Yes, she is indian.... I can't get my mind around it. I guess it is the culture, but wow... what if she hated the guy?
Yes, she is indian.... I can't get my mind around it. I guess it is the culture, but wow... what if she hated the guy?
Arranged marriages have been going on for a very long time, the problem I see with this is when people of that culture move to the US and try to carry own this tradition while assimilating to our culture at the same time. One of my friends from High school is Indian and has been dating this black guy for over 6 years. They are so much in love, but her family will completely disown her if they even knew she was dating him let alone thinking of marrying him. She doesn't want to dishonor her family so it is very disheartening to watch her have to sneak off to be with him and lie to her parents.
Because she is getting older her parents are now considering arranging a marriage for her. I feel so sorry for this poor girl and I don't know what I would do in this situation.
Arranged marriages have been going on for a very long time, the problem I see with this is when people of that culture move to the US and try to carry own this tradition while assimilating to our culture at the same time. One of my friends from High school is Indian and has been dating this black guy for over 6 years. They are so much in love, but her family will completely disown her if they even knew she was dating him let alone thinking of marrying him. She doesn't want to dishonor her family so it is very disheartening to watch her have to sneak off to be with him and lie to her parents.
Because she is getting older her parents are now considering arranging a marriage for her. I feel so sorry for this poor girl and I don't know what I would do in this situation.
I can't understand it either, so I asked a former co-worker (male) that had an arranged marriage. He'd lived in the US since he was a kid and his wife was stright from India. He never seemed happy about it. Never talked about his wife, no pictures, NOTHING. So I asked him if he loves her (they'd been married for about 10 years at that time), he said "No, love will come later, I guess". He said it wasn't about love, but about making a good impression. Something about a family if frowned upon if their son or daughter is of a certain age and not married.