Offended by a hair suggestion?

[CaliDiamond]

My sister is like that too.
Complain, complain, complain but refused to listen.

I've just lately gotten her to use better products but she shampoos several times a week and pulls it back into the same tired ponytail.
She's barely sl while I've gone from nl to sl to apl to bsl to sl...

I once reccomended her to try Pyhtospecific relaxer because her hair (like mine) is very fine. Her comment: "yeah, maybe (eye-balling and tugging on my hair). It'll probably work good for me beacuse I have better hair than you (once upon a time she had 3a/3b hair). You can buy me one the next time you're in France."

Yeah right.
I actually have a box in my closet, but I'd rather give it away to a stranger than give it to her.

LOL. Your hair looks gorgeous BTW.

 

[CaliDiamond]

WEEELLLLP..y'all were right.lol. My sister was doing her hair yesterday (a lifetime grease user) and told me, " I read online that petroleum was bad for hair. They were saying that I should use natural oils."

*tear* I am so proud of her. She also cut off a few dead inches this past weekend and wore her hair out yesterday.

Thanks for all of your responses ladies. My sis and I can now talk pleasantly about haircare!

 

[vainღ♥♡jane]

if your hair is longer and looks better than someone elses, then no, you cannot give out advice. if your hair is short and chewed off, feel free to offer all the advice you want, specifically to people with hair longer and better lookin than yours.


yal know thats how it go. ♥

 

[hillytmj]

I've been offended by hair suggestions when the person kept going on and on about why they were right despite my personal feelings. I'm firing my stylist for telling me 15 millions times she needs to cut 2-3 inches of my ends every single relaxer. When I used to let her do all of that cutting, I remained neck length. Now, I'm approaching full WL because I handle my own trims and she's still complaining.

I guess the moral of the story is hair advice can be offensive depending on:
1. if the advice was unsolicited
2. the person giving the advice keeps burdening the person in a negative way

 

[Qetesh]

it can be a touchy subject. within a group a friends i have its easy we share what works for us etc. one thing that can annoy me about it, is if i say something i like at times they just write it of saying that MY hair is different then yours... so it probably wont work with me. that can irk me but then there are products some of my 4b gfs swear by that weighs down and looks like crap on my hair, (miss jessies..)

overall its a huge trial and error on what works for your hair and everyone is specific, it doesn't always have to do with hair type either, but more peoples chemistry are different.

 

[Uber]

People can get well offended.


I'm so used to talking/reading about hair it means nothing to me. The other day I asked a writer why all her pieces focus on negative aspects of black womens hair....I was truly interested from a english literature point of view and I suppose I wanted to take the opportunity to educate. She never replied and a someone else responded to my question rudely.


Whatever.....their loss!