Ok, I think I see the problem. You used a chelating shampoo first. Your hair may have been stripped way down to the bone. The aphogee shampoo is moisturizing and a gentle one I think. That may have been the beginning of the problem.
I think that's why your relaxed ends are the ones suffering, they were damaged from being relaxed anyway and then stripped and having such a heavy protein on top. awwww. I'm so sorry.
You used:
dc'd with kercare dc first, then again over night, then the aphogee balancing moisturizer 30 mins, then elasta qp dpr 11 30 mins, then keracare dc again couple hours, now im on ORS Replenishing, im only using this because this is the only thing that softened my hair before.
I'm pretty sure the ORS has protein , I'm not sure about the keracare or elasta qp.
I think I have a solution. First, stop combing and go get some aussie moise conditioner and some hello hydration conditioner. While you're there, get a huge detangling comb. I use this one in my house.
mine is either by revlon or goody, its brown.
my DD has tight 4B fine strands, and if this can detangle her hair, it will help you out.
once you get it, slather it on, saturate your hair to the point that you can feel it. they give great slippage.
Then with the tail end of a rat tail comb, begin detangling the knots and mattes. (I HAD to do this over the summer to my 5 yr old neice's hair because her mother had not been combing her hair to the root and her hair had essentially started trying to lock up in the middle.)
Ok, after you've detangled the mattes and chunks, apply some coconut or olive oil and massage it into your scalp, and carefully coat your hair(on top of the conditioner). if you are loosing so many hairs, then either you have an issue with shedding or your hair is severely weak.
Now, this may seem like a lot of combing, but now comb it through, from root to tips with the big detangling comb. You need to get rid o shedding hairs and seperate it all out. put on a plastic cap and sit under the dryer.
finally, rinse it out and comb it through as you rinse, to prevent tangles, put coconut oil, or olive oil on your hair and plop it into a pony. don't be stingy with the oil either.
sometimes you have to limit what products you put on your hair so you can see what shape your hair is really in. the oil will just help weigh it down, and hold in some moisture.
good luck.