seraphim712
Well-Known Member
Not physically... just emotionally. But I guess it starts to hurt physically when it feels like it's being squeezed from the emotional pain.
Is it unfair to think, I've done so many things for you, but what have you done for me? I couldn't help but think this after helping someone, esp. a family member for the 20th time, but I berate myself for thinking so selfishly and that I'm supposed to help my family no matter what...
The Cause? Here's a List:
Is it unfair to think, ' I've done so many things for you, but what have you done for me?' I couldn't help but thinking this after helping someone, esp. a family member for the 20th time, but I berate myself for thinking so selfishly, and that I'm supposed to help my family and loved ones no matter what: For example;When my mom calls and asks if I recieved my tax refund so I can buy her a birthday present(she told mespecifically what she wanted). This is where my selfish thinking comes to mind. I begin to think about how many times in the past where I didn't get what I asked for, and while in college she never called to wish me a happy birthday or sent me a gift. This is when I start scolding myself for thinking like that. Regardless,I love my mom and would go to the ends of the earth to get what she asked for.
When my significant other and I agree to do something together but ends up with him doing it by himself leaving me shorthanded: For example:We planned to file our taxes on the same day that was convenient for the both us due to the fact that we're both in college and have different class schedules. So we planned to get our taxes filed on the day we didn't have any classes at all (which is Thursday). But he ends up waking up earlier and doing it himself without letting me know, (and this was on a Wednesday!!!). So when I confront him about it/ he says that I was asleep and that he didn't want to wake me up. I confronted him about the fact that we were to do it on Thursday, but he didn't really have a plausible answer for that.
When people always assume the worst of me: For example I go to file my taxes today, and my significant other is with me, but then leaves to go wait in the car. When it came around for me to pay for the taxes being filed, I told the tax counselor ( I forgot the name you're suppose to call them) to take the payment out of my return. She tells me that I couldn't do that since my refund was going to be mailed to me instead of deposited into my bank acct.( I didn't have my routing number avail.) I told her that I was certain that she could deduct it automatically from my refund because I did the same thing last time.
Me guessing that the policies changed went ahead and paid with my debit card. So I finish up and get into the car. I ask him if he had to pay cash to file his taxes, he says no and that it was deducted from his refund which wasn't going to be to be deposited in his bank acct. He was getting his refund in the form of a check same as me. I told him what happened and said that she didn't know what she was doing and that he knew this from the beginning. I then asked "Well if you knew this, why didn't you stay to inform her just in case she and I overlooked something" (cause I was confused when it came down to certain things, and when I asked, she couldn't really explain properly). His reply "Well, I thought you didn't want me to be in there with you when you got your taxes filed, so I left." That answer confused me because he was with me last year when I filed my taxes, and he knows that if I didn't want him there, I would have let him known.(I informed him of that as well) But to me he seemed to have meant that I didn't want him there just to be a b**ch to him, which I don't do to people.
He said that he had a different person( at the same place) to do his taxes and that I should've asked him the name of the tax counselor so that person could've done my taxes. But in a place where I didn't expect things like that to happen, I didn't ask. That's when I told him that was the reason why we should've filed them on the same day. This made me depressed and sad. (I think he notice this since he didn't say much when he dropped me off at my apt.)
When your friends seem to forget that you were there friend: For example, my friend that I know now in college. When I ask her if she wants to go the the movies with me, she'll say no because the reason was that she had to work that day. But I find out through casual conversation with someone else the following day that she went to the movies with a group of friends that she and I both know, the same day I asked her. Or when she'll go hang out with friends that she and I both know but won't tell me.
The reason I mentioned that is due to the fact that the friends that were with her at that time ask me later on why I wasn't there to have fun. I let them know that I wasn't informed or asked to come, so when they ask her why she didn't tell me( since she's the only one who has my cell number), she'll say that it was because she was asked and didn't know if it was okay to ask me. They responded (which I've heard them say this before to someone else) if any of us knew someone else would like to come and hang out, just invite them since it's a gathering of friends to have fun, and that she knew this. To make matters worse, they all hang out at a place that's only 10 min away from where I live and have been doing so for while and she knew this.
All in all, I just had to get it off my chest and I feel a bit better by doing so. It just hurts because when I do try to sit down an talk about how some of these subjects make me feel (except for the one with my mom), I get either a smart ass remark, bad attitude, a deer caught in headlights reaction, or a shrug off. I guess it's because I'm always nice and not try to get angry. So if I do try to express something like wanting my own space to my significant other, for example, he'll take it as me not wanting to be around him at all. But it's just that I want some alone time to myself for a couple of hours.
And I always get put into the category of being like an old lady...erplexed
Since I'm always inside and reading, but when want to go out, everyone seems to be busy or occupied with everything else.
