become known to all the women, and so they will despise their husbands and say, 'King Xerxes commanded Queen Vashti to be brought before him, but she would not come.' 18 This very day the Persian and Median women of the nobility who have heard about the queen's conduct will respond to all the king's nobles in the same way. There will be no end of disrespect and discord.
My question - Do you think Queen Vashti was disrespectful to her husband, the King by refusing his request?
In what ways are women and married women disrespectful to their husband or any man without realizing it?
Do you think many of this is learned behavior?
One thing comes to mind. In Corporate America I'm assertive, aggressive, and takes the initiative on projects. My conduct is rewarded and praised. However, I do not want to behave in this manner in my future marriage.
In some church ministries I have to catch myself and take the passenger seat and allow the men of God to drive, especially if they are eager too.
So what are your thoughts about Queen Vashti's conduct and married women?
I hope that the married women on this forum would chime in as well !
TIA!
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