movingforward13
I do what I want...
So I hear all the time that you and your guy should be on the same page about children. Well since the beginning, I have asked mine if he wanted more kids. At first he was like yeah and even discussed us having a little girl together in a teasing manner.... but now that answer has changed to an "I don't know". I would love to have one more child after marriage but it isn't a deal breaker- I already have 2 and my oldest is soon to be an adult. But for that same reason, if I do have another, I would like it to be soon (within the next 3 years)- for a number of reasons.
Trying to get him to discuss it though is sensitive. His daughter has autism (moderate to severe) and he told me that he thinks he is the reason why- something is wrong with his sperm. He has a cousin that has autism so he thinks it is on his families side. So I know he is concerned about having another child with disability. But on the same token, he has mentioned wanting a son. He said that he won't decide until after he (we?) get married- but I am not sure if that is the right idea. He sounds more excited about being a husband versus being a father again, honestly.
WWYD or how would you approach this? I don't mind dropping it but I don't want year later for him to have that regret because he wasn't sure on what he wanted.
Trying to get him to discuss it though is sensitive. His daughter has autism (moderate to severe) and he told me that he thinks he is the reason why- something is wrong with his sperm. He has a cousin that has autism so he thinks it is on his families side. So I know he is concerned about having another child with disability. But on the same token, he has mentioned wanting a son. He said that he won't decide until after he (we?) get married- but I am not sure if that is the right idea. He sounds more excited about being a husband versus being a father again, honestly.
WWYD or how would you approach this? I don't mind dropping it but I don't want year later for him to have that regret because he wasn't sure on what he wanted.