Okay Ladies...PSA

[Eisani]

Sure - I totally understand. It is hard to ask for help sometimes.... I hope that no one does feel limited.... But I also hope people use common sense...


:blowkiss::blowkiss:

...is so relative these days. Looking at the last few pages, the convo has turned from it's original intent, which is proof positive that sometimes the more you read, the more likely we are to forget the OP's original question/comment and digress to something totally different. Gym makes a very valid point about not being afraid or apprehensive (better word) about trying something simply based on another person's experience. Before even coming to this site, I always read up on things I wanted to know about products and hair care. That's how I found this place. I see a lot of posts where someone states that such n such is bad for you or don't use this w/only one single "source of truth" to back it up and then someone else will say "Oh no, don't tell me that I can't use XYZ anymore?!" instead of reading up on the stuff for themselves. I don't know, but for me you can talk to me til you're blue in the face but I need to see if for myself and see how it applies to me before I believe it. Research is vital and I see the points made by both sides but while patience is not one of my strong points, my tolerance for BS is even lower so a lot of threads I just avoid. For newbies, and vets alike, if you have a question and the search feature isn't working, ASK! Just like you're free to ask a question, others are free to not answer-it works both ways, but I wish a MF would tell me I can't ask a question...Don't ever feel intimidated to ask. We're here (most of us) to support each other even if it means someone comes in and provides a link to another post w/the info you're looking for.

 

[napgurl]

Oh no not at all. I totally understood what you were saying. Sometimes that is neccesary. I didn't want you to think that this thread was about bashing newbies or about telling people what they can and can not post. I have been here for about 3 years now with nearly 12,000 posts so I have answered and posted many questions myself. I understand how fustrating the hair thang can be; I chased my tail so to speak in circles for almost 2 years and don't get me starte on this weird patch of split ends I keep fighting with now I just want people to not be afraid of something or a technique just because so in so, including myself didn't like it. In the end you have to be willing to absorb all of the haircare basics, figure out your hair, and then go from there. Sometimes I see people that have already written off certain things but only because of someone elses experience with it. Sometimes, the things we write off could be just what we needed in the first place.

I get where you are coming from. Basically getting to know your hair sometimes takes trial and error. If members are afraid to try new things then it may take longer or hinder their ability to know and grow their hair. Got it and this was a good and beneficial post.

 

[Lucky's Mom]

I also have to add something - a distinction, if you please.

I can totally respect (and deeply appreciate) someone who asks even marginally educated questions - questions that indicate that you have done at least some reading, and are trying to get clarification on a topic - or expanding your current info.

*sigh*


I REALLY don't want lurkers, and infrequent posters to feel intimidated by this thread. The impression (and information) we are trying to get across is read, then ask.

The idea is NOT that asking is a bad thing - the gods know, it's the second best way to further your personal education. The point is, please make the effort to educate yourself first, then ask.

*grin*

I'm also going to semi put myself out there and say - I don't mind PM's. In fact, if you want a really detailed answer from me on something, PM me - at the same time, I'll be honest and say that if I think you are asking something that can be best answered by doing a quick search, I will tell you so.

amen girl..................... ITA with all that you shared. Especially the bolded.

 

[LaidBak]

Newbie alert....read this thread!