My bestfriend's hair

[Peachez2503]

My bestfriend\'s hair

My bestfriends hair has been coming out a lot in the back. She thought it was because she hates to comb her hair, and she only combs it about two or three times a week. When she told her stylist about it she said to her "You're waiting to long to get your relaxers so you need to start coming in every 4 weeks". I wanted to tell her that she is just trying to get your money more often, and its not good to get chemicals put in your hair so soon after another, but I didn't say it. When I use to get my hair done at the salon they told me that I needed to come in there every 4 weeks also or my hair will start coming out. I don't go to the salon anymore and I wait 8weeks and my hair doesn't start coming out. I think it a trick to them getting your money more often. What do ya'll think about this situation?

 

[joyous]

Re: My bestfriend\'s hair

If her hair is coming out she definitely doesn't need to relax more often and every 4 weeks is a definite no-no. I don't know what to recommend because I would need to know more. How often does she relax? Does her stylist do a strand test? How long does her stylist leave the relaxer on? Does she base her scalp? Is she oeverlapping? Does she protect the rest of her hair when she relaxes? Is she keeping her hair moisturized? There are many things which could be causing this.

 

[Peachez2503]

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Hmm when I talk to her today I'm going to ask her those questions. I know she wont know if she's overlapping or if she's protecting the rest of her hair, but I will ask her the rest.

 

[Pumpkin]

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Not only the stylist, but how is your friend caring for her hair herself. Is she washing at least once a week? What kind of shampoos/conditioners is she using? How are her eating habits? What type of relaxer is she using?

 

[Peachez2503]

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I don't know any of the answers to your questions except for one. She said she read in a magazine that it's not good to wash your hair every 1 or 2 weeks, because thats to soon. So I guess she washes every 3 weeks.

 

[joyous]

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I really think that is unhealthy. In order for hair to be healthy your scalp and hair must be clean. I notice that when my hair or scalp is dirty it starts to break. That could very well be the problem. What I mean by protecting before she relaxes, is a lot of the ladies coat their hair before relaxing in order to avoid damage to the previously relaxed hair.

 

[Cami]

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I agree that 4 wks is way too soon to relax the hair. I would ask ??s in regards to her hair care routine and what she does on a daily basis. Does she use heat everyday?

 

[Peachez2503]

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I don't think she uses heat everyday.

 

[Stormy]

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Peachez you said..."I wanted to tell her that she is just trying to get your money more often, and its not good to get chemicals put in your hair so soon after another, but I didn't say it."

Why didn't you say it?

If she's your BEST friend you should tell her what your experiences are. I know you probably don't want to hurt her feelings or maybe she'll think you don't know what you're talking about because you're not an expert, but I wouldn't hold back. If she's telling you about her hair she will most likely welcome any advice you give. If not, then she doesn't need to tell you her hair problems. Just my opinion.

 

[Peachez2503]

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Even If I tell her she is still going to go to the salon, because I don't think her mom knows how to take care of her hair.

 

[Peachtree]

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My bestfriends hair has been coming out a lot in the back. She thought it was because she hates to comb her hair, and she only combs it about two or three times a week.

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Yeah, every month is tooooo much. That's 12 chemical treatments a yr

that's faaaar too many.

What type of comb does she use? I have a wide tooth comb, but I've read where members have combs that are both wide & seamless.

I hate to comb my hair too, so I understand where she's coming from there... but when she's not combing it, is she still keeping it moisturized? Does she cover it at night? Sleeping on a cotton pillowcase will sure rob your hair of moisture nightly.

Hook her up Peachez... tell her about "CO" washes. I would hate to see her go in for a touchup with hair that's already chemically weak & brittle. She needs to wait until her strands are stronger & more pliable. I have this lil analogy that I tell my "kitchen clients"

.... this is the shorter version... your hair strands are like a plant's leaf...if the leaf becomes "dry" & u hold it in your hands to bend it a bit, it'll start to "crunch" from the dryness. If it's "completely dried out" & u touch it, it would just break from the pressure of the touch alone... much like the hair. So IMO, girl friend needs what I like to call "A BLAST OF MOISTURE". Once that moisture is balanced, then her strands should not break off as easily. Then also it'll be able to handle a touchup....BUT CERTAINLY NOT EVERY DANGGONE 4 WEEKS

... "Mo' Money, Mo' Money, Mo' Money"

may be the stylists intent...

Just my lil 2 cents... I may be wrong though

..

 

[Stormy]

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Yes conditioner washes are very good too. The key is moisture and less stress. At least for me it is. But by all means recommend to her not to go to the hair stylist every 4 weeks even if it's up to her mother. At least if you say it then she can mention it to her mother and it will give them both something to think about. As long as she keeps it moisturized (a good spray moisturizer or something that mostly consists of water) her hair should stop coming out and should strengthen up. Leave in conditioners, carrot oil...has she tried any of these?

 

[Stormy]

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Oh and one more thing...when I used to go to the hair stylist every 4-5 weeks, THAT was the reason my hair kept breaking off. It thinned out and was weak. All hair stylists told me to get my touch ups that often and they were wrong! So Peachtree (and you) are right! "Mo'Money! Mo'Money! Mo'Money!"

 

[Peachez2503]

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I know she sleeps on a cotton pillow, but Im not sure if she covers her hair up. She hasn't tried carrol oil nor leave in conditioners.

 

[Peachez2503]

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What does IMO mean?

 

[UmSumayyah]

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imo= "in my opinion"

 

[hairfanatic]

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Every 4 weeks? That's definately a lot of relaxing the beautician is talking about doing. If your friend allows her to do this she will definately have overprocessed hair. The thing she can do now is to take four weeks to rebuild and moisturize the hair with washing and conditioning and roller setting is she isn't already doing it.

 

[joyous]

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If her mom insists on sending her to a salon she should find a new one that won't abuse her hair. Someone who is really into healthy hair care. It may take some doing but it can be done. Pay attention to how a stylist handles your hair. If they use to much heat, etc. But also remember healthy hair care first starts at home. You have to maintain your crowning glory in between salon visits.