My Hair Confessional

[robot.]

Kind of a spinny from femmemuscle's last thread. 'Fess up. Good, bad, and in between.

My first confessional:

There's a friend I've had for a few years now. Smart, pretty girl. She's been relaxed for most of her life and in the years I've known her, her hair has never been past shoulder length. Thin ends, thin hair, the usual. I never say anything to her and if she likes her hair, I love it. She believes in the "good hair" thang and she'll let you know when it's time for her touch-up.

Just this week, I got the idea to measure my growth against hers. I've known her for maybe two years. Two years from my BC, I think my stretched hair will be at least as long as hers, if not longer. I don't really feel "badly" about this, but at the same time, I know this is NOTHING I would ever bring up in conversation to anyone.

 

[robot.]

When I walk alone on campus, looking all cute and collegiate, I imagine my hair is in a ponytail, just swinging and swaying and just generally looking fly. I also imagine the black girls look at me while I walk by because few of them are near APL.

 

[robot.]

Whenever I can't sleep at night, I imagine manly fingers giving me a scalp massage. It works!

 

[robot.]

My hair makes me so frigging happy. So happy, that I'm scared if I tell someone just HOW HAPPY I get, they'd think I was obsessed or something. I love washing in it, playing in it, touching it, looking at it, erry'thang...

 

[Dee-Licious]

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[robot.]

oke:.....

 

[Bulletproof]

Just wanted to say you always have great threads and when i think of some I will contribute.

 

[robot.]

Thanks!

And I figured a lot of us have hair thoughts and no particular vehicle in which to voice them. So just "confess" it.

I saw one girl on YT who used shampoo with no conditioner! She know she need to cleanse her soul for that one!

 

[Chaosbutterfly]

I confess:

Whenever I walk down the street, and see a girl with chewed up hair eyeing my head, I feel good inside. I know it's mean, like, you shouldn't rejoice in the suffering of others, but I can't help myself.

When I'm calculating how much money I made for the day (I get paid hourly), I always think of it in terms of products. Ex. "Oh, I made 30 dollars today. That's six bottles of Vatika Oil, goody!"

When people knock on my door and I'm busy doing my hair, I have NO problem pretending like I'm not there. I don't even care who it is.

I'm kind of obsessed with my hair, and frequently tilt my head ALLLL the way back to see how long it will go. Once, I actually cracked my neck doing that.

 

[GodivaChocolate]

Almost every night I visualize my hair pushing itself out of my scalp..growing longer and longer.

I also visualize and pretend that I pull my strands and they extend just a little past my waist....
I'm gonna get there!!!

 

[robot.]

When I'm calculating how much money I made for the day (I get paid hourly), I always think of it in terms of products. Ex. "Oh, I made 30 dollars today. That's six bottles of Vatika Oil, goody!"

Dang, girl.

 

[Odd One]

ok ok ok personal confession

I have a good female friend that I have not seen in some years now... I have many reasons for thatm but the main one is that ive always admired her hair (SL relaxed and she got that swang!)

I always push back to make sure that she will be impressed when she sees my hair lol

 

[Poranges]

As much as I love supporting Shescenit, I get other products from her so I'll still be supporting her...but I can not continue to buy the seyani butter, its too small of a jar for $9.00 bucks + Shipping. I have lots of coconut and avocado oil, I ordered some fragrance and am getting my mother to send me some pure shea butter. Its time to DIM.....

 

[robot.]

I was thinking of trying that too. How small is it? Like, 4 oz?

 

[MochaEyeCandy]

I'm really in love with my hair right now. I can't keep my hands out of it. I'm always fingering my kinks and coils . If fondling hair was a crime, I'd be on death row...and I wouldn't have it any other way

 

[Poranges]

I was thinking of trying that too. How small is it? Like, 4 oz?

Yup. 4 oz..Lasts me about a month. I bought 2 (16) oz. & 2 (8) oz. jars. When I mix up my butter the bigger sizes will be for skin and the smaller for hair. At least those two jars will last me 4 months. . My mom is sending me 8 lbs of SB so that should be enough to fill all the jars.

