princessnad
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My SO and I had a night on the town. Waiting outside the bathroom, this guy insists I leave the line and go talk to him. Of coure I don't and I alerted security since the guu was quite forceful and seemed dangerous. Anyhow, after my SO leaves the bathroom, I tell him about the incident. He didn't seem to have much of a reaction,just took a mental note.
Later we are dancing and having a good time and the same guy walks by and it seemed like he grazed my butt. I wasn't sure if it was intentional, but after I turned around and saw who it was, I figured it was on purpose.
Outloud I half stated half wondered 'that guy touched my butt.' My SO heard this and started lunging in the direction of where I was looking and started demanding I tell him who it is. Because of a few factors, I refused to tell him who it was:
1. My SO seemed really angry, like he was going to try to knock that dude out... or try. I don't really beleive in physical violence.
2. My SO works out and is strong and all, but this dude seemed like he was straight out of prison. I wasn't trying to risk it, even if I was into fighting
3. This seemed like this is exactly the reaction that guy wanted. He started looking back and smiling when the commotion between my SO and was taking place.
Since I refused my SO stormed out of the lounge and said I emmasculated him and that I have made a "big mistake", that I have no idea what it is to have pride and be a man. He says he is furious that I am ok with being disrespected but he is not. **sidenote: I am NOT ok with being touched inappropriately by strange men. But at first I wasn't sure it was the guy and by the time I looked back, my SOs crazy reaction overpowered mine.***
He currenly has me on silent treatment and is furious.
So ladies, was I that wrong to want my SO to avoid a fight? Should I just have told him who it was and silently nurse him back to health after the fight (assuming he does not get killed in the process? Or did I do the right thing? He says I should have just told him and let him deal with how he would react.
With how upset he is, I'm starting to question my decision.
Later we are dancing and having a good time and the same guy walks by and it seemed like he grazed my butt. I wasn't sure if it was intentional, but after I turned around and saw who it was, I figured it was on purpose.
Outloud I half stated half wondered 'that guy touched my butt.' My SO heard this and started lunging in the direction of where I was looking and started demanding I tell him who it is. Because of a few factors, I refused to tell him who it was:
1. My SO seemed really angry, like he was going to try to knock that dude out... or try. I don't really beleive in physical violence.
2. My SO works out and is strong and all, but this dude seemed like he was straight out of prison. I wasn't trying to risk it, even if I was into fighting
3. This seemed like this is exactly the reaction that guy wanted. He started looking back and smiling when the commotion between my SO and was taking place.
Since I refused my SO stormed out of the lounge and said I emmasculated him and that I have made a "big mistake", that I have no idea what it is to have pride and be a man. He says he is furious that I am ok with being disrespected but he is not. **sidenote: I am NOT ok with being touched inappropriately by strange men. But at first I wasn't sure it was the guy and by the time I looked back, my SOs crazy reaction overpowered mine.***
He currenly has me on silent treatment and is furious.
So ladies, was I that wrong to want my SO to avoid a fight? Should I just have told him who it was and silently nurse him back to health after the fight (assuming he does not get killed in the process? Or did I do the right thing? He says I should have just told him and let him deal with how he would react.
With how upset he is, I'm starting to question my decision.
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