"Please...Settle Your Disagreement."

[Prudent1]

Because all of us struggle with this from time to time...
Php 4:2 NLT
SETTLE YOUR DISAGREEMENT
Euodia and Syntyche were two women who worked hand in hand with Paul in building the church. Yet sadly, the only mention of them in Scripture is that they couldn't get along with one another. That's not good, because God's blessing is predicated upon our willingness to forgive, and to love one another. Jesus said: "Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them. And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses" (Mk 11:24-25 NKJV). You can't pray effectively when you have "anything against anyone." Even if the other person is wrong, let God use you as a paramedic of His mercy. Tell them you want to see the relationship healed, apologize and be reconciled. It may take more than a U-turn to make up the distance between you, but each step you take will make the road shorter, and if you stay on course you'll get to where you ought to be on time. Don't argue over "who did what to whom." Be bigger than that! Show grace! You've been asking God to restore things; well, this is part of it. Yes, your ego will rebel. And if you let it, fear of rejection will stop you dead in your tracks. But do it anyway and see what happens. Remember, when you forgive someone, you position yourself beyond condemnation; at that point God can bless you. Can you afford to live without His blessings?

 

[Rainbow Dash]

Awesome word. I need this word. When we dont let things go immediately bitterness will settle in and become a stronghold.

 

[Guitarhero]

I love your posts.

 

[SND411]

Sometimes when you make amends, the relationship still feels contrived and fake. How do you make "moving forward" authentic?

 

[Nice Lady]

ITA. Someone has to take the higher road but I guess that were God's grace comes in.

 

[Laela]

I've been down that sorry road -- with my baby sister...making "amends" or calling a truce and truly forgiving aren't the same. The former is contrived because God isn't involved, IMHO, so the results would be a contrived relationship. I fooled myself into thinking all was well between me and my sister, simply because I left her alone. God dealt with me on that severely, letting me know walking around with bitterness in my heart wasn't doing me any good, no matter how long/hard I prayed or worshiped him. How can I say I have God in me when I have hatred in my heart?

It was when I REALLY truly forgave her that I got past the "amends". Forgiveness isn't for the other person. It's a great place to be in one's spirit to say "I have wronged no man"

Sometimes when you make amends, the relationship still feels contrived and fake. How do you make "moving forward" authentic?

 

[nathansgirl1908]

Because all of us struggle with this from time to time...
Php 4:2 NLT
SETTLE YOUR DISAGREEMENT
Euodia and Syntyche were two women who worked hand in hand with Paul in building the church. Yet sadly, the only mention of them in Scripture is that they couldn't get along with one another. That's not good, because God's blessing is predicated upon our willingness to forgive, and to love one another. Jesus said: "Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them. And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses" (Mk 11:24-25 NKJV). You can't pray effectively when you have "anything against anyone." Even if the other person is wrong, let God use you as a paramedic of His mercy. Tell them you want to see the relationship healed, apologize and be reconciled. It may take more than a U-turn to make up the distance between you, but each step you take will make the road shorter, and if you stay on course you'll get to where you ought to be on time. Don't argue over "who did what to whom." Be bigger than that! Show grace! You've been asking God to restore things; well, this is part of it. Yes, your ego will rebel. And if you let it, fear of rejection will stop you dead in your tracks. But do it anyway and see what happens. Remember, when you forgive someone, you position yourself beyond condemnation; at that point God can bless you. Can you afford to live without His blessings?

Beautiful. This really resonates with my spirit. Thank you for sharing.

 

[Crown]

ITA!!!

It's easier to make amends and sometimes we don't even realize that there is no true forgiveness and we wonder why our prayers are not answered, till the LORD reveals the heart.

Prayer with a true desire to be revealed and the grace of the LORD and forgiveness.

I feel so FREE after that.

 

[Prudent1]

Sometimes when you make amends, the relationship still feels contrived and fake. How do you make "moving forward" authentic?

In addition to what Laela said, I would say TIME and lots of prayer. Nothing extra spiritual just time. During which God is constantly molding and shaping you into the you he knows is best. Keep pressing on confessing your feelings to God asking him to help you get the wrong feelings out of your heart. He honors our efforts even as we fall short of perfection. He can see our heart and not just our fleshly attributes. Remember, it is when we are at our lowest points but seeking him that he shows up and shows out. Time.