 

[robot.]

Ohh, yeah 4 oz would not be enough, especially if you had long/thick hair.

Where do you get your jars from? I've been looking for some nice ones. I can't keep using tupperware forever.

 

[locabouthair]

As much as I love supporting Shescenit, I get other products from her so I'll still be supporting her...but I can not continue to buy the seyani butter, its too small of a jar for $9.00 bucks + Shipping. I have lots of coconut and avocado oil, I ordered some fragrance and am getting my mother to send me some pure shea butter. Its time to DIM.....

Isnt she supposed to be having a sale this month? I really wanted to try her products.

My confessions: I refuse to see the movie Good Hair with my female friends because I can't take the ignorance. I will go see it with the ladies on the board.

My friend gave me wild growth oil to use. I dont like it and I told her it would not help with growth but I felt bad so I took it. She swears it grew her hair but I really dont think it makes hair grow. I gave it to my mom

I refuse to talk about hair with people that arent on the board. Anytime my friends ask about my hair I try to change the subject but they keep insisting on talking about it and it irks my nerves because they keep asking about my wig.

My mother told me the other night that everyone isnt meant to have hair past their shoulders. Everytime someone has pretty hair it's because their mixed. I CANNOT wait till my hair grows so I can prove her wrong.

 

[Poranges]

Ohh, yeah 4 oz would not be enough, especially if you had long/thick hair.

Where do you get your jars from? I've been looking for some nice ones. I can't keep using tupperware forever.

My jars:

https://www.fromnaturewithlove.com/product.asp?product_id=jarflint16g

https://www.fromnaturewithlove.com/product.asp?product_id=jarflint8b

I will reuse them. Just soak them in some hot water with a good cleansing product after all my product is finished. Then whip up more butter!

 

[Poranges]

Isnt she supposed to be having a sale this month? I really wanted to try her products.

Don't get me wrong her products are AWESOME! She gives me THREE of my staples which I could rave about for days. The seyani butter just is something I can do myself. I am pretty sure she is to be having a blowout sale this month.

 

[robot.]

Loca, my mom is the same way. Can't tell her nothing. She complains about her hair. No hairline for braids, wigs make her too hot, etc. She had the nerve to relax AND color.

She was complaining the other day and I suggested going natural. She looked at ME all cockeyed. She told me, she was growing out her relaxer bit by bit so that she would get a wave nouveau.

I can't wait to show her how GORGEOUS my hair is. Only reason it doesn't curl now is because of the scab hair, but once it gets longer, ooh, I'm gonna shake it right in her face.

 

[locabouthair]

Loca, my mom is the same way. Can't tell her nothing. She complains about her hair. No hairline for braids, wigs make her too hot, etc. She had the nerve to relax AND color.

She was complaining the other day and I suggested going natural. She looked at ME all cockeyed. She told me, she was growing out her relaxer bit by bit so that she would get a wave nouveau.

I can't wait to show her how GORGEOUS my hair is. Only reason it doesn't curl now is because of the scab hair, but once it gets longer, ooh, I'm gonna shake it right in her face.

Yep sometimes they have to see it before they believe it.

I cant wait to see the look on my mothers face when my hair gets past my shoulders.

 

[robot.]

A few weeks ago, my boyfriend said, "Pretty much everybody but black people have good hair."

I did not know what to say. I reminded him, his sister was black (and natural), his mother is black, nicca, I'M BLACK. And told him people of every race can have jacked up hair and ended the conversation right then and there.

I still don't know what to say. What's weird is, I didn't take too much offense to it and IDK why. Maybe because I know the poor thing is ignorant.

I honestly think if we were in the same room, and that came out of his mouth, I would've slapped him dead in it.

 

[Poranges]

Loca, my mom is the same way. Can't tell her nothing. She complains about her hair. No hairline for braids, wigs make her too hot, etc. She had the nerve to relax AND color.

She was complaining the other day and I suggested going natural. She looked at ME all cockeyed. She told me, she was growing out her relaxer bit by bit so that she would get a wave nouveau.

