Needing a hair mentor...

[mrslollis]

I posted this in the wrong forum sorry....

Ok so i'm pleading and begging for some help! I don't know what I'm dong wrong I have done natural twice and permed twice this is my second time perming my hair. The issue I'm having is crunchy ends.....I just don't understand. I mostly wear my hair in a wash and go type style. I get in the shower put some conditioner in it rinse most of it out put some hawaiian silky 14 in 1 in it with some oil on top.

There are some new things that I have started and maybe just need to give a chance to work.

I use a natural oil blend which I really like
and I'm now wearing a satin bonnet to bed.

I did end up relaxing I used a mizani so my hair isn't strait so I can still wear the wash and go style. I do not regret going relaxed at all

I did have mushy hair but I can tell that it's getting better.

I have grown enough hair to be able to cut it 5x because of crunchy ends. It keeps growing I just keep having crunchy ends.

I just cut like an inch and a half off. I want my hair to be long and awesome.

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/editpost.php?do=editpost&p=11537712

 

[frizzy]

Hey mrslollis, welcome. I have felt your pain. I won't hesitate to cut either, if my ends are not on point. I know that WnG's and twistout's were not kind to my ends, so I stopped wearing them. I was natural a few years back and I had splits and damage like I had never had before in my life. Being natural wasn't my problem, but how I treated my hair was a problem.

My salvation was deep conditioning 2x a week and protein conditioner once or twice a month. Your goal is to find the protein/moisture balance that is right for your hair. So if I were you, I would start by clarifying my hair, doing a protein conditioner and follow that with a moisturizing DC. Also, DC every time you wash your hair. HTH

 

[authormom]

Thanks OP for posting this. I am facing the same issue. Right now I DC 1x week and follow with Organix Coconut/Protein End Mender. I seal with essental oils and PS 99% of the time. I will try bumping up my wash/DC to 2x week and incorporate a protein condish once a month and see how that goes.

I have had to hide my scissors because I went on a search and destroy mission and trim so horribly bad/uneven ends but it can become addicting. I am 6+ weeks post relaxer and thanks to about and inch of NG I am battling shrinkage. I won't relax again for another 6 weeks. At least that's my plan.

 

[mrslollis]

frizzy what hair styles did you start doing instead of the wash and go?

 

[dachsies_rule!]

OP have you tried babying your ends by keeping them in a PS like a bun...maybe they are damaged from everyday exposure

 

[ajoke]

What if your hair is not long enough to put into a nice bun without tearing your hair out from the roots?

 

[I Am So Blessed]

wash and goes=breakage to me.

 

[Kenny-Ann]

This is a great thread. I feel like Luke Skywalker in need of my own personal Yoda. I haven't had TOO many problems with breakage, but no matter what I try, my hair always seems frizzy and a bit dry. I've tried twistouts which seem to just not want to work in my hair. Now my hair is just up in a loose ponytail, just waiting for a miracle. Any regimen, product and style ideas that anyone can give would be very much appreciated by us grasshoppers.

 

[frizzy]

frizzy what hair styles did you start doing instead of the wash and go?

Which are you speaking of, relaxed or natural hair? You're relaxed now, right?

 

[mrslollis]

haha one million months later!!!! My hair update

My hair has been growing like crazy I have promise I have cut some where between 3-4 inches since then and it turned around and grew right back! I really thought it had been a year and the only reason i know it hasn't is because of this post lol My hair is still dry like it's always been though. I haven't been perfect at keeping it up though either. I'm going to try the vaseline challenge though.

I'm still relaxed.