Nasty comments from stylists

[Savgal]

I remember when I was 13 years old and got my first relaxer. The lady who did my hair was my mother's hairdresser and her name was Edna. When this lady put her hands in my hair, she said, "Lord, I see you don't take after your mama. You got some picky hair like your daddy. Why isn't your hair soft and pretty like your mother's?" I can't even tell you how much that affected me. When I think about it now as an adult, that is just really messed up. And let me tell you how this lady's hair looked. My sister used to say that it looked like she relaxed her hair with bacon fat or something. I pretty much saw Edna once a month from the time I was 8 watching her do my mom's hair, until I went off to college. And in those 10 years, her hair was the exact same length, right at the nape of her neck. And it was always finger waved or jelled to death. I know it sounds mean, but as soon as I've got a big ol' head of natural hair down my back, I hope I see her and watch her jaw drop!!

 

[sweetcocoa]

Living well(in this case looking stunning with a head of lots of healthy hair..) is the best revenge in my opinion!
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[pebbles]

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Living well(in this case looking stunning with a head of lots of healthy hair..) is the best revenge in my opinion! /images/graemlins/grin.gif


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I second that! /images/graemlins/smile.gif

 

[elliot]

I know how you feel. One of my aunts (my mother's sister) used to say the same thing to me as a child. Plus, I was always compared to my cousin who was the same age who had soft long thick hair and mine was short and hard to manage.

 

[Guest]

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elliot said:
I know how you feel. One of my aunts (my mother's sister) used to say the same thing to me as a child. Plus, I was always compared to my cousin who was the same age who had soft long thick hair and mine was short and hard to manage.

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A neighbor's grandmother apparently said my hair looked like buckwheats because their 5 year old grandchild came outside and said "my grandma says you have buckwheat hair." I was about 9 or 10 and this was very upsetting.

 

[ms_kenesha]

My father has 3B hair and my grandmother (maternal) told my mom after my mom had been just letting me wear my hair natural, "You know she doesn't have her father's hair you're gonna have to do something with it." I guess this is why I got my first relaxer at 8 or 9 /images/graemlins/shocked.gif!!!

Also, I had this besst friend that was like 1 or 2 years older than me and I looked up to her so much. Well, one day I told my mom, "I want my hair like Jenny's" and she said, "Why? Jenny has beads (as in beady-beads) all in the back of her hair you don't want your hair like that!"
Sometimes thinking about this stuff makes me want to /images/graemlins/swearing.gif

 

[Karonica]

I remember when I was in the 6th grade. My hair was falling out terribly. And my mother didn't know what to do with it, so she loaded old S-Curl in my hair. It gave it a wet look, but my hair was falling out worse. So one of my friends said:

"Somebody said they would never touch your hair because it looks nasty."

I still wonder up to this day who said it, and what their hair looks like today. /images/graemlins/mad.gif Probably ugly with patches trynna cover it up with a nasty, tangled, dirty weave with roaches in it...ooh lemme stop! /images/graemlins/grin.gif

 

[Tracy]

had a hairdresser refuse to give me a touch up for years because she said my hair was "too soft" for one. So she insisted on pressing my hair instead even though is was already relaxed. Between that and the girls at school cutting my hair when I was young I lost most of what was once very thick and very long hair.

 

[elite_chiq]

Thats like my cuzon all she says is "your hair can't grow and it's thick, it will stay that way, just get a weave or perm because blk ppl can't grow long hair,i bet 1 curled strand of my hair is longer than alllll your hair"

that was so depressing...she said that a few months ago (b4 i found this board)

 

[UmSumayyah]

Tracy,
What happened when they cut your hair? /images/graemlins/mad.gif Did the teachers or the school or their parents ever do anything?

 

[Crysdon]

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Between that and the girls at school cutting my hair when I was young I lost most of what was once very thick and very long hair.

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OMG! My mom told me of horror stories like this when she was in high school. She said that girls with long hair had to wear their hair in buns or pinned up becaause the girls with jacked-up hair carried scissors and cut their hair. I hope those girls who did this to you were punished. /images/graemlins/mad.gif

 

[henrilou]

My mother did not help my hair self-esteem at all. My grandmother would encourage her to braid my hair at night and she would say literally, "I can't be bothered, it's all breaking off anyway..." (She had very short hair, because she didn't know how to take care of her own hair either) My hairdresser before this one:
me, "Could you be careful during comb-out? My hair breaks easy and is fragile."
Her," Fragile (smirks and sucks her teeth) yeah, right. It's not that serious."
I was absolutely dumb-founded at her comments. Needless to say, I took my fragile hair elsewhere next time.