Update:
I don't know after reading this after I post it... I guess I am selfish and this entire post was nothing more that a meaningless rant... I apologize for typing it.
Is it unfair to think, I've done so many things for you, but what have you done for me? I couldn't help but think this after helping someone, esp. a family member for the 20th time, but I berate myself for thinking so selfishly and that I'm supposed to help my family no matter what...
The Cause? Here's a List:
Is it unfair to think, ' I've done so many things for you, but what have you done for me?' I couldn't help but thinking this after helping someone, esp. a family member for the 20th time, but I berate myself for thinking so selfishly, and that I'm supposed to help my family and loved ones no matter what: For example;When my mom calls and asks if I recieved my tax refund so I can buy her a birthday present(she told mespecifically what she wanted). This is where my selfish thinking comes to mind. I begin to think about how many times in the past where I didn't get what I asked for, and while in college she never called to wish me a happy birthday or sent me a gift. This is when I start scolding myself for thinking like that. Regardless,I love my mom and would go to the ends of the earth to get what she asked for.
When my significant other and I agree to do something together but ends up with him doing it by himself leaving me shorthanded: For example:We planned to file our taxes on the same day that was convenient for the both us due to the fact that we're both in college and have different class schedules. So we planned to get our taxes filed on the day we didn't have any classes at all (which is Thursday). But he ends up waking up earlier and doing it himself without letting me know, (and this was on a Wednesday!!!). So when I confront him about it/ he says that I was asleep and that he didn't want to wake me up. I confronted him about the fact that we were to do it on Thursday, but he didn't really have a plausible answer for that.
When people always assume the worst of me: For example I go to file my taxes today, and my significant other is with me, but then leaves to go wait in the car. When it came around for me to pay for the taxes being filed, I told the tax counselor ( I forgot the name you're suppose to call them) to take the payment out of my return. She tells me that I couldn't do that since my refund was going to be mailed to me instead of deposited into my bank acct.( I didn't have my routing number avail.) I told her that I was certain that she could deduct it automatically from my refund because I did the same thing last time.
Me guessing that the policies changed went ahead and paid with my debit card. So I finish up and get into the car. I ask him if he had to pay cash to file his taxes, he says no and that it was deducted from his refund which wasn't going to be to be deposited in his bank acct. He was getting his refund in the form of a check same as me. I told him what happened and said that she didn't know what she was doing and that he knew this from the beginning. I then asked "Well if you knew this, why didn't you stay to inform her just in case she and I overlooked something" (cause I was confused when it came down to certain things, and when I asked, she couldn't really explain properly). His reply "Well, I thought you didn't want me to be in there with you when you got your taxes filed, so I left." That answer confused me because he was with me last year when I filed my taxes, and he knows that if I didn't want him there, I would have let him known.(I informed him of that as well) But to me he seemed to have meant that I didn't want him there just to be a b**ch to him, which I don't do to people.
He said that he had a different person( at the same place) to do his taxes and that I should've asked him the name of the tax counselor so that person could've done my taxes. But in a place where I didn't expect things like that to happen, I didn't ask. That's when I told him that was the reason why we should've filed them on the same day. This made me depressed and sad. (I think he notice this since he didn't say much when he dropped me off at my apt.)
When your friends seem to forget that you were there friend: For example, my friend that I know now in college. When I ask her if she wants to go the the movies with me, she'll say no because the reason was that she had to work that day. But I find out through casual conversation with someone else the following day that she went to the movies with a group of friends that she and I both know, the same day I asked her. Or when she'll go hang out with friends that she and I both know but won't tell me.
The reason I mentioned that is due to the fact that the friends that were with her at that time ask me later on why I wasn't there to have fun. I let them know that I wasn't informed or asked to come, so when they ask her why she didn't tell me( since she's the only one who has my cell number), she'll say that it was because she was asked and didn't know if it was okay to ask me. They responded (which I've heard them say this before to someone else) if any of us knew someone else would like to come and hang out, just invite them since it's a gathering of friends to have fun, and that she knew this. To make matters worse, they all hang out at a place that's only 10 min away from where I live and have been doing so for while and she knew this.
All in all, I just had to get it off my chest and I feel a bit better by doing so. It just hurts because when I do try to sit down an talk about how some of these subjects make me feel (except for the one with my mom), I get either a smart ass remark, bad attitude, a deer caught in headlights reaction, or a shrug off. I guess it's because I'm always nice and not try to get angry. So if I do try to express something like wanting my own space to my significant other, for example, he'll take it as me not wanting to be around him at all. But it's just that I want some alone time to myself for a couple of hours.
And I always get put into the category of being like an old lady...erplexed
Since I'm always inside and reading, but when want to go out, everyone seems to be busy or occupied with everything else.
Update:
I don't know after reading this after I post it... I guess I am selfish and this entire post was nothing more that a meaningless rant... I apologize for typing it.