My DH and I have been married for 13 yrs and together for a total of 20. Like any relationship we had our difficult days some more difficult than others. We have 2 kids. Two years ago I hit rock bottom. I had backslided in my relationship with God over the years and I was a changed person for the worse. I renewed my relationship with him and became saved. I worked at repairing all the damage I had caused and asked forgiveness of my husband. We were both at fault. I am trying to win my husband to Christ. He is receptive and I know he is observing my behavior and what I do as an example.
Lately everything is falling apart again-it is like Satan is assaulting us. In the beginning of our marriage our relationship was troubled, the stress of a new baby and financial problems gave way to additonal frustation. My DH did not spend time with me and it made me imbittered. He latched on to this woman co-worker of his who was not married and had a daughter. They were just friends but went shopping together. She seemed respectful of the place she had in my husbands life but I was jealous because he spent time with her and not me. She moved down south a year later and got married after that. What came after however was a nightmare. My DH befriended another co-worker. She is quite heavy so I think my DH latched onto her out of sympathy. She was engaged to be married but that fell apart. She latched onto my husband tightly. They went shopping together. He justified it by telling me he did not want to spend time with me because my attitude is bad. When I got upset he defended her more. I felt so isolated and alone. She was supposedly a Christian. But I don't know of any Christian women that I know that sees a friendship causing a marital rift and continuing in the relationship. This went on for years, they talked on the phone-even when we went to the Pochanos for our 9th Wedding anniversary. I even noticed that everytime he was conversant with her he would be nasty with me after that.Now fast forward to now. They still are friends and he constantly brings her up in conversation. I am trying to maintain my composure but she is very needy and I am trying to be understanding. Even her own brother told her to leave DH alone since she sees I am not conducive of the relationship. On Friday I asked him to take my mom and I to the post office since she had to get money orders to pay her bills plus I had to go back to the department store. He told me in a nasty tone: I am leaving at 9am. I found out Saturday why he was leaving so early: DH and a friend of his helped her and her brother take stuff out of storage. I was floored. He put her in front of us again. I don't drive so now I had to take a taxi to my destination to help my mom out with her stuff so her bills can be paid and she can watch the kids. He came down to the basement to explain why he could not help us out. He came back to me couple of times. But I know my DH when he is doing something wrong he keeps coming back to me for reaffirmation.
I have had it. I have prayed on this and continue to pray on this but this friendship is wrong-I know it but he keeps defending it. And you know the worst part- In all the 13 yrs they have been friends I have never met her and he has never had the decency to introduce us. Even his family and friends know what she looks like.
Talking about it does'nt help- He won't spend quality time with me. He sees I have changed but he does not want to reach out to me to help us jumpstart positivity in our relationship. We have joined a church and I finally have some refuge of peace, but I am still crying inside.
Can someone pray for us...
Lately everything is falling apart again-it is like Satan is assaulting us. In the beginning of our marriage our relationship was troubled, the stress of a new baby and financial problems gave way to additonal frustation. My DH did not spend time with me and it made me imbittered. He latched on to this woman co-worker of his who was not married and had a daughter. They were just friends but went shopping together. She seemed respectful of the place she had in my husbands life but I was jealous because he spent time with her and not me. She moved down south a year later and got married after that. What came after however was a nightmare. My DH befriended another co-worker. She is quite heavy so I think my DH latched onto her out of sympathy. She was engaged to be married but that fell apart. She latched onto my husband tightly. They went shopping together. He justified it by telling me he did not want to spend time with me because my attitude is bad. When I got upset he defended her more. I felt so isolated and alone. She was supposedly a Christian. But I don't know of any Christian women that I know that sees a friendship causing a marital rift and continuing in the relationship. This went on for years, they talked on the phone-even when we went to the Pochanos for our 9th Wedding anniversary. I even noticed that everytime he was conversant with her he would be nasty with me after that.Now fast forward to now. They still are friends and he constantly brings her up in conversation. I am trying to maintain my composure but she is very needy and I am trying to be understanding. Even her own brother told her to leave DH alone since she sees I am not conducive of the relationship. On Friday I asked him to take my mom and I to the post office since she had to get money orders to pay her bills plus I had to go back to the department store. He told me in a nasty tone: I am leaving at 9am. I found out Saturday why he was leaving so early: DH and a friend of his helped her and her brother take stuff out of storage. I was floored. He put her in front of us again. I don't drive so now I had to take a taxi to my destination to help my mom out with her stuff so her bills can be paid and she can watch the kids. He came down to the basement to explain why he could not help us out. He came back to me couple of times. But I know my DH when he is doing something wrong he keeps coming back to me for reaffirmation.
I have had it. I have prayed on this and continue to pray on this but this friendship is wrong-I know it but he keeps defending it. And you know the worst part- In all the 13 yrs they have been friends I have never met her and he has never had the decency to introduce us. Even his family and friends know what she looks like.
Talking about it does'nt help- He won't spend quality time with me. He sees I have changed but he does not want to reach out to me to help us jumpstart positivity in our relationship. We have joined a church and I finally have some refuge of peace, but I am still crying inside.
Can someone pray for us...