Praying for a man?

[Qualitee]

Is it true that if you pray for a certain type of man God will give him to you? I read this in another thread..... The light skin kappa

 

[LifeafterLHCF]

I don't believe that. God isn't a genie to give our wishes. He gives what is needed to bring him glory and what he knows his child needs and desires to some degree. I think alot of times we get so caught up on our demands for a spouse or SO that we blur the things that really matter. However if God placed a 6'5 300 lb man of the chocolate to fair complexion man on my door step who is loving,patient,and money motivated I wouldn't oppose lol.

 

[Shimmie]

Is it true that if you pray for a certain type of man God will give him to you? I read this in another thread..... The light skin kappa

In a word, yes.

There's a saying... be careful of what you pray for, you just may get it...

On the other hand...

Our words have power. God has given people 'free will' and many specifics that one has prayed for, a person has 'willed' (spoken ) into their personal lives.

The true and best guide is for one to allow the Holy Spirit to guide their prayers; for He will never fail to show them how and what to pray.

 

[Shimmie]

I don't believe that. God isn't a genie to give our wishes. He gives what is needed to bring him glory and what he knows his child needs and desires to some degree. I think alot of times we get so caught up on our demands for a spouse or SO that we blur the things that really matter.

However if God placed a 6'5 300 lb man of the chocolate to fair complexion man on my door step who is loving,patient,and money motivated I wouldn't oppose lol.

 

[mrselle]

Like Shimmie said, "In a word,yes." But I would be very careful with this. A friend of mine did this when we were in college. Long story short, thiat guy wasn't the one for her. I've also done this when I was a baby in Christ and just didn't know any better. That guy wasn't the one for me either. I've learned that God's plan is the best plan and the only real plan. God knows what we need in a mate better than we ever could.

 

[Belle Du Jour]

I think it's okay to pray for the qualities you want in a future spouse but always surrender to the will of God. Ask God to open your eyes because the one He sends won't necessarily be the one we expect. He knows what we want and need and I like to think He gives us a perfect combination of both.

As far as praying to have a specific man, that might not be a good idea. However, praying that God's will is done regarding a specific person is fine.

 

[Lissa0821]

I really tried to come up with a list of things I wanted in a man and pray about it. But I never made the time to do it despite the fact my sister would bring it up in conversation for a while. One day, I decided to sit down and make the list but half way through I tossed the list aside (I am not a writer). So I just shrugged my shoulder and said God send me someone who is good to me and good for me.

I just stuck with that saying whenever the topic of relationships were brought up in discussion and after a while I started to believe. People I dated from the past and present started showing up and I made it very clear what I wanted. One by one they would show their true colors, I wasn't disappointed at all.

Since then God has done just that, with the most unlikely man I have ever thought I would date let alone consider marrying in the near future.

I don't think there is anything wrong with praying for a man, just be open to hear and be lead by God every step of the way.

 

[MrsHaseeb]

I did this. However, the list wasn't for God. It was for me so that I wouldn't lose sight of what I deserved in a man. I felt that this was important because I had made my share of mistakes in men and I didnt want to continue on that path. My list didn't consist of physical traits or other things that won't even matter at the end of the day. It was about a man who would have a heart for God. Some one with godly character who loves Jesus and could therefore love me, financially wise, family oriented, mentally stable and had great work ethic. I trusted God to bring me someone I wouldn't mind looking at so I felt no need to focus on looks or physical attributes. Anyway, although I had that list my potential future husband almost slipped right through my fingers for a couple of reasons: one, he is Catholic (no offense to any Catholics) and two, he is from Africa and I have always hated foreign accents (I have grown to love it now). Anyway, after really getting to know him, we have so much in common its crazy. I literally met a male version of myself. And I'm so attracted to him now I wondered how I missed him in the first place. So the lists can be ok if you are doing it to avoid losing sight of what you want but God doesn't need them. He is the supreme and sovereign God and he knows exactly what we need and want and the man he gives us will be far better than any man we can pick for ourselves.

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[LucieLoo12]

I have prayed to God concerning my husband. But its nothing concerning anything physical. But i pray more for God to prepare me for my husband. I don't want to be praying for a godly man and I am a hot mess lol. So my focus is on me because. I know that God will send me the best but I must be the best as well.

 

[Lissa0821]

My list had everything from physical, personality even the quality of my sex of my future relationship with my "man" but for some reason no matter how many things I wrote down, it still felt like I was leaving something major out. So that is why I stopped and told God make him good for me and to me. For me that seems to cover everything because I realized that there things about me would have to change, grow and develop in order to have a great relationship.

I also knew that no matter who this "man" is that would show up in my life. God will always have first place in my heart, that is never going to change. God is my cake, this man would just be the icing on my cake.