kurlybella
Well-Known Member
how much time do you give a relationship before you end it? how long do you give yourself to stay with someone -- this is for the ladies that are looking/dating to find their SO?
this is not about back and forth craziness many of us have been through.
i don't do that anymore. off and on off and on.
i don't like to waste my time.
when i meet a guy (WORTHY OF DATING, i.e. not cause he has a nice job and a benz) and date him i give myself 3-6 months to see where it's going.
unless it's super magnetic, i give it 3 mos to go exclusive - i like to date slow and take my time.
at the 6 mo mark -- i either stay or go and this is based upon a few vital questions:
do i want to marry/partner with this man?
would i want this man to be the father of any child i bear?
is he the kind of man that i would have wanted for a father?
is he responsible? (encompassing all aspects of responsibility)
do i trust him? (encompassing all aspects of trust)
do i want to spend the rest of my life with him?
i'm 1000000% honest with myself in these answers. if the answer is no to any of the above or i hesitate, i take the time to reflect on the question at hand, give myself a few weeks to sort it out and if i still come up with no or any doubts, i bounce. god gives us intuition for a reason.
it's like a stock, if it's doing bad, i pull out. good, i invest more money and purchase more shares. no need to go broke when you have control over the situation.
in most cases, it does not take a year or years and years to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. and yeah, there are always exceptions to the rules of course.
but don't tell my cousin that who's been trying to get married for the last 20 to a woman that won't marry him. he's a nut for that.
and tell that to my sis who married happily after a year or so and is 17 yrs strong.
so how long do you give a relationship before you end it (if need be)?
and for those that found their SO, how soon did it hit you that he was the one for you?
this is not about back and forth craziness many of us have been through.
i don't do that anymore. off and on off and on.
i don't like to waste my time.
when i meet a guy (WORTHY OF DATING, i.e. not cause he has a nice job and a benz) and date him i give myself 3-6 months to see where it's going.
unless it's super magnetic, i give it 3 mos to go exclusive - i like to date slow and take my time.
at the 6 mo mark -- i either stay or go and this is based upon a few vital questions:
do i want to marry/partner with this man?
would i want this man to be the father of any child i bear?
is he the kind of man that i would have wanted for a father?
is he responsible? (encompassing all aspects of responsibility)
do i trust him? (encompassing all aspects of trust)
do i want to spend the rest of my life with him?
i'm 1000000% honest with myself in these answers. if the answer is no to any of the above or i hesitate, i take the time to reflect on the question at hand, give myself a few weeks to sort it out and if i still come up with no or any doubts, i bounce. god gives us intuition for a reason.
it's like a stock, if it's doing bad, i pull out. good, i invest more money and purchase more shares. no need to go broke when you have control over the situation.
in most cases, it does not take a year or years and years to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. and yeah, there are always exceptions to the rules of course.
but don't tell my cousin that who's been trying to get married for the last 20 to a woman that won't marry him. he's a nut for that.
and tell that to my sis who married happily after a year or so and is 17 yrs strong.
so how long do you give a relationship before you end it (if need be)?
and for those that found their SO, how soon did it hit you that he was the one for you?
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I could stand to learn a few things
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