Ladies! I need advice...some encouragement...a prayer...a miracle...something! Here's my dilemma (it's LONG, forgive me):
I currently get my hair done once a week at a Dominican salon. I've been going there for almost two years and when I first started, my hair was about 1-2 inches below shoulder length and is now at bra-strap length. After really thinking about how the only reason I relax my hair is out of habit (rather odd since I love curly hair...no, don't ask, I'm weird) and plenty of stylist saying "My GOD! You need a perm/relaxer" as soon as my big toe crosses the threshold of the salon, I really want to go natural completely. I already have 2-3 inches of natural hair (4a around the edges only in the front, 3b/3c everywhere else...I have no idea why it's like that).
My problem is the 19 inches of relaxed hair that's still attached to the natural hair. My family has a strong tradition against cutting hair! However, many of us have had bad experiences in salons where stylists decided to cut off our way past waist length hair!! My nearly thigh length natural hair was forcefully chopped off, against my will, when I was 12. I would love to go natural but I'm so afraid of the big chop. I'm absolutely sure my mother will chop my head off, so I was thinking of keeping the relaxed hair until the natural hair gets about shoulder length. But I'm so excited to see my natural hair again that I just want to get it (the relaxed hair) cut sometimes and get it over with.
I was thinking about getting braids but I know they can be damaging to the hair if they're too tight. My scalp is super sensitive plus I get serious dandruff sometimes. I'll post my current regimen at the end of the post.
I would really like to hear from the ladies who have experienced good growth with braids (Crown and Glory technique or otherwise) and from anyone who has gone ahead with 'the big chop.' I don't know why I'm convinced that my hair will not grow/take forever to grow once I cut it. Perhaps from my bad experience before.
Faith and Adrienne have been a good inspiration to me even though I've only been at this site for a very short time. I would also like to thank the ladies from longhairlovers.com (it's me, Mnemosyne!) who have also helped me on my hair journey.
Here is my current regimen. It's working for me quite well, but I'd really love to go natural, possibly with the Crown and Glory technique or a modification of that.
As I said before, I get my hair done at a Dominican salon. Here's what I do before I go there:
1. Le Kair's Cholesterol Plus deep conditioner--leave on for 2 hours, rinse thoroughly, go to salon
2. Wash and condition
3. Salerm Mascarilla Capilar deep conditioner, leave on for 10 minutes, rinse
4. Salerm 21 silk protein leave in conditioner (you can buy Salerm products here: www.metrobeauty.com)
5. Set hair in rollers and sit under the dryer for about 40 minutes
6. Blow dry, curl
7. They but a moisturizer in the hair, then wrap it
I go once a week on Friday and leave my hair in the wrap until the morning of the next Friday. Since I'm not fussing with my hair, it won't be prone to breaking.
When I go to sleep, I wear a satin 'skully' cap and put two cotton scarves around it so it doesn't move. I leave the cap off for about an 1 hour a day to air out my hair. I always leave the cap off when I exercise (I take Belly dance, Pilates and Naginata lessons)
I currently get my hair done once a week at a Dominican salon. I've been going there for almost two years and when I first started, my hair was about 1-2 inches below shoulder length and is now at bra-strap length. After really thinking about how the only reason I relax my hair is out of habit (rather odd since I love curly hair...no, don't ask, I'm weird) and plenty of stylist saying "My GOD! You need a perm/relaxer" as soon as my big toe crosses the threshold of the salon, I really want to go natural completely. I already have 2-3 inches of natural hair (4a around the edges only in the front, 3b/3c everywhere else...I have no idea why it's like that).
My problem is the 19 inches of relaxed hair that's still attached to the natural hair. My family has a strong tradition against cutting hair! However, many of us have had bad experiences in salons where stylists decided to cut off our way past waist length hair!! My nearly thigh length natural hair was forcefully chopped off, against my will, when I was 12. I would love to go natural but I'm so afraid of the big chop. I'm absolutely sure my mother will chop my head off, so I was thinking of keeping the relaxed hair until the natural hair gets about shoulder length. But I'm so excited to see my natural hair again that I just want to get it (the relaxed hair) cut sometimes and get it over with.
I was thinking about getting braids but I know they can be damaging to the hair if they're too tight. My scalp is super sensitive plus I get serious dandruff sometimes. I'll post my current regimen at the end of the post.
I would really like to hear from the ladies who have experienced good growth with braids (Crown and Glory technique or otherwise) and from anyone who has gone ahead with 'the big chop.' I don't know why I'm convinced that my hair will not grow/take forever to grow once I cut it. Perhaps from my bad experience before.
Faith and Adrienne have been a good inspiration to me even though I've only been at this site for a very short time. I would also like to thank the ladies from longhairlovers.com (it's me, Mnemosyne!) who have also helped me on my hair journey.
Here is my current regimen. It's working for me quite well, but I'd really love to go natural, possibly with the Crown and Glory technique or a modification of that.
As I said before, I get my hair done at a Dominican salon. Here's what I do before I go there:
1. Le Kair's Cholesterol Plus deep conditioner--leave on for 2 hours, rinse thoroughly, go to salon
2. Wash and condition
3. Salerm Mascarilla Capilar deep conditioner, leave on for 10 minutes, rinse
4. Salerm 21 silk protein leave in conditioner (you can buy Salerm products here: www.metrobeauty.com)
5. Set hair in rollers and sit under the dryer for about 40 minutes
6. Blow dry, curl
7. They but a moisturizer in the hair, then wrap it
I go once a week on Friday and leave my hair in the wrap until the morning of the next Friday. Since I'm not fussing with my hair, it won't be prone to breaking.
When I go to sleep, I wear a satin 'skully' cap and put two cotton scarves around it so it doesn't move. I leave the cap off for about an 1 hour a day to air out my hair. I always leave the cap off when I exercise (I take Belly dance, Pilates and Naginata lessons)