butterfly_wings
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Hi Ladies
How do you feel about your SO having female friends? I ask because my SO and I have a mutual friend, initially we met at a community event, I swapped numbers with her and he swapped numbers with her male friend. There was some confusion one day when we were all going out and he text the guy thinking it was him and it turned out that it was her number. Ever since then they talk on the phone and text, I usually it about her poetry and she is starting to dabble in that and he has been encouraging her.
It was my birthday this week and I wanted to go out to a club as I haven’t been out in a little while and I thought it would be nice, initially I was going with some of my friends, my SO possible his bro as it was his bday too and this mutual friend. SO and I fell out and I decided that I wanted it to be a girly night and he can go out elsewhere with his brother. I text our mutual friend to let her know the times. She called me (mu phone was on silent) then called him during a ‘discussion’ I said (in haste) oh well you have her and go out with her, meaning she would go out with him and his bro (bro and her have been spending time together but they are just friends), then he decided to go and tell her what I just said.
I am annoyed because I feel that as his fiancé she should respect the fact that what we say between us whether it is in lover or anger it should be between us. I feel that this chick knows my business.
She text me to say sorry she didn’t mean to cause any trouble and she will delete his number. I don’t want this as they are good friends, she is young and I guess she doesn’t fully understand a couples boundaries.
Did I handle it wrong, is what I said/done wrong?
Thanks, sorry it is so long
How do you feel about your SO having female friends? I ask because my SO and I have a mutual friend, initially we met at a community event, I swapped numbers with her and he swapped numbers with her male friend. There was some confusion one day when we were all going out and he text the guy thinking it was him and it turned out that it was her number. Ever since then they talk on the phone and text, I usually it about her poetry and she is starting to dabble in that and he has been encouraging her.
It was my birthday this week and I wanted to go out to a club as I haven’t been out in a little while and I thought it would be nice, initially I was going with some of my friends, my SO possible his bro as it was his bday too and this mutual friend. SO and I fell out and I decided that I wanted it to be a girly night and he can go out elsewhere with his brother. I text our mutual friend to let her know the times. She called me (mu phone was on silent) then called him during a ‘discussion’ I said (in haste) oh well you have her and go out with her, meaning she would go out with him and his bro (bro and her have been spending time together but they are just friends), then he decided to go and tell her what I just said.
I am annoyed because I feel that as his fiancé she should respect the fact that what we say between us whether it is in lover or anger it should be between us. I feel that this chick knows my business.
She text me to say sorry she didn’t mean to cause any trouble and she will delete his number. I don’t want this as they are good friends, she is young and I guess she doesn’t fully understand a couples boundaries.
Did I handle it wrong, is what I said/done wrong?
Thanks, sorry it is so long