My SO's dad is meeting up with his ex

Wait... SO's ex or SO's dad's ex?

If it's SO's ex, is this the BM in the other thread?
 
I still don't understand :lol: Does she live in the country he's visiting? Is she going to be some sort of tour guide for a vacation or is he flying out specifically to be with her?
 
I'm lost.

I think I get it though...you want your SO's dad to be "loyal" to you since you are the current grlfriend. You feel pissed b/c SO's dad is aware that you had issues w/SO's ex.
 
Could you tell us again what is going on in complete thoughts? You are saying that you and your SO and this ex life in the US, correct? Further you are saying that your SO's father on his way to the US to visit his son also wants to see his son's ex to say hello?

What kind of trouble has she caused in the past? Was your SO's father involved in the past trouble?
 
Fine 4s said:
Can you elaborate please I need help processing. Are you implying that my SO is behind it or that this is even a problem? I'm lost here feel blind sided....
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I was just saying that the ex is not the problem or issue. If the ex is involved in your life or somehow affecting it, then it is your SO's fault and responsibility to fix the situation. She can't cause problems in your relationship unless you guys let her.

Who cares if she goes to dinner with your SO's ex? That something for your SO to handle (or not handle). You aren't in a relationship with the ex, you are in a relationship with your SO.
 
Okay Fine 4s, I read all the posts thru #14 so far and now I'm wondering...

Does your SO's father know about you?

And is your SO's father going out on a date with SO's ex (as in wanting to get to know her and be with her)?

If so, are you worried SO's father and SO's ex could get into a serious relationship to where they could possibly get married and your SO's ex could become your step-mother-in-law if you one day marry your SO?

:spinning:

Trying to figure out why you're pissed.... is your SO back in contact with his ex in some type of way?
 
He is causing the problem if he never said this:

"Hi Dad, yeah, I'm not with hobbity-blobbity. Sure catch up with her if you like, but spare me the details and she doesnt need to call me to confirm anything... yeah that might cause problems with my current relationship... Naw, i wont elaborate, but just do that okay? Yeah, dad - have a great time!"

So, you (4s) shouldn't tell Daddy Dearest anything... Mr. SO is should be handling this.

It sounds like he is allowing something you've conveyed to him that you're uncomfortable with.

hth
 
Fine 4s said:
Poohbear

Yes the SO's father knows me very well. We stayed at his house in his country two months ago.

No he just wants to see her, catch up I guess. Can't say what his intentions are exactly. My SO was engaged to her, they were together 7 yrs so I'm sure they got somewhat close.

No my SO and her are not in touch.

I think the less emotional I am the more I can see clearly that I have no control here! And maybe that's really what I'm upset about. A poster above nailed my feelings. I wish his father could move like he has though.....
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Fine 4s, now that I think of it, I can see why you feel a certain way, but keep in mind that it's totally out of your control....

Even though your SO was previously engaged to his ex and they were together for 7 years, it still would make me feel a bit uncomfortable for his dad to be meeting up with her...especially since he lives out of the country and is willing to travel long distance to see his son's ex-girlfriend. That is just strange...unless they are just the closest of buddies and extreme extroverts. I don't know.

What does your SO say about all this? How long have you been with your SO? What does your SO's father think of you?
 
Sometimes, I wish I could vent and not have to have a track record of the embarrassing vents lol Wish I could delete threads!
 
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So you're mad because your man's dad is going to lunch with your man's ex? Who cares? Like really? Who cares? Unless I'm not reading the OP right.
 
If my SO's parents took his ex out to dinner and I wasn't too fond of her, I would be upset as well.

I personally would not give her the satisfaction of knowing that this is something that was bothering you though. It's okay to vent but just leave it alone. At the end of the day how does his father keeping in touch with his ex, effect the relationship between you and your SO?
 
are you close with your SO's dad? what does your SO's mom say? unless you were close with the dad and the family, i kind of see it as the dad doing his own thing.....it sucks but the dad can have his own relationships as he sees fit. he's not trying to invite her to your home or anything.

now if you were close with SO's dad and the family- that's a different story...
 
I 100% get where you are coming from. I went through it.

I would try my best not to let it get to me though. It can be just as hard for families that go through breakups as it is for the person. If you arent too close to the father and she was I see how it can be touchy. Just talk through your emotions with SO and definitely let SO know to handle it.
 
He might be screwin da ex...ya neva know. Who travels across international waters to visit somebody? He don't know how to write, text or skype? You mean he comin to america just to see da ex?

Im confused.
 
I wouldn't care. Sometimes parents develop close friendly relationships with the people their children date and marry. Just because those two fell out doesn't mean the parents are going to cut the ex off.
 
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