ok - I feel horrible and weak!!

[nomoweavesfome]

I did it - I grabbed the creamy crack and did a touch up after I was so sure I would transition - I held on 16 weeks the longest I went without a relaxer for all my life. What made me do it?

Perhaps I was tired of walking aroung lookin unkempt like a ham, perhaps the holidays are coming up and I'll be around family and don't wanna look like I let myself go.

Perhaps I was just impatient, perhaps I just don't like my natural curl pattern and it was not like I expected or wanted.

Perhaps because I was so close to my goal of brastrap , I just couldn't resist. I don't know- but I feel dissapointed I was not strong enough to continue the journey. So many of us are transitioning, and I dropped out of class. I'm a failure -

well now that I beat myself up - here's the progress-or lack thereof - I lost so much hair and it is so thin from set backs, which was my reason for transitioning in the first place. here goes:

 

[Toy]

Its ok,Your hair is so pretty and shiny.

 

[SparklingFlame]

You are NOT a failure!
It only sounds like you changed your mind thats all. Nothing at all wrong with that.

Stop beating yourself up.

Your hair looks GREAT too!

 

[nappystorm]

I did it - I grabbed the creamy crack and did a touch up after I was so sure I would transition - I held on 16 weeks the longest I went without a relaxer for all my life. What made me do it?

Perhaps I was tired of walking aroung lookin unkempt like a ham, perhaps the holidays are coming up and I'll be around family and don't wanna look like I let myself go.

Perhaps I was just impatient, perhaps I just don't like my natural curl pattern and it was not like I expected or wanted.

Perhaps because I was so close to my goal of brastrap , I just couldn't resist. I don't know- but I feel dissapointed I was not strong enough to continue the journey. So many of us are transitioning, and I dropped out of class. I'm a failure -

well now that I beat myself up - here's the progress-or lack thereof - I lost so much hair and it is so thin from set backs, which was my reason for transitioning in the first place. here goes:

A friend of mine told me she was tired of looking unkempt so she relaxed her hair. Interesting...

Anyway this happened to me too. Maybe you just need to BC. The was no way in hayle I could have transitioned

 

[nappystorm]

I think I read on here about somebody getting weekly trims to transition. You can try that also

 

[SparklingFlame]

A friend of mine told me she was tired of looking unkempt so she relaxed her hair. Interesting...

Anyway this happened to me too. Maybe you just need to BC. The was no way in hayle I could have transitioned

Girl I know for a FACT I couldnt transition.
It was so easy to just deal with my natural hair by itself andnot have to battle with the two textures.

 

[mariofmagdal]

Hugs 2 U! I agree with previous poster, you are not a failure, you just changed your mind. Your hair is very pretty.

 

[nomoweavesfome]

thank you for comps everybody- I just could cry - I just have issues - Iadmit it when most won't- I hate my hair relaxed- I hate it natural- It's just not doing what I want. I could use a hug- sniff sniff

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

Stop being so hard on yourself. What do you mean, you failed??? erplexed

Baby your hair, lay off the heat and i guarantee you hair will continue to thrive. Maybe you weren't ready to transition right now but in the future you may be.

 

[RegaLady]

thank you for comps everybody- I just could cry - I just have issues - Iadmit it when most won't- I hate my hair relaxed- I hate it natural- It's just not doing what I want. I could use a hug- sniff sniff

You are a success! Even though you did not stick to a plan you originally had, you went 16 WEEKS without a touch up. That is great!!!!! Your hair looks pretty and shiny, you have no idea. You are just disappointed that you did not stick to your plan. So it changed, so what? I think we all have some type of issues regarding our hair. Love your hair in whatever state it is, it's yours and you ain't getting another head of hair.

 

[SparklingFlame]

thank you for comps everybody- I just could cry - I just have issues - Iadmit it when most won't- I hate my hair relaxed- I hate it natural- It's just not doing what I want. I could use a hug- sniff sniff

Well....you can always shave your hair off. I dont get no easier than that!

 

[Brooklyn72]

OMG! Please don't be so sad. At the end of the day it is hair. While I'm sure you are disapointed with having to relax your hair, you can always try again.

 

[gissellr78]

Your hair looks good!

Look at the positive...You stretched 16 weeks!!!! congrats

 

[msa]

I did it - I grabbed the creamy crack and did a touch up after I was so sure I would transition - I held on 16 weeks the longest I went without a relaxer for all my life. What made me do it?

Perhaps I was tired of walking aroung lookin unkempt like a ham, perhaps the holidays are coming up and I'll be around family and don't wanna look like I let myself go.

You were 16 weeks post...so you had like 1-2 inches of natural hair? If you felt like that with only a couple inches of natural hair then perhaps it's better you relaxed.

thank you for comps everybody- I just could cry - I just have issues - Iadmit it when most won't- I hate my hair relaxed- I hate it natural- It's just not doing what I want. I could use a hug- sniff sniff

I think you have a serious case of not appreciating what you have. Even with setbacks and what not your hair looks great. IMO, you should put your hair away for awhile...braids, kinky twists, a weave, something. That way you'll have some time away from it and be able to reevaluate what you want to do.

 

[Southernbella.]

It just wasn't time. My first transition failed, so I relaxed and got to MBL before I finally went natural. I think I had to do that so that I fulfilled all my relaxed goals before I went natural for good.

Don't beat yourself up! When it's time for you to go natural, nothing will stop you.

 

[1QTPie]

Your hair looks good, whatchu crying about?

When you really want to experiment with unprocessed hair, you will, so until then, whatever. This is why I recommend just chopping it slam off. BUT of course that's not for everyone.

Don't be sad, you're looking fly. fuggitaboutit!

 

[BostonMaria]

OP, don't beat yourself up! It took me 7 yrs to transition successfully! I wasn't ready. Now its been 2 yrs since I last used a relaxer and I'm very happy and BSL. Don't give up. You can try again from this point forward.

 

[Irresistible]

give your natural hair more time if you try again

 

[The Princess]

Your hair looked good. Its so shiney. You did good.

 

[danigurl18]

Don't think of yourself as a failure! Your hair is gorgeous and everyone can't do it!!

 

[PinkSkates]

Its okay...doesn't sound like you were ready to manage your natural texture. So just enjoy and concentrate on having healthy, growing relaxed hair.

 

[Muse]

You have to wear your hair for you and no one else. People can preach transitioning to you but at the end of the day you have to deal with your hair, no one's gonna style it for you. Don't feel like a failure you can have relaxed hair that is not dry, breaking and falling out just take care of it.

I felt that way after I went back to weekly heat styling. After hearing how bad it was I stopped but I couldn't style my 4b transitioning hair to save my life! But now I realize I can do whatever I want to my hair without feeling guilty as long as I do it responsibly(that's the key). I am now as proud about giving myself a nice flat iron as someone is who gets a touch up. It's ok.