omg should i hide this?

calmsensual1

calmsensual1

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An ex sent me a message on facebook saying "i see you still havent changed. You have to be the most beautiful woman on facebook"

Should I hide this from my BF? I would kind of feel bad if I did though...

It may not seem like a big deal but i was trying to imagine if I had seen something like that on his wall...I know I wouldnt be too happy.

What should I do?
 
Well if you know you wouldnt like it done to you and you're currently in a loving, healthy relationship delete it and keep it moving.
 
Just be up front tell him. Relationships are based on honesty. He may get upset but maybe you and choose how to deal with it together. If you hide it, he will think well, you have something to hide. This may snowball into bigger issues later. Besides, if he finds out about it later, he will know you lied by omission. You need to let the ex know that such comments are inappropriate because you are in a relationship.
 
It's nothing here to tell. It's just a compliment. If he see the msg, address it then. Nothing to stress over. Now if the ex had said something disrespectful and/or intimate, I would give my SO the heads up.
 
I can't see why you should tell him. If it's because it came from an ex, delete it and delete the ex. If you don't want communication with him, don't accept any.
 
While I wouldn't like to see it on my SO's page either I dont think deleting it would be the answer. How do you know that he hasn't seen it already and just didn't see fit to bring it up? If he goes back out there and its all of a sudden deleted then its going to look like you're hiding something. Personally I'd just wait to see if he mentions it, if he doesn't then its not worth you bringing it up either.
 
I don't think it's a big deal. If he wrote "after seeing you at lunch, your still the most beautiful etc...", then it's mention worthy. An ex is still entitled to their opinion.

If anything, it can boost your BF's ego, like "hah..this dude is jocking my girl..but she's mine..etc".
 
There is nothing to hide. IMO it would be weird to start being shady with your current SO based on anything your ex says or does.

If you think your ex is fishing for a more intimate conversation and you're not receptive to that be sure to shut it down.
 
calmsensual1 said:
An ex sent me a message on facebook saying "i see you still havent changed. You have to be the most beautiful woman on facebook"

Should I hide this from my BF? I would kind of feel bad if I did though...

It may not seem like a big deal but i was trying to imagine if I had seen something like that on his wall...I know I wouldnt be too happy.

What should I do?
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Your ex is out of your life, you deleted him, so delete his comment, if the demons can't find destruction, they find distraction. Good luck in your new relationship and I am glad you are happy.
 
I dont see what the big deal is....anyone could see that on your profile are you going to hide all the compliments people give you from you BF. For all you know that comment had no hiden meaning from your ex so dont build it up to be something its not. If your boyfriend is going to get upset about someone paying you a compliment(regardless whether from an ex) then you might have bigger problems.
 
I wouldn't delete it. If you can't have open communication with your current bf then what's the point. You have no feelings for your ex so who cares. And if it happened to your current bf you should know he has no feelings for his ex.

Better yet, how would you feel if your current SO hid something like this from you...and then later on you somehow found out?
 
lol I think I was panicking when i wrote this thread cause I had just checked my facebook when I wrote this. Its really not that big of a deal. And to those who said you cant have a relationship without open and honest communication, youre right. If he gets all bent out of shape over this then there are definitely bigger issues that would end up coming out sooner or later anyway.

I'd love to just delete it but I cant bring myself to do that, I'd feel like I was hiding something.

But yeah so Im just gonna address it.

And trust me, he stays on facebook, so its definitely something he'd notice AND ask me about. He's asked me about the most minute things on facebook before so I know he'd bring this up.
 
Your boyfriend has access to your Facebook messages?

I know people can see what's written on your Wall, but private messages are only able to be seen by the person with the account.

So I guess I don't see how you'd be "hiding" anything by deleting it unless your boyfriend reads the messages in your inbox and has your password. Or am I misunderstanding something?
 
HeatStyledNaturals said:
What? No. That's how you keep your current man in line.
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I agree.

Also, I think if you have no feelings for your ex and everything was resolved when you two broke up, it shouldnt matter what he says to you or about you.
In this case, its just a compliment. Casually tell your man about it. Dont make it a big deal because its not IMO.
 
wait now i realize it's a message and not a wall comment. i don't keep any of my fb messages so i would delete it and keep it moving because umm who cares about dude anyway?
 
WOW @ the 'you are not white' tag

But ummm...you're making it a bigger issue than it is so I think you should ask yourself why you are.
 
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