I can't wait to show her how GORGEOUS my hair is. Only reason it doesn't curl now is because of the scab hair, but once it gets longer, ooh, I'm gonna shake it right in her face.

My mom used to be that way, but when she saw me go from ear length to full SL in a year, she was converted. The fact that I'm an inch away from APL she puts ALL of her trust in me. I made her transition to natural, my mum has that hair that CANNOT take a relaxer and it was killing her hair. I made a butter for her and bought her some jane carter moisturizer, a shampoo bar and DC. She went from an amber rose to a BAA in 1.5 years. She's loving it and her hair grows waaaay faster than mine.

 

[robot.]

My mom used to be that way, but when she saw me go from ear length to full SL in a year, she was converted. The fact that I'm an inch away from APL she puts ALL of her trust in me. I made her transition to natural, my mum has that hair that CANNOT take a relaxer and it was killing her hair. I made a butter for her and bought her some jane carter moisturizer, a shampoo bar and DC. She went from an amber rose to a BAA in 1.5 years. She's loving it and her hair grows waaaay faster than mine.

Aw, that's such a sweet story! Your mother is clearly awesome. Mine, not so much.

 

[locabouthair]

A few weeks ago, my boyfriend said, "Pretty much everybody but black people have good hair."

I did not know what to say. I reminded him, his sister was black (and natural), his mother is black, nicca, I'M BLACK. And told them people of every race can have jacked up hair.

I still don't know what to say. What's weird is, I didn't take too much offense to it and IDK why. Maybe because I know the poor thing is ignorant.

I honestly think if we were in the same room, and that came out of his mouth, I would've slapped him dead in it.

I would have been so mad. I REALLY hate that black people have these bad views about our hair, skin, etc. Hundreds of years later and people still think the same way.

 

[Poranges]

Aw, that's such a sweet story! Your mother is clearly awesome. Mine, not so much.

You don't know what it took to make that woman let go of her "perm"........she mostly agreed because chemical burns were causing her to bald. She KNEW she needed to shave everything off and couldn't tell me I didn't know anything because mines was growing and her's was not. She didn't want to do anything and I had to do it all. She only started taking care of her hair when she saw results. Good Old Mama...

 

[robot.]

I would have been so mad. I REALLY hate that black people have these bad views about our hair, skin, etc. Hundreds of years later and people still think the same way.

Right? I was like... How could you even say that? The most important people in your life are BLACK. I was really taken aback.

I guess I can't say that I'm really surprised. When it comes to dating, I think he might be colorstruck. He's made some off the wall comments before.

Oh, well. His sister is natural and now is his girlfriend. He'll get to learn first hand how naturally fly black women are.

 

[cocoaluv]

I over a hundred dollars hidden in my house as emergency money just for HAIR. Not hair products but actual hair.


When people talk to me I am usually staring at their hair and am usually wondering "woah what the hell is going on on top of her head"

My mom pisses me off cuz her hair grows FAST as hell and she doesn't even appreciate it!!!! She finds it annoying and use to just cut cut cut.

My aunt told me not to go natural because my hair is too thick ( aka nappy/bad as hell). If it were anyone else I'd be offended but she wears a matted weave and the hair under her weave is even worse.

I cut off a good chunk of hair due to my transition and impatience but now other than braids I have no clue what I can do. Cuz I will NOT wear a TWA. My head is too big.

I have almost gotten into numerous car accidents because at stop signs ( and also while driving.........) I flip down the visor and stare at my new growth. I have to stop.

Putting braids in my hair is a great help. Even though I cant stand fake hair it is stopping me from tugging at my new growth for awhile.

 

[isabella09]

I confess that prior to hair forums I have never encountered and yet to understand good hair (for me good hair means healthy hair) vs bad hair (for me bad hair means damaged hair) or hair typing erplexed. Beautiful hair has always been just that to me regardless of the type (wasn’t even aware of a typing system until I started researching hair boards).

Honestly, with all that’s going on in the world I’m often perplexed as to why these topics, which I view as part of the same spectrum, seem to factor to any degree of importance to some peoples school of thought?! Its just hair....Just go out with your beautiful self, fabulous hair and rock your world!