2. I do not DC or detangle in conditioner.. I only use a rinse out conditioner in the shower... Nothing fancy.. Garnier fructis triple something.... I always prepoo with EVCO tho... I think that's what makes mine so easy...
3. I always detangle my DAMP hair with my fingers I can't do it wet, or dry... anytime I use a comb, I lose more hair than necessary, and i'm retaining a lot more hair doing so than when I was combing. Given, I practically live in twists... However, I can envision myself detangling a shrunken fro with my fingers.. dampen hair with water, take it in little sections, run hands down the sections for a while and start separating with fingers.
Here is a video I recorded on how I detangle and stretch my hair... Bear in mind I had these twists for 3 weeks.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QYgGlRZLYcE